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What should i do?, my friend is making moves on me
CRaZyInLuV1301
post Oct 9 2004, 08:55 AM
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I'm friends with this guy, and he has a huge crush on me. i don't really want a relationship right now, plus, i don't even know if i like him like that. when we're together, he's always making moves on me, and i feel bad. now i feel even worse because he kissed me last night. he told me that when he moved here, he didnt think he would find anyone he'd like anyone until he met me, and i dont want to hurt him! plus i still want to be friends... cry.gif
 
 
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DrEaMgUy2K1
post Oct 9 2004, 09:09 AM
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guess what babe? its too late now , no way u can do this without hurting him. Just tell him that you dont want to be in a relationship right now. yea hell be down but it sucks less... he said he loved you? kids... ~_~
 
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post Oct 9 2004, 09:26 AM
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its weird because when im with him, i guess i get cought up in the moment, but later im thinking 'what was i doing?' what was i thinking when he kissed me, why did i let that happen? mad.gif i just hope our friendship isnt ruined _unsure.gif
 
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post Oct 9 2004, 09:45 AM
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Vinnys right.. Once you make someone believe that you love them and they like you too, but you really dont, all you can do is break their heart now. Dont carry on acting like you love him =/ tell him before hes even more heartbroken.
 
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post Oct 9 2004, 11:30 AM
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I think his name is "Vinh". Lol, anyhoo, yeah....you shouldn't have done that if you only think of him as a friend, but you might want to stop everything if you don't want to get him hurt.
 
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post Oct 9 2004, 11:59 AM
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QUOTE(CRaZyInLuV1301 @ Oct 9 2004, 9:26 AM)
its weird because when im with him, i guess i get cought up in the moment, but later im thinking 'what was i doing?' what was i thinking when he kissed me, why did i let that happen?  mad.gif i just hope our friendship isnt ruined  _unsure.gif

well maybe you do really like him.. since you get caught in the moment. maybe you`re heart`s telling you yes but you`re body`s telling you no. well if you really don`t want it then you have to tell him before it gets worse and dreamguy`s right.. it`s too late now. _unsure.gif
 
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post Oct 9 2004, 01:00 PM
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Hm.
..It would be a good idea to figure out if you like him back in that way first.
 
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post Oct 9 2004, 03:43 PM
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i have a friend that's going through the same thing..
my advice is to turn him down unless you really start liking him or something
just don't force yourself.
its hard to turn down your friend.. but it would hurt even more if he didnt know the truth
 
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post Oct 9 2004, 03:53 PM
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if you guys are friends you should be able to openly communicate how you feel. be honest with him. you`re going to hurt him more if you act like it`s okay for him to make moves on you and you don`t stop it. if it makes you feel uncomfortable and you want to just be friends then tell him so. he`ll respect how you feel if he really cares about you as a person and friend.
 
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post Oct 9 2004, 04:21 PM
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you're just gonna hurt him more if you don't tell him and keep on stalling.
 
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post Oct 10 2004, 02:38 AM
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tell him the truth or else ull end up hurting him even more
 
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post Oct 10 2004, 09:47 AM
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tell him to step off
 
Scandalous_angel
post Oct 10 2004, 10:25 PM
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ders always dat term called..."friends with benefits"..lol jp..newho juss tell him dat ur not looking for a relationship rite now n dat maybe he should just wait. he shouldnt be rushing into things. U guys just prolly met ...newayz rite?
 
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post Oct 10 2004, 10:33 PM
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What you can do first is make sure you don't have any feelings for him. And if you really don't like him as more than a friend then like people have been saying, be honest with him. I'm sure he'll understand it in the end. Tell him you just want to stay friends.
 
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post Oct 11 2004, 08:40 PM
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all you have to do is look uncomfortable and he'll usually get the hint. if he doesn't then you need to take action and stop him when he makes his moves.

stay single. it's worth it.
 
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post Oct 11 2004, 08:49 PM
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its okay, babe. i was in the same situation not too long ago with my best friend chris. He kissed me, because he really liked me. I always got caught up in the moment and asked myself the same question of "what the hell was i thinking".. but if you know your feelings for him aren't real, and you tell him its better to be freinds, then he should believe you. thats what i told chris and we're still best friends.. 8 years and counting. never let a relationship ruin a friendship.
 
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post Oct 11 2004, 09:52 PM
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..tell him in some way that you dont like him. dont lead him on. there's not really any un-painful way to reject someone but hey, its not our fault. we just have to do what we gotta do. he'll hopefully move on.

or play matchmaker! find him someone or something!
 
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post Oct 11 2004, 10:21 PM
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wow. that really sucks. i guess you'll have to break his heart. better than lying to him and to yourself. pinch.gif
 
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post Oct 11 2004, 10:53 PM
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cant u copy and paste the first post u made but change the "he/him" to "you" lol
 
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post Oct 11 2004, 11:45 PM
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QUOTE(PinkTrash @ Oct 9 2004, 10:45 AM)
Vinnys right.. Once you make someone believe that you love them and they like you too, but you really dont, all you can do is break their heart now. Dont carry on acting like you love him =/ tell him before hes even more heartbroken.

Oh my... you called him "Vinny" :looks out for Elba: lol


Yea I agree w/Vinh too, it's too late.
 
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post Oct 12 2004, 01:40 AM
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Just tell him you're not really looking for a relationship... and that you don't think of him like that. He WILL be hurt... just make sure he knows you care about him though.
 
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post Oct 14 2004, 07:23 PM
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kill him!!!!
 
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post Oct 15 2004, 09:43 PM
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Ohhh! This guy is soooo sweet!!! You're lucky! Too bad you don't like him that way... You know what? I think you should have told him earlier. It's way too late now, especially after he kissed you... Really, you have to 'hurt' him this time before he goes any further. ANd it's good for both of you. And tell him sumthing like: 'Hey, NAME! ummm... You're a really nice guy. I know what do u FEEL about me. But trust me, it's not gonna work out. I mean, I'm not ready to have a bf. I just want to be friends, okay?'
Hope u can get rid of him soon... jk lol
 
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post Oct 15 2004, 09:57 PM
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start to talk to him bout other hot guys.. then say man ur such a good friend that u can talk bout really hot guys ... and that hes ur good friend and thats all hes gonna be.. then hook him up wit h a nuther girl
 

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