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 Oct 11 2004, 11:38 PM
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Okay I think this is where its supposed to be...either here or relationships. Mods, you can move it there if you think it should be there instead...
Anyways, I was just thinking about this because I know that I personally do it sometimes myself. I'm just putting my opinion so please don't be offended and get all pissy about it or something... Is it just me (or at least in my experience), or do girls (guys as well, but I'm going to focus on girls right now) tend to read into what guys (girls) say/do way too much? Say for instance, a guy says "I don't know."/"Whatever."/etc. a girl can think "Oh my god, is he mad at me?""Does he hate me?""What did I do?!" etc. etc... Or if a guy OR girl buys a present of some sort and its not quite what one expected...thoughts can follow such as "Are they trying to tell me something?""Did they think I want this because I am _____??" etc...Yes my examples kind of suck but anyways. My point is that, sometimes simple actions/words don't have any specific deeper meaning. Sometimes its exactly what is said/done, like my other example, maybe all he can say is "Whatever." or maybe they did buy that present because they thought one would like it but for no particular bad reason. Seriously. People don't plan things out that much. Well, most. Its no need to get paranoid and so on. Okay that's the end of my rant. Mainly done to tell myself this and to just share my newly gained knowledge with the rest of you. Enjoy. 
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Oct 11 2004, 11:41 PM
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Yeah, I tend to do that way to often. Like if a friend doesn't seem to be talking much on msn, and then goes for a while without saying brb, I think she's mad at me. And people get pissed at me for doing it
 But eh...
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Oct 12 2004, 12:29 AM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
yea i notice that some people do that. i dont cuz uhh idk but some of my friends and their bf's do that and it kinda irks me
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Oct 12 2004, 12:51 AM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
haha steph i know what ur talking about, i hate it when people bug me and ask me whats wrong just cuz i dont feel like going into detail about my boring life.
But i to, do the same thing.... like if a girl isnt being very chatty with me and she usually is, i feel....i KNOW something is up. whether its me or something else... i just want to help so i mite be a little pushy...but in the end it makes both people feel better ><; But i know when to stop... And yea ... it is annoying ><; lol ... if people really wanted u to know...they will tell u. |
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Oct 12 2004, 01:27 AM
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lol yea i guesse alot of ppl do that.. but is jus shows they caare for the person...cuz if u thought abt it... if u DIDN"T care.. then u wdn\t bother n e wayz...
so yea... i dont think theres n e thing wrong...althought it CUD get anooyin... |
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Oct 12 2004, 01:32 AM
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 jn Group: Member Posts: 713 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,769 |
ahaha. seems quite true. i really dislike people who are worrywarts and worry about absolutely nothing, then making it into a big deal. it really bugs me.
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Oct 12 2004, 07:29 AM
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 Ah, mon Dieu ! Group: Member Posts: 2,274 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,587 |
 wouldn't it depend on your level of paranoia?
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Oct 12 2004, 03:43 PM
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 unify and defeat... divide and crumble Group: Member Posts: 2,759 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,379 |
haha sometimes ...actually almost all of the time... girls overanalyze what guys say! i think it's hilarius!
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Oct 12 2004, 03:47 PM
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 naners Group: Member Posts: 113 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,394 |
I do but I tell myself to stop and then I forget about it.
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Oct 12 2004, 04:12 PM
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I used to do that all the time. I would read into every little detail. I don't do it as much anymore, which is good becuase I would spend so much time reading into and analyzing and obsessing over pointless things. It was harmful
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Oct 12 2004, 07:02 PM
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 I do it so good, I don't need nobody else! Group: Member Posts: 644 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 39,752 |
yea i deffinitely do that! lol
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Oct 12 2004, 08:56 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
yeah, i do that all the time. eh, its probably because i'm paranoid or something.
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Oct 12 2004, 09:21 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 341 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 39,338 |
oh ya i used to do that alllll the time.....but then i got over it, relaxed and started going with the flow.....i figure if the guy is mad at me or something then he would tell me.
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Oct 12 2004, 10:01 PM
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 I'm not mean; You're just a sissy. Group: Member Posts: 796 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,520 |
lol. used to be like that before. i would get so paranoid and shit and id start freaking out and crying so much! haha! lol. but gladly, not anymore.. ive learnt to kinda understand the opposite sex a bit more.
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Nov 11 2004, 12:59 PM
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Mad Rooney Group: Member Posts: 365 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,418 |
well these are just words of mouth
my view is.. dont take it too seriously... think simple! |
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Nov 13 2004, 02:45 AM
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 Yes, I do have an Abercrombie booty. Group: Member Posts: 698 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,057 |
I believe it's true. I tend to that a lot with my boyfriend. For example, if I ask my boyfriend if something's wrong, and he just says "Nothing", I still believe that something is wrong and keep asking him repeatedly, even though when it really does mean nothing is wrong. And whenever I do that, he always end up getting super annoyed at me.
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