Premarital Sex, Yes or No? Options

[psychoticangel]

Okai so I'm not sure if this is where this topic should belong buh.. was just browsing the place and the thought came to mind. I was brought up in a conservative home within a conservative community, and well, basically the answer is no for me. Just wanted to see what you guys think ~ ^.^

[tkproduce]

look what happened to britney ever since she said she won't have sex before marriage

[thedilenquent]

its not ok because its in the bible and blah blah blah but people do it anyway so... yea

[xquizit]

I had been having sex since I was 16 and I've recently decided to become a born again virgin because the bible says that that is God's intention. Sex is God's gift and it is not meant to be used until you find that perfect partner and after you are married.

So I say, no, premarital sex is not ok. And I think two people can be even more intimate and more trusting of each other if they hold off on sex. Once sex comes into the picture, all these problems and trust issues start coming up... it's not worth it... plus it's probably a message from God that you're doing something wrong.

[tkproduce]

but i hear stories where people have made promises not to have sex till they get married and then, after they got married and had sex once, one of them didn't like it (usually the woman) and never wanted to have sex again and so his/her partner's sex life was ruined for the rest of their lives (unless they got divorced or had affairs that is)

[xquizit]

but i hear stories where people have made promises not to have sex till they get married and then, after they got married and had sex once, one of them didn't like it (usually the woman) and never wanted to have sex again and so his/her partner's sex life was ruined for the rest of their lives (unless they got divorced or had affairs that is)

i dunno... that sounds a little crazy. i think when 2 people are in love, the sex should be good regardless of performance, because it's the intimacy and the emotions that matter most and what makes sex good. besides, if it was really that bad, they could always practice at it... i'm sure no one is that good their first time.

[*krnxswat*]

Answers vary depending on person's beliefs. Well for me, the answer is no.

[*Podomaht*]

for me, who cares?

i mean, i personally think its wrong, but thats just me. live life how you want to live.

[tkproduce]

i think when 2 people are in love, the sex should be good regardless of performance

unfortunately, that isn't the case... I've heard a lot of people who, although they "love" their wife/husband, their sex-life is a "bore"

but yea, it really depends on what you believe, but what one believes isn't always what others believe

[*eunie03*]

I don't believe you should go through a ceremony just to have sex. If you really truly honestly without-a-doubt know that you're gonna marry that person when you're "old enough" anyway... I believe any time can be the right time for the first... time. (I need a broader vocabulary )

Edit: Okay, WHO answered "moo o.o" -.-;;

[tkproduce]

blame psychoticangel for putting that as one of the choices in the first place. lol

[CloudUnionX]

Moo.

[silver]

In my opinion it's wrong
And it sucks for the girls if they get pregnant, so I dont think its worth the risk

[silver-rain]

I don't think it's right, but it really depends on the two people, and if they're ready or not.

[peanutbutterbbb]

no, just because everyone does it doesnt mean that its ok for you to do it

[noaccounthere]

Being catholic... and going through about... 10 years of religion courses and even taking Christian Ethics as my Fall semester class which im taking right now. We've learned that Premarital sex isnt the right choice.

Its not only about your religion or your faith, but what is right. Saving sex for marriage is a good choice because it protects you from being trapped into having sex with someone who isnt true to you, who wont be commited to be with you.

[xquizit]

In my opinion it's wrong
And it sucks for the girls if they get pregnant, so I dont think its worth the risk

good point. There's also AIDS and STDs. Using protection is never 100% effective against pregnancy or diseases.

Not worth the risk....

Plus a girl's gotta deal with so much stress and paranoia when they "skip" a month. There's enough stress in a teenager's life with school, and friends, and relationships... they shouldn't have to worry about having a baby.

[phanaticalazn21]

YEA!!!!!!!

[LuShuZxLaNa]

I had been having sex since I was 16 and I've recently decided to become a born again virgin because the bible says that that is God's intention. Sex is God's gift and it is not meant to be used until you find that perfect partner and after you are married.

So I say, no, premarital sex is not ok. And I think two people can be even more intimate and more trusting of each other if they hold off on sex. Once sex comes into the picture, all these problems and trust issues start coming up... it's not worth it... plus it's probably a message from God that you're doing something wrong.

i 2nd what you said... on the second paragraph. I mean if they hold off sex until marriage, then their love for one another is like a whole new level rather than the ones who've had sex before marriage.

[*jimmyjackiechan*]

So many people fall into tempation~

[PBlaze187]

iv been in a relationship for 3 years and we waited to have sex till this year....i know were gonna get married shes moving in with me and were both going to the same college and i doubt theres anyone out there for me ....i guess its all on the situation ...if your really religous then u wait ....im not so i didnt....

[tkproduce]

i don't see why people have to get married in the first place. i'm fully aware that what i've just said has shocked most of the female romanticists, but surely, marriage is just a bunch of paperwork, and just because you've had a ceremony and signed a few papers shouldn't really make you "love" your partner even more than before. If a couple gets on well enough without getting married and lives happily ever after, surely that's just as beautiful as any other married couple doing the same thing. Marriage is just an agreement made by the law - that's what I sometimes think anyway.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

So many people fall into tempation~

That's true. I don't think it's ok, but I don't think it's bad either. Some people have sex though, and they're too young or immature to realize what a big deal it is. I personally believe that you should hold off on sex... although I didn't sometimes I wish i did

[froggie_van]

Premarital sex shouldn't be okay... but everybody's doing it anyways.

[xjjajeengx]

well, im a beeleever in not having sex till marriage. but in my case, i dont want to be married... i dont want to have kids... and so im just going to chose who cares. i mean.,.. its for us ourselves to decide if we want to or not, despite its God's word not to have sex till marriage. i mean, God does not force us to do what he wants.... its our choice. so yea... haha

as a matter of fact, i think sex is the most nastiest unreasonable thing... and please dont bash at me for saying this. i noe someone is going to say something like its cause i dont noe or something, but in my opinion, i would never go through so much pain making love, and i would never make love period. i mean, i think its awesome that people can show so much intimacy with it, but for me, im just disgusted in thinking at all about sex. and also, its just... ergh ahhaha cant explain my feelings for this thing. its like... my feeling are...

yep aha

[fragrance]

its all on how you are brought up.
if u're a strict follower of The Bible, then no, premarital sex is ok.
but considering how there're many other religions and what not,
there's no certain answer.

who's to say what's really right or wrong?
what do we really base our morals and ethics on?
just know what you're getting urself into
and if ur thinking of premarital sex, use a helmet.

[phanaticalazn21]

who knows

[*jimmyjackiechan*]

i think the votes are gonna come in mostly no, but it's easier for every one to say no than to actually do it. it's like smokers, u know darn well it's bad, but people still do it~

[k00alah]

i think that its ok just as long as both are doing it for LOVE and not for LUST.. talking about it before doing something is a great idea too.. you have to know if the other person is ready and most importantly if you are ready yourself..

[S0ULd0UT]

well to me, "WHO CARES"
if dey are fine with it, go ahead. xP

[aud_chua]

well.. it's kinda "iffy" because different people have different beliefs and backgrounds...
imho, if people really love each other and consent to it, then it's fine.. but if it's coerced, then no.

[ana8]

At least for me it's OK even tho I'm a Catholic...If there's love and trust I don't see a reason why not try sex..

[xquizit]

the reason not to try it is because there are risks involved...

Pregnancy
STDs
AIDS

There are thousands of cases for pregnancies and STD's every year. Mainly because people are not being responsible for their actions... and then abortions come in... which could have been prevented if they hadn't been having sex too soon in the first place. And as I said earlier, no form of birth control is 100% effective except for abstinence.

So I say, if you think you're ready for sex... you should also feel that you're ready to have a child... in case that does happen. If not, then I don't think you're ready, and obviously shouldn't be having sex yet.

[tkproduce]

the reason not to try it is because there are risks involved...

Pregnancy
STDs
AIDS

There are thousands of cases for pregnancies and STD's every year. Mainly because people are not being responsible for their actions... and then abortions come in... which could have been prevented if they hadn't been having sex too soon in the first place. And as I said earlier, no form of birth control is 100% effective except for abstinence.

So I say, if you think you're ready for sex... you should also feel that you're ready to have a child... in case that does happen. If not, then I don't think you're ready, and obviously shouldn't be having sex yet.

so i guess you've slightly changed your argument from "premaritial sex is wrong" to "sex without thinking about the consequences is wrong". I'm not sure about the first one, but I agree with the latter

[*AngelicEyz00*]

If you're gonna have sex, then do it, but at least be smart about it and make sure you're doing it for the right reasons (if there are any "right" reasons ). Do you really love the person? Do you feel you're ready to go through with it? Are you prepeared for any consequences? Will you handle it responsively? etc..

[ana8]

I understand that there are risks involved..So if I don't wanna have a child EVER then I shouldn't be having sex at all, xquizit??

[tkproduce]

I understand that there are risks involved..So if I don't wanna have a child EVER then I shouldn't be having sex at all, xquizit??

That's what SHE believes. I'm not saying it's right or wrong. Do what you think is right for yourself and your partner.

[LuShuZxLaNa]

i don't see why people have to get married in the first place. i'm fully aware that what i've just said has shocked most of the female romanticists, but surely, marriage is just a bunch of paperwork, and just because you've had a ceremony and signed a few papers shouldn't really make you "love" your partner even more than before. If a couple gets on well enough without getting married and lives happily ever after, surely that's just as beautiful as any other married couple doing the same thing. Marriage is just an agreement made by the law - that's what I sometimes think anyway.

are you trying to say that a "title" is just a bunch of crock? i'm not getting mad or anything because i've heard this before.

[LuShuZxLaNa]

So many people fall into tempation~

yeah, people do fall in temptations, but you know, they AT LEAST have to know when to stop. but even if they do have sex at an early age, i sure hope they protect themselves!!

[Phibby_kun]

I think it's wrong because when you do meet the "one" and you get married, it's so much more meaningful than if you were doing it previously.

Plus, what if you're stuck with a baby? Most of the time, you're on your own when it comes to that.

But also people believe what they like, so that's only my opinion.

[ana8]

I understand all of this..But when can you be sure that you met ur second half??? And as to marriages, more and more of them are conculed with divorce..

[xsnowxangelx425]

i think that u should wait. If u love them and they love u they should respect u enough to wait with u.

[espressive]

i'd rather not, considering i'm Christian and yea. but nowadays, evrybody seems 2 b doing it (u can't help but feel a lil bit intimidated!) i dunno, i'm gonna TRY and not hav sex be4 marriage but u nvr know....

[conair]

Sex is just a small part of any relationship. You gotta master the others before even thinking about it.

[Mireh]

I don't think its ok (and I am speaking for myself) to have sex before marraige. If you ARE gunna have sex before marraige, you should at least make sure the person is the one your gunna marry.

And me being religious person..yea...

and then theres the chance if you get pregnant...

*rambles on and on*

When you have sex with a person, its like giving a part of yourself to them (*being sappy and poetic*)

[cakalusa]

A-OK by moi!

[xquizit]

Sex is just a small part of any relationship. You gotta master the others before even thinking about it.

very true.

[*kryogenix*]

i don't see why people have to get married in the first place. i'm fully aware that what i've just said has shocked most of the female romanticists, but surely, marriage is just a bunch of paperwork, and just because you've had a ceremony and signed a few papers shouldn't really make you "love" your partner even more than before. If a couple gets on well enough without getting married and lives happily ever after, surely that's just as beautiful as any other married couple doing the same thing. Marriage is just an agreement made by the law - that's what I sometimes think anyway.

tax benefits, sign of loyalty, fidelity etc.

[tkproduce]

tax benefits, sign of loyalty, fidelity etc.

exactly. and who's going to know if that loyality/fidelity is actually true or not?

[xxaloha_oexx]

I had been having sex since I was 16 and I've recently decided to become a born again virgin because the bible says that that is God's intention. Sex is God's gift and it is not meant to be used until you find that perfect partner and after you are married.

So I say, no, premarital sex is not ok. And I think two people can be even more intimate and more trusting of each other if they hold off on sex. Once sex comes into the picture, all these problems and trust issues start coming up... it's not worth it... plus it's probably a message from God that you're doing something wrong.

isn't that kinda early to be having sex? whelp. i don't think you shood have it till after marraige, cuz then if you get pregnant or something...EEK!

[espressive]

isn't that kinda early to be having sex? whelp. i don't think you shood have it till after marraige, cuz then if you get pregnant or something...EEK!

Yea, i think it's even illegal if u have sex w/ somebody under the age of 18 and ur over 18 years old....?

Some people are blaming this on the school's teachings though. Lots of kids don't use protection when they have sex because the school teaches kids abstidence and don't teach them bout STDs and stuffz. Apparently 50% of people 15-20 have STD or sumthing like that. *gulps* That's scary...!

[*NatiMarie*]

I don't really think it's the school's fault...I mostly think it's the parent's fault. Most parents dont' really what their kids do and don't teach them the right ways. Like me, my mom has taught me stuff like that...well not really but she has taught me to have good morals and I have derived those morals from her teachings. It sucks how the blame goes to the school but then once again, it's the parent's fault. Hehe...but that's my opinion. I've been brought up to respect my body and not do stupid things so yeah, props to my parents bye!

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

if you have strong feelings for someone and decide to have sexual intercourse before marriage i think it's perfectly fine. it's a beautiful thing when shared with someone you love very much. sometimes watiing for marriage has it's consequences.. to be blunt .. what if the person you marry absolutely sucks in bed? there'd be one very unhappy camper..agreed? lol ;]

[*krnxswat*]

what if the person you marry absolutely sucks in bed? there'd be one very unhappy camper..agreed? lol ;]

You don't marry someone because they are good in bed. I know that's not what you are saying, but as for myself, I wouldn't really mind if my partner "sucked" in bed. Frankly, I'd prefer if it was her first time, too. But that's just me..

[*NatiMarie*]

You don't marry someone because they are good in bed. I know that's not what you are saying, but as for myself, I wouldn't really mind if my partner "sucked" in bed. Frankly, I'd prefer if it was her first time, too. But that's just me..

Ahh..that's so sweet. That's how all guys should think , in my opinion.

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

You don't marry someone because they are good in bed. I know that's not what you are saying, but as for myself, I wouldn't really mind if my partner "sucked" in bed. Frankly, I'd prefer if it was her first time, too. But that's just me..

awww hehe i think that's very sweet .. and true, if anything it can be worked upon after marriage .. and yes it would be much more meaningful if you know you were their first and ONE AND ONLY =] ..

[chelle]

i voted that it's okay but that's really a personal thing. i lost my virginity when i was 14. i COMPLETELY respect those who wait till they're married. if i had to do it over that's what i'd do. all sex brings is complications. lol. those who practice abstinence are very strong-willed people that i look up to. i don't look down on those who aren't virgins. and i don't look down on those who are. i'm really kind of neutral on this...

[chelle]

14..wow..thats young..

ur tellin me...

my older brother died when i was 14 and i was really upset and kind of went a little...well...---> and i had sex cuz i thought it'd make me feel better. if i had to do it over i wouldn't have done it but...you shouldn't dwell on the past.

[wayne]

I had been having sex since I was 16 and I've recently decided to become a born again virgin because the bible says that that is God's intention. Sex is God's gift and it is not meant to be used until you find that perfect partner and after you are married.

So I say, no, premarital sex is not ok. And I think two people can be even more intimate and more trusting of each other if they hold off on sex. Once sex comes into the picture, all these problems and trust issues start coming up... it's not worth it... plus it's probably a message from God that you're doing something wrong.

how the heck do you become a born again virgin? not to flame you or anything cause I would never do things like that, but I just wanna know.

[tkproduce]

how the heck do you become a born again virgin? not to flame you or anything cause I would never do things like that, but I just wanna know.

well, she's obviously gone through the consequences and decided that she doesn't want to have sex again before marriage. she didn't mean it literally

[*krnxswat*]

my older brother died when i was 14 and i was really upset and kind of went a little...well...---> and i had sex cuz i thought it'd make me feel better. if i had to do it over i wouldn't have done it but...you shouldn't dwell on the past.

There were many other options as well.. but yeah, you shouldn't dwell on the past.

[*Kathleen*]

Hmm...I said yeah, but I feel that a person should really think about what their doing before they make their final decision on it. As for me, I'm still a virgin, and I'm just waiting for "the one" if there is such a person...and yeah...it really comes down to the person. A lot of people aren't mature until their actually married and are ready for it, but there are people that can handle this and know/understand the consequences they'd face in doing so. Like I said, it really depends on the person...I dunno that's my opinion, at least.

[darkestdesire]

I say it is wrong because a lot of time when premarital sex occurs without the proper protection something totally unexpected thing happens. something you may not want to happen. You may not be ready. When you are married you should know you are ready. You shouldn't be doing something that you know will cause something you would not know how to handle. So i say premarital sex is a no no.

[Alk3]

I don't know.. I guess it depends on the person's situation. There are a ton of feelings that come along with having sex.. but I'm not sure if I'd be able to marry someone I have never been that close to.

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

it's easier said than done .. i have to admit when i was younger i'd constantly say i wanted to save it for the man i marry. however the temptation is very hard to overcome at times .. when you have strong feelings for someone you've been dating for a very long time it can just happen .. and i feel it's perfectly okay .. as long as you don't throw yourself around to everybody it isn't bad and it's a special and wonderful thing to share with someone you really care about ..

[*NatiMarie*]

I know...it's hard to resist temptations but then I still want to be strong and resist them. Just trying to find that special guy is what I'm waiting for...

[Madelein]

i say no

if the person loves u enough, he/she would have the patience to wait until marriage...

only then will you TRULY know he/she will wait the time for you


and also cuz u dunno if they have any STDs or anything...



just make the right choice of partner and be careful with your choices.... i mean, if anyone decides to do it....

[iloveyou07]

You don't marry someone because they are good in bed. I know that's not what you are saying, but as for myself, I wouldn't really mind if my partner "sucked" in bed. Frankly, I'd prefer if it was her first time, too. But that's just me..

aww i agree

[iheartsimba]

im christion...but it still sorta depends to me.
you jjust gotta ask...
is it love?
I would do it if I was in love, before or after marrige.
But dont forget guys, SAFE SEX ;]

[*AngelicEyz00*]

What age do you think it's too young to have sex? (and don't say until the age you're married=\)

[tkproduce]

What age do you think it's too young to have sex? (and don't say until the age you're married=\)

age of sexual consent in england is 16. In the States, it varies from about 16 to about 18 depending on the state. that's the law, so I guess you stick with it unless you want to break it

[espressive]

I know...it's hard to resist temptations but then I still want to be strong and resist them. Just trying to find that special guy is what I'm waiting for...

exactly how i feel...

[AlwayzADreamur]

well people really shouldent.. but since people still are gunna. and u cant help it, i guess people think it is ok to do it.. but rilly it aint. and then ur stuck wiff a kid when ur onlee 15 or 17... now how are u gunna pay for dat ?

[Madelein]

What age do you think it's too young to have sex? (and don't say until the age you're married=\)

probably when your old enough to face the possible consequences....

[Princess_sarsa]

wow what a hot hot hot topic. lol. neways. i think that its a personal decision, and some ppl rush into it. it should not be taken lighty, but i dun think that waiting till mariaage is always the best idea

[chelle]

There were many other options as well..

once your older brother has been burned to death at the age of 18 when you're only 14 and in 8th grade, then maybe i'll listen to your comments...

[*krnxswat*]

once your older brother has been burned to death at the age of 18 when you're only 14 and in 8th grade, then maybe i'll listen to your comments...

Too bad I'm past 14 already, and I don't have an older brother.

[chelle]

Too bad I'm past 14 already, and I don't have an older brother.

exactly my point...

[likethestardust]

im really glad most of you guys realize what God wants you to do and why He wants you to live your life that way! awesome guys!

[*krnxswat*]

exactly my point...

Too bad you didn't get my point.

[Ju_CHaN]

I'm a Christian and as all you people know, it's against the Bible to have sex before marriage. Well I would say that God would know if premarital sex were good or bad.

There are so many consequenses to having sex before marriage like AIDs, STDs, Pregnancy, etc.

Your friends, and people you know could even start thinking about you differently. And how do you know that this person isn't just trying to take advantage of you? And if you get pressured by them, why would you have sex with them in the first place?

And if you're aware of all of these things, why WOULD you still have sex before marriage. I strongly believe in saving your virginity to the one and only whom you truly love.

[*krnxswat*]

There are so many consequenses to having sex before marriage like AIDs, STDs, Pregnancy, etc.

I agree with everything you said, but you can still get AIDS, STDs, etc after having sex after marriage.

[visualfusion]

yes, but you'll have someone there with you... wont you?

[*krnxswat*]

yes, but you'll have someone there with you... wont you?

But that doesn't mean just because you get AIDs, STDs or whatever from having permarital sex, that they'll leave you. That's not always the case.

[espressive]

I agree with everything you said, but you can still get AIDS, STDs, etc after having sex after marriage.

Yea true, but there's more of a chance that ur spouse would tell you about such things(if they know they have it) then a stranger would...

[chelle]

Too bad you didn't get my point.

no i did. you were saying that there were many other ways to deal with my brother's death then sex. but what i was saying was that's easy for you to say since you haven't been through it. don't get me wrong. i do believe it was the wrong thing to do and i could have done something else but i had already typed that. all you did was restate something that i already admitted that i knew. as if you were judging me or something. i hope you never have to experience that... next time just try to put yourself in others' shoes and remember that if you haven't experienced it "personally" then you really have no grounds to tell them what they "should" or "should not" have done...

[xislandxstylex]

i believe in abstinence

[MaDxCowZ]

wth is premlalniebailnt sex?

[poisonedxivy]

i say no. if you wait till your married then it'll be special and worth something. not just like a fling or and action based on a fickle crush~ i guess its highest gift that you can give to your spouse to be ^^ LOL~

[soadturner]

I say its ok, but not smart: getting a girl pregnant is not a good thing before marrige, and STDS are pretty prelevant today

But im not one to judge if one has sex before marrige

[KoN_FyOo_aZn]

If they want to do that then yea

[Just_Dream]

If you know what you're getting yourself into and you are comfortable with it and are WARE of the risks, then it's okay. It's a freedom of choice, and if one gets pregnant by having sex with someone, its their own fault for doing it in the first place. It's better to wait because you don't want to give it away to someone you don't love. I know people who really regretted doing it O_o"

[xjjajeengx]

wth is premlalniebailnt sex?

you mean premartial sex? its sex before you get married.

[frozenstar]

I dont believe in sex b4 marriage cuz u shouldnt give up ur virginity to someone who isnt the right one for u

[melface]

I believe in it... your choice...

i think sex is overrated.

[dani41790]

hmm personally i think no.

[euroFUSION]

I'm an atheist, but even I believe that intercourse should wait until after marriage. It's only fair to your spouse, that is, if they're still a virgin as well. But either way, I just think it's right to wait.

[xquizit]

dam girl, you are my new role model. you put everything in perfect words.

I agree. Premarital sex - no. and doing other sexual things to others - no. you do that with your spouse. damm man, keep your hands to yourself. no, omg, ok keep your hands away from others AND yourself. put your hands up. keep em where i can see em.

oh and plus. your spouse is gonna be like what?!?!? and he/she is going to have a mad fit for like days, but they wont tell you. you'll know when theres no spooning going on at night. hahaaaaaa

[phatty]

i'll have sex when i find my perfect mate...my husband

[mznina]

i like spooning..