What should i do?, my friend is making moves on me |
What should i do?, my friend is making moves on me |
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![]() Heartbreaker ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 25 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,954 ![]() |
I'm friends with this guy, and he has a huge crush on me. i don't really want a relationship right now, plus, i don't even know if i like him like that. when we're together, he's always making moves on me, and i feel bad. now i feel even worse because he kissed me last night. he told me that when he moved here, he didnt think he would find anyone he'd like anyone until he met me, and i dont want to hurt him! plus i still want to be friends...
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#2
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![]() F**k me Beautiful ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 ![]() |
guess what babe? its too late now , no way u can do this without hurting him. Just tell him that you dont want to be in a relationship right now. yea hell be down but it sucks less... he said he loved you? kids... ~_~
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#3
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![]() Heartbreaker ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 25 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,954 ![]() |
its weird because when im with him, i guess i get cought up in the moment, but later im thinking 'what was i doing?' what was i thinking when he kissed me, why did i let that happen?
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#4
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![]() lick me ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,044 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,013 ![]() |
Vinnys right.. Once you make someone believe that you love them and they like you too, but you really dont, all you can do is break their heart now. Dont carry on acting like you love him =/ tell him before hes even more heartbroken.
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#5
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 5,585 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 38,082 ![]() |
I think his name is "Vinh". Lol, anyhoo, yeah....you shouldn't have done that if you only think of him as a friend, but you might want to stop everything if you don't want to get him hurt.
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#6
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![]() it's what i believe in. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 187 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,523 ![]() |
QUOTE(CRaZyInLuV1301 @ Oct 9 2004, 9:26 AM) its weird because when im with him, i guess i get cought up in the moment, but later im thinking 'what was i doing?' what was i thinking when he kissed me, why did i let that happen? ![]() ![]() well maybe you do really like him.. since you get caught in the moment. maybe you`re heart`s telling you yes but you`re body`s telling you no. well if you really don`t want it then you have to tell him before it gets worse and dreamguy`s right.. it`s too late now. ![]() |
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#7
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Brie ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 ![]() |
Hm.
..It would be a good idea to figure out if you like him back in that way first. |
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#8
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 140 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,520 ![]() |
i have a friend that's going through the same thing..
my advice is to turn him down unless you really start liking him or something just don't force yourself. its hard to turn down your friend.. but it would hurt even more if he didnt know the truth |
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#9
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![]() he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 ![]() |
if you guys are friends you should be able to openly communicate how you feel. be honest with him. you`re going to hurt him more if you act like it`s okay for him to make moves on you and you don`t stop it. if it makes you feel uncomfortable and you want to just be friends then tell him so. he`ll respect how you feel if he really cares about you as a person and friend.
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#10
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![]() Ah, mon Dieu ! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,274 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,587 ![]() |
you're just gonna hurt him more if you don't tell him and keep on stalling.
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 851 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,718 ![]() |
tell him the truth or else ull end up hurting him even more
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#12
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![]() Blasian, Asian, INVASION! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 ![]() |
tell him to step off
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#13
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Member ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 10 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,726 ![]() |
ders always dat term called..."friends with benefits"..lol jp..newho juss tell him dat ur not looking for a relationship rite now n dat maybe he should just wait. he shouldnt be rushing into things. U guys just prolly met ...newayz rite?
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#14
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![]() freedom ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 844 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 31,358 ![]() |
What you can do first is make sure you don't have any feelings for him. And if you really don't like him as more than a friend then like people have been saying, be honest with him. I'm sure he'll understand it in the end. Tell him you just want to stay friends.
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#15
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,549 ![]() |
all you have to do is look uncomfortable and he'll usually get the hint. if he doesn't then you need to take action and stop him when he makes his moves.
stay single. it's worth it. |
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#16
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 43 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 45,943 ![]() |
its okay, babe. i was in the same situation not too long ago with my best friend chris. He kissed me, because he really liked me. I always got caught up in the moment and asked myself the same question of "what the hell was i thinking".. but if you know your feelings for him aren't real, and you tell him its better to be freinds, then he should believe you. thats what i told chris and we're still best friends.. 8 years and counting. never let a relationship ruin a friendship.
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#17
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![]() I'm not mean; You're just a sissy. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 796 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,520 ![]() |
..tell him in some way that you dont like him. dont lead him on. there's not really any un-painful way to reject someone but hey, its not our fault. we just have to do what we gotta do. he'll hopefully move on.
or play matchmaker! find him someone or something! |
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#18
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 84 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 55,043 ![]() |
wow. that really sucks. i guess you'll have to break his heart. better than lying to him and to yourself.
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![]() doot doot doot ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 ![]() |
cant u copy and paste the first post u made but change the "he/him" to "you" lol
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#20
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![]() *rawr baby* ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 821 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 48,941 ![]() |
QUOTE(PinkTrash @ Oct 9 2004, 10:45 AM) Vinnys right.. Once you make someone believe that you love them and they like you too, but you really dont, all you can do is break their heart now. Dont carry on acting like you love him =/ tell him before hes even more heartbroken. Oh my... you called him "Vinny" :looks out for Elba: lol Yea I agree w/Vinh too, it's too late. |
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#21
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 329 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,536 ![]() |
Just tell him you're not really looking for a relationship... and that you don't think of him like that. He WILL be hurt... just make sure he knows you care about him though.
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#22
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to hell with you ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,547 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,506 ![]() |
kill him!!!!
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#23
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 40 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,927 ![]() |
Ohhh! This guy is soooo sweet!!! You're lucky! Too bad you don't like him that way... You know what? I think you should have told him earlier. It's way too late now, especially after he kissed you... Really, you have to 'hurt' him this time before he goes any further. ANd it's good for both of you. And tell him sumthing like: 'Hey, NAME! ummm... You're a really nice guy. I know what do u FEEL about me. But trust me, it's not gonna work out. I mean, I'm not ready to have a bf. I just want to be friends, okay?'
Hope u can get rid of him soon... jk lol |
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*wind&fire* |
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start to talk to him bout other hot guys.. then say man ur such a good friend that u can talk bout really hot guys ... and that hes ur good friend and thats all hes gonna be.. then hook him up wit h a nuther girl
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