omg cud it be?do i LIKE him now?..after all that.., but i cant.. can i? DO I?.soo messed. |
 Oct 6 2004, 02:02 AM
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ok sorry for another loong post but im just soo confused now.
last year, grade 8..met new ppl.. in cluding this guy Daniel who was in 3 of my classes...i liked him jus a lil..n i didn't considor it a crush or n e thing...but then neaar the end of the skewl year i found out he liked me..but i didn't like him at that point..so i rejected him.. .he was reli kewl abt it n so we talked online alot n i got to know alot abt him...he even admitted that i was the one girl who knew the most abt him...n so now he's my guy best friend... well u c ever since the beggining of grade 8 i liked this other guy... who jus happened to be one of daniel's best friends.. which made me feel realy guilty...but that guy KNEW i liked him since like... the first month of skewl?? but he never said n e thing abt it so i figured he didn't like me n jus kinda gave up... but i cant deny i still like him....n now we're all in grade 9.n i dont have n e classes wit Daniel. but ever since daniel told me he didn't like me n e more....somehow i seemed to like him... but i jus cant believe it... since.. hes not the typical guy that i wud like...but i have this trange feeling of wanting to hug him whenever im close to him..n now im jus soo messed up... also... i think u shud know.. is that daniel liked a different girl every year... n since none of those girls ever liked him back.. he never got a gf before... i never had a bf before either ... but i didnt like a diff person every year. so i guesse the bottom line.is---i THINK im startin to like my guy best friend , who used to like me....but somehow im jus afraid.... btw u realize usually its FIRST u become best friends wit a guy then u like them?...n not like FIRST u like that person n then u become best friends??..iono jus seemed weird to me. |
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Oct 6 2004, 02:11 AM
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That happens to a lot of people. That's why it's usually a bad idea to become REALLY REALLY close to the opposite gender.. because at one point you both or one of guys will grow an attraction for eachother. But I think that Daniel guy is going to reject you this time.. Maybe you're in that hard-to-get situation? It happens a lot.. when a guy likes you and you don't like him anymore at the time. Then you start liking him for some odd reason when he doesn't like you anymore. Whoo yeah. Maybe you're starting to appreciate things once they're gone? Like Daniel's attraction towards you? Haha oookay now I'm just rambling.
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Oct 6 2004, 05:35 AM
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 Ah, mon Dieu ! Group: Member Posts: 2,274 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,587 |
if someone liked you for a certain amount of time but then changed their mind about liking you, it attracts you to that person because now you feel weird that you're not liked by them in that way anymore. it's just how nature and feelings work.
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Oct 6 2004, 03:51 PM
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 I'm Cat. Gotta problem with that? Group: Member Posts: 394 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,845 |
im in the same situation..... its not mai fault that im relaly close friends with guys.... im more of a competitve girl that competes against guys at everything.... skool. sports, music, anything..... and i have gotten to kno them really well.... i also lyk one of mai best guy friends
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Oct 6 2004, 03:57 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
yeah, i know what you mean. that's kinda happening to me now. i've just started talking to my friend, who used to like me 2 years ago, again (because i began ignoring him after he told me). but i don't have any feelings for him. eh, i guess its natural, after you spend time with someone of the opposite gender, you might develop feelings for him- because i think i might have feelings for my closest guy friend.
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Oct 6 2004, 07:04 PM
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yea ok so i guesse its "natural"...
but um... i have an odd feeling that he still likes me....cuz like.. once my spanish teacher gave our class candy..n he wasn't in my class n during the break i walked past him n i jus didn't think abt it n walked up to him n say hey, here have some n gave him like 2 skittles.....n after the last period i was at my locker n he jus walked up to me n took an M&M from the lil package he bought from one of the skewl's vending machines n said" here.. i owed u one."...n i was thinking... * it wasn't a big deal.. like i didn't think he wud actually go to the trouble of buying a whole pack to give me some candy cuz he 'owed me'...* n iono...i jus think that he does some things that a guy doesn't usually do if they dont like a girl...n most of my friends that know abt what happened between me n him say they think he still likes me too... but doesn't admit it when i asked him 2 months ago.... n since like i said he likes a diff girl every year i figured this year he wud like smq else. ..so i asked him like alot of times who he likes this year...n he jus wudn't tell me.. no matter how much i pleaded....but in the end he said he wud tell me on his birhtday... which is in 2 months |
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Oct 6 2004, 07:08 PM
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QUOTE(LittleLulu @ Oct 6 2004, 4:04 PM) yea ok so i guesse its "natural"... but um... i have an odd feeling that he still likes me....cuz like.. once my spanish teacher gave our class candy..n he wasn't in my class n during the break i walked past him n i jus didn't think abt it n walked up to him n say hey, here have some n gave him like 2 skittles.....n after the last period i was at my locker n he jus walked up to me n took an M&M from the lil package he bought from one of the skewl's vending machines n said" here.. i owed u one."...n i was thinking... * it wasn't a big deal.. like i didn't think he wud actually go to the trouble of buying a whole pack to give me some candy cuz he 'owed me'...* n iono...i jus think that he does some things that a guy doesn't usually do if they dont like a girl...n most of my friends that know abt what happened between me n him say they think he still likes me too... but doesn't admit it when i asked him 2 months ago.... n since like i said he likes a diff girl every year i figured this year he wud like smq else. ..so i asked him like alot of times who he likes this year...n he jus wudn't tell me.. no matter how much i pleaded....but in the end he said he wud tell me on his birhtday... which is in 2 months Haha hmm... That guy has a very kind heart or he really does like you.. because if it was me i would keep a bag of M&M's YUM!!! anyways i think he might tell you he likes you during his birthday because thats a crazy present a girl =P and i find it romantic when guys tell girls they like them on their birthday like i did last time.. and i had money so yeah i took her out |
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Oct 6 2004, 07:13 PM
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QUOTE(rainnydaiis @ Oct 6 2004, 7:08 PM) Haha hmm... That guy has a very kind heart or he really does like you.. because if it was me i would keep a bag of M&M's YUM!!! anyways i think he might tell you he likes you during his birthday because thats a crazy present a girl =P and i find it romantic when guys tell girls they like them on their birthday like i did last time.. and i had money so yeah i took her out lol yea i like m&m's too!!! hmm *think*...if a girl u thought of as a friend jus walked up to u n offered some candy, which u took... -period. that wud be the end of the candy thing right? but if a girl u LIKED jus walked up to u n offered u some candy, which u took...wudn't u think that giving her some back wud be a gud excuse to talk to her? or interact wit her?.... |
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Oct 6 2004, 07:16 PM
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QUOTE(LittleLulu @ Oct 6 2004, 4:13 PM) lol yea i like m&m's too!!! hmm *think*...if a girl u thought of as a friend jus walked up to u n offered some candy, which u took... -period. that wud be the end of the candy thing right? but if a girl u LIKED jus walked up to u n offered u some candy, which u took...wudn't u think that giving her some back wud be a gud excuse to talk to her? or interact wit her?.... i dont interact using candy =P unless you tryin to be romantic and give them 12 hersey flowers the real ones not the fake ones you see around =P maybe he just needed to see you and used candy as an excuse? |
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Oct 6 2004, 07:25 PM
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QUOTE(rainnydaiis @ Oct 6 2004, 7:16 PM) i dont interact using candy =P unless you tryin to be romantic and give them 12 hersey flowers the real ones not the fake ones you see around =P maybe he just needed to see you and used candy as an excuse? yea ur right lol but daniel's a weird guy n e wayz...n iono... i NEVER know what guys r thinking...if i knew then the world wud be sooo much easier ...but anywho..so...what shud i do?? 
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Oct 6 2004, 07:27 PM
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just wait and see where this takes you... i also might suggest he liked you but started liking someone else... he couldve said that someone else just to lie or he did like someone else but still has you on his mind =P yep yep i say just wait =P
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Oct 6 2004, 07:33 PM
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QUOTE(rainnydaiis @ Oct 6 2004, 7:27 PM) just wait and see where this takes you... i also might suggest he liked you but started liking someone else... he couldve said that someone else just to lie or he did like someone else but still has you on his mind =P yep yep i say just wait =P ^^^^ lol the SUSPENSE is KILLING me... literaly... n hm.. yea i thought he wud like some1 else now....n like.. if he DOES like som1 else then he'll jus stay my best guy friend....but if he doesn''t ...now THEN i wud be clueless of what to do... i never dated or had a bf n all that so like*aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh* |
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Oct 6 2004, 07:45 PM
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you probably liked him long time ago but thought "i can get him as my bf anytime so you just try to get other boys first"
or you probably miss him liking you ....you were so used to the teasing and stufff do u get my point? |
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Oct 6 2004, 07:49 PM
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QUOTE(Shortiiex @ Oct 6 2004, 7:45 PM) you probably liked him long time ago but thought "i can get him as my bf anytime so you just try to get other boys first" or you probably miss him liking you ....you were so used to the teasing and stufff do u get my point? yea i understand what ur sayin... but it was ONE OF HIS BEST FRIENDS that i liked alot....n he was jus .... a ffriend to me...n at that time i often said like"im not that desperate for a bf...if i wanted...i cud jus go wit daniel"...n i knoe its sounds totaly b!tchy n mean n stupid n retarted n awfulll...  ..but is jus...............god im soo messed. n yea.. we do tease each other alot... but we still do...n some ppl r still askin like" hey r u still going out wit daniel?"...n my answer is always" well we never REALLY dated in the first place" |
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Oct 6 2004, 07:53 PM
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maybe they know something you dont know =P
or maybe you might look good together.. who knows just give it a shot just tell him how u feel |
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Oct 6 2004, 08:00 PM
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QUOTE(rainnydaiis @ Oct 6 2004, 7:53 PM) maybe they know something you dont know =P or maybe you might look good together.. who knows just give it a shot just tell him how u feel lol haha they're jus teasing me abt him.. even though it was last year... n um.. yea i sorta want to tell him but im jus too scared...nvm i cud jus get a friend to tell him...n well he IS taller that he was last year hahahaha at lseat now he's the same height as me.... but i jus realized today that that good friend of his that i liked grew....alot over the summer n id now taller than me 
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Oct 6 2004, 08:35 PM
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lolz i see.... hmm i suggest not telling a friend to tell... thats just to childish... get the guts just to tell him yourself its much better that way... trust me
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Oct 6 2004, 08:42 PM
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i dont see wats wrong wit going out with his friend... he's ur friend he doesnt like you in that way...
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Oct 6 2004, 08:47 PM
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QUOTE(rainnydaiis @ Oct 6 2004, 8:35 PM) lolz i see.... hmm i suggest not telling a friend to tell... thats just to childish... get the guts just to tell him yourself its much better that way... trust me but wudn't it be weird to go like ---daniel is walking in the hallway wit his friends--- "um hey daniel can i speak wit u for a second?" "um sure what's up?" "well can we go outside to talk? there's less ppl there" "ok......." --goes outside smwhere where there are less ppl-- "wel um.. u see... the thing is...*takes a deep breath, ex-hales*...ok i ...i like u" "o...." ---moment of silence.---to be continued... what if he said smthn like" oh.. sorry but i like _____now."??????? then everything wud be akward... AGAIN...n besides.. ill chicken out lol |
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Oct 6 2004, 09:06 PM
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you dont really have it make it like such like movies... just do it...
start a convo and out of no where be like wanna hear something interesting? and he'll go like wat? and you go like come here ill tell you in your ear. I LIKE YOU wow thats cool =P |
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Oct 6 2004, 09:20 PM
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QUOTE(rainnydaiis @ Oct 6 2004, 9:06 PM) you dont really have it make it like such like movies... just do it... start a convo and out of no where be like wanna hear something interesting? and he'll go like wat? and you go like come here ill tell you in your ear. I LIKE YOU wow thats cool =P lol haha thats funni lol i cant imagine his reaction...he'll probably be like "whoaa...weird...." haha but then i have no idea for sure lol...omg this is tooo scarey edit-omg i jus realized ...that like when im not around him i jus dont think i like him... but he's like constantly on my mind...n when i DO c him.. wel thats wheni have he urge to hug him |
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Oct 6 2004, 09:22 PM
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 lick me Group: Member Posts: 3,044 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,013 |
Rofl.. yeah you should just tell him straight up, nothing complicated. you make it sound so confusing.. lol.
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Oct 6 2004, 09:24 PM
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QUOTE(PinkTrash @ Oct 6 2004, 9:22 PM) Rofl.. yeah you should just tell him straight up, nothing complicated. you make it sound so confusing.. lol. but it IS... theres alot of history invovled... if read the whole post(i knoe its a pain in the be-hind....but hey i write alot in my journal thats how i get A's in english ***NERD PRIDE**** |
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Oct 6 2004, 09:25 PM
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lol u cant guess wut hes gonna say.. but if u think about it after u tell him u wont have that burden on u and u wont have to worry that much anymore cuz the answer will be there.. and if hes ur best guy friend he'll understand it and be jus as friendly and nice to u
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Oct 6 2004, 09:26 PM
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can i add a question???
DO I LIKE HIM??????DO I DO I DO I DOI DOI DO I DO I DO I????????? cuz i dont knew for sure |
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Oct 6 2004, 09:26 PM
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just tell him you like him anyway you want =P
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Oct 6 2004, 09:29 PM
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go for it w/ daniel. what's it going to hurt?
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Oct 6 2004, 10:24 PM
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QUOTE(avsugarhigh09 @ Oct 6 2004, 9:29 PM) go for it w/ daniel. what's it going to hurt? so ill have to put aside my pride, and face it??.... can u guys be more specific? |
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Oct 6 2004, 10:27 PM
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yeah put ur pride aside... just get the guts and tell him.. anyway you can.. i think it'll be better because everyone has to accept rejection sometime if it comes to it.. and i know you can do it =P i think it'll turn out good if you just tell him =P
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Oct 6 2004, 10:49 PM
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I think you only like him because he doesn't like you anymore. It's like...you have something and you don't pay attention to it, but when it's taken away from you, you want it back..
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Oct 6 2004, 10:52 PM
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QUOTE(somechinkgirl @ Oct 6 2004, 10:49 PM) I think you only like him because he doesn't like you anymore. It's like...you have something and you don't pay attention to it, but when it's taken away from you, you want it back.. yea thats what i thought too... like the reverse affect....n at first i thought eventually its jus gona go away.. but its gettin stronger n stronger...so im thinkng *wtf??* i honestly never thought abt him that way... but now its jus soo weird... so am i reli falling for him?? or its it jus ****the reverse affect*** |
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Oct 6 2004, 11:14 PM
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I think you like him because you're obviously sorta obsessed.. no offense. but if you though it was the reverse effect, you wouldn't have worried that much. but you are worried. I think you like him and you should just tell him. The worst he could say is that he likes someone else and you're just friends again. You'll never know unless you wait for two months until his b-day or you just go up to him and tell him.
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