christianity n sex Options

[carmi96]

im roman catholic n im NOT gna hav sex til im married. i know its an abominable sin but i really dont understand y we cant, wat makes it so bad. i need an answer 4 sum1 hu is more religiously together as i am i asked my friends and they didnt even kno y. i wuld ask sum1 smarter say..my parents, my priest buttt theyd juss get suspicious n id be embarassed. can any1 help me out?

[xxdaydreamer143]

im christian and im kinda againt premarital sex...the reason why the people in our religion say it is wrong (i dont wanna say the bible says its wrong because there are alotta arguments to that) is because a woman's virginity is suppose to be kind of like a sacred gift to her husband...when god made adam and eve..one of eve's "punishment" was to only desire her husband, adam. so its only right (in my opinion) to save yourself for your husband to show how much you really love him...of course you gotta find someone who wont leave you and is faithful to u...someone worth saving yourself for.

[Oreo_bro]

I want to wait for marriage because i agree that your virginity is something u can only give once and never give again, and u should save it in my opinion for the one u love.

Besides, if u need sex in your relationship to keep it going then somethings wrong

[*Weird addiction*]

i have no idea too....who cares!! im no virgin tho

[Heathasm]

just ask your parents....its not as bad as you think it will be so dont be so scared

in my opinion theres nothing wrong with having sex....who cares if its before or after marriage? i dont! and my husband wont.

[MusicalAngel]

Ok... the easiest way to explain this is... if you had sex before marriage, there is an emotional bond that goes with it. Just like you will never forget your first love, you're never going to forget your first sexual partner either. (And if you say that you're positive you're going to marry this dude, so what's the big deal? How do you know what the future brings? I've seen many many many people break up after long engagements... just keep that in mind) So after you have your first love, and after you have your first sexual partner, in a sense you give a piece of your heart away to them. Think about it. You will never forget about them, from time to time, you'll even think about them. Is that going to be fair to your husband? When you get married, don't you want to be able to give your WHOLE heart to him and only think about those memories ABOUT him? How special do you want sex to be with the person you marry? How much do you want to be "the one" with him or her- instead of five or eighteen or thirty? It's easy to say "I love you". But only "I do" says you're really one, for always.

God just wants you to save your whole self for your husband and most importantly, God wants you to save yourself for HIM. He put you on Earth to serve HIM and to do good for the glory of God. Does that make sense? He wants you to remain pure until you are ready for sex. And until then, you can fill up your time serving Him. The temptation that you feel when you want to have sex, is Satan's work. Don't give into temptation. Instead, fill your heart and soul with God's words and work to serve him better. If you have any questions, objections, comments, you can PM me if you like.

For those of you who disagree because of some reasons of your own, I just wanna say, that with this topic, there is no way to please everyone. And i'm telling her what I, as a Christian, was taught. I'm just responding to her question. So, if you disagree or dont' like my answer or whatnot.... don't read it then please. Because this was not meant to offend anyone nor was it meant to please anyone. It was meant to answer her question. Point blank.

[royalfreshness]

Wtf "hu"??

[ghjgfkgfk]

you can still be have religion, but you don't have to agree with every part of it.

i think the whole 'save sex for marriage' is bullshit. you don't have to have a slip of paper to 'make it okay to have sex'. the feeling is there and you don't need a slip of paper to prove it. marriage doesn't mean ANYTHING anymore.

it's a organ, not a damn flower.
i hate religion.
/end rant

[literemix24]

ermm..even tho i'm a virgin..lols i don't dink tha it rele matters..i mean..either way you're gunnah have it..o.O

[jambaJUICE]

BECAUSE our church believes that SEX is used for one reason. To reproduce kids.

AND SEX is the last step in marriage. The reason for marriage is to have two people [man and woman] engage in a blah blah life with each other.

Which is also why our church looks down upon Gay/Lesbians. They dont hate them, its just that, you cant make a baby with two people of the same sex.

and all that good stuff muscial angel said.

[faithin_felix]

exactly, why not? if you're horny, just go for it. lol
naa....i don't know...hmm, just some god thing, i am not christian but i believe in god...so yea, maybe i'll agree with this.

[MusicalAngel]

Jamba juice brings a really good point to. It's not really FOR marriage. Sex is for procreation

[capsule]

waiting till after you get married....religion aside, its also good practice.

[Oreo_bro]

waiting till after you get married....religion aside, its also good practice.

I LOVE YOUR SIG!




Anyways, i also think that if u have sex before marriage, it sorta takes out the specialness of having it. A lot of good points where made, like giving your heart to a sex partner then having it break, sex with ur hubby should be special, just do it after marriage..etc...but i mean, come on...if you have sex like..50 times before u get marride *sounds like a big number right? oen of my friends has has sex 50 times with her bf, if not more, they do it ALOT* and u marry some oen who has never done it, k this will be a big thing for him but if its not that big of a deal for you then i mean...will he enjoy it as much if your not putting out like..100% excitment or somethin?

i dunno..to me sex should be saved but some people dont so yea

[*Expresseggroll*]

You gotta ask your self this...

I think its the way for the religion to make sure u have more "Catholic" babies to follow in the religion. they don't want u having sex and having babies of "other religions" now...

I dunno~

[dreamerOi]

i dont think theyrs anything wrong with waiting or not wiaing. i just want to have sex with someone i love or someone i will marry or are married too. meaning one has to connect to the other. anyways also because if the condom/birthcontrol/etc breaks/doesntw rork/etc and you have a baby you want it with someone who will be theyr for you and can help you take care of it instead or abandoning/tells you to get an abortion tyupea person.

[eleni]

i totally agree with the concept of having no sex before marraige. and im so freakin glad that i've found ppl that have the same veiws! yay! lol the truth is that its hard.. to keep reminding yourself that you want and are compelled to wait. just make the people around you aware. and hopefully they won't push you anymore. but u know its so hard being hott! lol jk
eleni

[ghjgfkgfk]

BECAUSE our church believes that SEX is used for one reason. To reproduce kids.

AND SEX is the last step in marriage. The reason for marriage is to have two people [man and woman] engage in a blah blah life with each other.

Which is also why our church looks down upon Gay/Lesbians. They dont hate them, its just that, you cant make a baby with two people of the same sex.

and all that good stuff muscial angel said.

there are many married couples who are not ready for a kid.

[captured_serenit...]

SEX, is COMMON SENSE.
You have to know that it's something that has to be taken to the next level and it's just something that teens abuse because they think it's supposed to be for fun, but it's something take to serious too, because its a part of you that you don't want anyone to take away because it's something special trust me, i lost mine already but i'm still with the same guy that i lost it too, because we took our relationship and friendship to the next level, but when i lost it to him i felt as if i wanted it back, but i already lost it so, it's something you can't get back, just be careful on who you want to give it too, because it's really special, i dont know how to explain but i know from experience.
you have to be sure you want to do what you want, because it will affect you in the future.

[Shattered_Hope]

theres nothing wrong with it...if u dont regret doing it..i mean it is sin..but we all sin....and yes, i am a christian....but as long as you do it for love and not vanity...or anything like that...He will Forgive....He always does...

[AsianUniQ]

I guess we would want a fresh fruit, you cant loose your virginity becasue you'd really want your kids to be pure.? and besides, accidents could happen. i didnt think it would be bad if u had sex b4 marriage, if you dont sin with sex b4 marriage, chances are, you sin in other things otherwise. I guess in evolution of men, thats the basis of living.........reproduction. I wouldnt call it a sin.

[whywasisostupid]

im not of any relgion so i never realy learned this....


i dont think its a sin to lose ur viginity b4 ur married becuz its like not ur fault if u have sex. well maybe just a little, but sometimes it just happen intentionally.


i dont kno what i am saying

[Raleigh]

Im not having sex till marriage and its not because of religious beliefs. I just dont wanna do it till im married

[OoONyFlipOOO]

Yo i am christian.

Well me and ma gurl been goin for almos about a year and we have no problem. You gotta learn to deal with temptaions. Cause it is a sin having sex before y'all are married juss sumthin to think about. I go to church as much as possible when i am not busy with other things. I try to make as much time for church as i can.

Last week we were talkin about this very subject.

Just ask yourself these questions, If you every feel tempted to do sumthing.

1. How would i feel with jesus looking over ma shoulder?
2.How would i feel if jesus was accompaning me?
3. How you would feel if jesus walked in.

If your answers are negative towards any of these i guess its not the right thing to do.

Hey get back to me and lemme no watcha y'all think?

[ghjgfkgfk]

1. How would i feel with jesus looking over ma shoulder?
2.How would i feel if jesus was accompaning me?
3.  How you would feel if jesus walked in.

how would jesus feel if i told him he sucks?

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i'm sorry, but people like you are the reason that is why i'm SO GLAD i'm not a christian, or anything for that matter. glad that i don't have to worry or believe in anything but myself. glad that i don't live my life how someone else wants me too.
religion sucks and blows.

[angelbaby317]

Its sorta like this:

You have a beautiful rose. It all red with silky petals. This rose resembles your virginity. So 2 guys have this lovely rose(virginity). They both meet girls. The first guy says to himself. 'Its just sex. God will forgive me.' and the other guy says 'No. I can wait till marraige.' Since the first guy had sex he pulled a rose petal off his beautiful rose. Now, the first guy continues his actions in having sex before marraige and pulling of a rose petal each time. The second continues to say no. They both get married. The first guy hand his new wife a rose with no petals on it because he's already lost them all from giving it to all the other women. The second guy gives his rose to his new wife that is filled with the prettiest rose petals you've ever seen. Now which rose do you want to give? Which rose would you want to recieve? The dead rose or the alive rose. Think about it.

Religiously, we weren't even supposed to be attracted to the opposite sex. Jesus never was. So God wants us to wait for marraige to share somthing that sacred. Because if Jesus were to get married, thats what he would of done.

I'm highly religious in my Roman Catholic faith. I've already made the promise and have gone to the retreats. I've already promised God that I'm going to wait til marriage to have sex. And I intend to to keep that promise. If you go to a retreat they will explain it a whole lot easier and it actually makes sense why you would want to give it to your special someone and not just anyone on the streets.

[dani41790]

Ok... the easiest way to explain this is... if you had sex before marriage, there is an emotional bond that goes with it. Just like you will never forget your first love, you're never going to forget your first sexual partner either. (And if you say that you're positive you're going to marry this dude, so what's the big deal? How do you know what the future brings? I've seen many many many people break up after long engagements... just keep that in mind) So after you have your first love, and after you have your first sexual partner, in a sense you give a piece of your heart away to them. Think about it. You will never forget about them, from time to time, you'll even think about them. Is that going to be fair to your husband? When you get married, don't you want to be able to give your WHOLE heart to him and only think about those memories ABOUT him? How special do you want sex to be with the person you marry? How much do you want to be "the one" with him or her- instead of five or eighteen or thirty? It's easy to say "I love you". But only "I do" says you're really one, for always.

God just wants you to save your whole self for your husband and most importantly, God wants you to save yourself for HIM. He put you on Earth to serve HIM and to do good for the glory of God. Does that make sense? He wants you to remain pure until you are ready for sex. And until then, you can fill up your time serving Him. The temptation that you feel when you want to have sex, is Satan's work. Don't give into temptation. Instead, fill your heart and soul with God's words and work to serve him better. If you have any questions, objections, comments, you can PM me if you like.

For those of you who disagree because of some reasons of your own, I just wanna say, that with this topic, there is no way to please everyone. And i'm telling her what I, as a Christian, was taught. I'm just responding to her question. So, if you disagree or dont' like my answer or whatnot.... don't read it then please. Because this was not meant to offend anyone nor was it meant to please anyone. It was meant to answer her question. Point blank.

O_o wow. that waz really well put. i agree

[swtxcatastrophe]

I'm Roman Catholic, and I may wait, I may not. I'm probably gonna wait till I'm not a teen, and know that I'll eventually marry the person. True story. My friends ex-girlfriend got pregnant. They were using a condem, and it broke. She had a shot that was supposed to make her have a miscarriage. He just told me today that the shot didn't work.

Now it goes into a whole mess of problems, like whether they're gonna abort it, or keep it.

It's just better to wait until you're ready. In the above story, the guy is turning 17 in January and the girl just turned 15 in July.

[gnawxela]

i'm against premarital sex too...being a virgin means that you're 'pure', you're not supposed to have sex until you get married according to the bible...that should be clear enough...

QUOTE (MusicalAngel @ Oct 24 2004, 6:38 AM)
Ok... the easiest way to explain this is... if you had sex before marriage, there is an emotional bond that goes with it. Just like you will never forget your first love, you're never going to forget your first sexual partner either. (And if you say that you're positive you're going to marry this dude, so what's the big deal? How do you know what the future brings? I've seen many many many people break up after long engagements... just keep that in mind) So after you have your first love, and after you have your first sexual partner, in a sense you give a piece of your heart away to them. Think about it. You will never forget about them, from time to time, you'll even think about them. Is that going to be fair to your husband? When you get married, don't you want to be able to give your WHOLE heart to him and only think about those memories ABOUT him? How special do you want sex to be with the person you marry? How much do you want to be "the one" with him or her- instead of five or eighteen or thirty? It's easy to say "I love you". But only "I do" says you're really one, for always.

God just wants you to save your whole self for your husband and most importantly, God wants you to save yourself for HIM. He put you on Earth to serve HIM and to do good for the glory of God. Does that make sense? He wants you to remain pure until you are ready for sex. And until then, you can fill up your time serving Him. The temptation that you feel when you want to have sex, is Satan's work. Don't give into temptation. Instead, fill your heart and soul with God's words and work to serve him better. If you have any questions, objections, comments, you can PM me if you like.

For those of you who disagree because of some reasons of your own, I just wanna say, that with this topic, there is no way to please everyone. And i'm telling her what I, as a Christian, was taught. I'm just responding to her question. So, if you disagree or dont' like my answer or whatnot.... don't read it then please. Because this was not meant to offend anyone nor was it meant to please anyone. It was meant to answer her question. Point blank. 


O_o wow. that waz really well put. i agree

[vivieeeen]

ever heard of the "True Love Waits" Campaign?

If you really wished that making a commitment like that, you have to understand that it's not only about yourself.

It's about God, yourself, your family, your friends, your futuremate, and your Furture children.

Yes. That's how big it is.

[I.Luff.Emo.Boys.]

I think pre martial sex ISNT wrong, as long as the two are ready its okay. No stupid peice of paper will do anything about sex. It doesnt make it more enjoying. It doesnt make it worse. Its a stupid peice of paper. What does that have to do with the process of making love?

[houjin_himo]

im a christian so i'm against premarital sex too...being a virgin means that you're 'pure', you're not supposed to have sex until you get married

[ArtificialBlonde]

well we had this discussion at church for a while..having sex before marraige is taking away that special gift you are giving to your future mate..there is a reason to save it..thats something amazing that i really have the patience for

[espionage]

How about a moral reason?

Naturally, love causes jealousy because we may want the same person. Since animals supposingly don't "love", but just mate, then it implies the same effect on us - As love causes jealousy, sex may cause jealousy.

Marriage is the concrete bonding between two people. The reason for marriage is to prevent that kind of "free-for-all", as doing otherwise is so-called "adultery", and so sex should come only with marriage.

[rockmyx]

its a moral values among christians. lf a guy ask you to have sex prove your love, he does'nt love you coz he did'nt respect you at all. true love can wait l am a christian and i am againts with premarital sex. lts a sin in the eye of god and in human.

[nuhtim4capun013]

the reason why is ... sex is a special act between 2 people... and it signifies love between the 2 people and love either other enough to get married and understand that they will be together forever.. and will always be together and i guess "enjoy"... they sed that sex was primarily for reproduction... but now its an act that signifies true intimacy with the one you love... marriage only binds you and your spouse together .. sex is another way of showing that bind and love...

[sikdragon]

If you wait until you are older, it's more pleasurable. pre-marital sex is wrong, but if you, like me, define marriage as a divine coupling with or without legal documentation, then it's not pre-marital at all.