underage.., smoking.. |
 Oct 3 2004, 09:16 PM
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ok.. i saw this dude i liked ever since last year smoking.. and he's only 13-14 years old.. and dude.. my two friendz were walking to school with me and they knew i like him.. and they were like.. melissa.. pst.. and im like yea.. i kno.. and yea.. i told them that im over him.. but im not.. i kno that i should bcuz he smokes.. but i cant.. everytime he talks to me.. i always get so.. shy.. but then when hes not talking to me.. its like ugh.. i wanna kill u.. jk.. lol.. but yea.. i told my friendz that i feel that i can change him.. idk.. but they're telling me to get over him.. when they kno he likes me.. wut should i do?
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Oct 3 2004, 10:11 PM
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 High Voltage!∞ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,728 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,157 |
hm..maybe confront him about it?
 try talking to him..that's really all i can say..good luck
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Oct 3 2004, 10:23 PM
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AsianUniQ Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,713 |
what I learn in life is...people will never change...if you think yoiu can change him, it would prob be temporary.....
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Oct 4 2004, 02:40 AM
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 What the fack. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,164 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,519 |
I somewhat disagree with you, AsianUniQ. People can change. But I guess it just depends on how long it takes and depending on why it is that they need to change. Anywho..
I think you should just try and get your friends to be open-minded, and ask talking to your guy friend about reconsidering his smoking. |
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| *wind&fire* |
Oct 4 2004, 03:13 AM
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aye wats wrong wit smoking????
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Oct 4 2004, 10:01 AM
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 I can't believe its not "Ryan" Group: Member Posts: 1,981 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,368 |
If you don't like him for who he is...than you shouldn't like him at all...
And, who cares what your friends think. |
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Oct 4 2004, 10:16 AM
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 Word. Group: Member Posts: 3,004 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,673 |
a couple of my friends smoke but i just ignore it and i dont do it so is all okay.
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Oct 4 2004, 01:52 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
QUOTE(AsianUniQ @ Oct 3 2004, 10:23 PM) what I learn in life is...people will never change...if you think yoiu can change him, it would prob be temporary..... 98% of the time the change is temporary... i hope u (ineed2bluvd) can be the remaining 2%  i guess jus talk to him about it and talk it out wit him.. theres no reason to smoke anyway.. rite?
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| *AngelicEyz00* |
Oct 4 2004, 03:42 PM
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Who cares if he smokes?? Why should that have anything to do with liking him or not?
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Oct 4 2004, 03:53 PM
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 I'm Cat. Gotta problem with that? Group: Member Posts: 394 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,845 |
u guys r wrong.... just let him doo what eva he wants and when he is dead frum smoking just say i told u so
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Oct 4 2004, 05:03 PM
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QUOTE(AsianUniQ @ Oct 3 2004, 10:23 PM) what I learn in life is...people will never change...if you think yoiu can change him, it would prob be temporary..... thats true, and if you really dont like him for smoking why force him to change? sure itd be nice if hes willing to but before you change him, why dont you ask yourself if you like him so much why do you still mind him smoking? if you truly like him, its who he is and not whether he smokes or not. |
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Oct 4 2004, 05:11 PM
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 *rawr baby* Group: Member Posts: 821 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 48,941 |
Sorry but 13-14 and smoking. Yuck. I hate the smell of cigs! .. Well is he smoking cigarettes or other stuff?...
Either way, it's gross, he smells probably, his breath stinks.. everything. But if you still like him and end up with him then at least you'll learn 1st hand. |
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Oct 4 2004, 05:42 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
eh, i guess you should talk to him about it. eh, so many people at my school smoke underage, it's really annoying...
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Oct 4 2004, 06:04 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 5,585 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 38,082 |
Hmm, I wouldn't mind if it smokes, but I just wouldn't want him smoking around me.
And if he likes you, why haven't he made his move? If you like him also, then just approach him and you'll easily get your answer. Step up. |
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Oct 4 2004, 07:58 PM
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 Can't have the hand without the cock. Group: Member Posts: 2,481 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,622 |
i`ve seen kids 9 + do drugs..
 cant really do much.. unless they`re JUST getting into it.. cuz people are stubborn these days, and just look at society and how the publicating sex and drug use. and even if u try to stop them, they`re just gonna cuss u out, and say sh_t like.. "u ain`t my momma, b_tch u dont own me, f_ck off"pretty f_ckin` sad.. speshully how kids are being brought up not acting their age  ...
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Oct 4 2004, 08:10 PM
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SOS Brigade!! Group: Member Posts: 2,573 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,775 |
i started smoking 6th grade and quit in 8-9th grade area... yep
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Oct 5 2004, 04:43 PM
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 Kids.Have.All.The.Fun Group: Member Posts: 228 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 33,943 |
people can change, and people can change people. if u wanna go out with him but dont want him to smoke tell him those are the circumstances. if he doesnt agree then he's not worth it.
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Oct 5 2004, 09:08 PM
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 白人看不懂 !!!! Group: Member Posts: 3,838 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 40,824 |
QUOTE(Too Asian To DIE @ Oct 4 2004, 1:53 PM) u guys r wrong.... just let him doo what eva he wants and when he is dead frum smoking just say i told u so That's smiteful. No person should die or be harmed to prove a point. But..yea, he does what he wants to do. Smoking at 13? That's too young (personally). But I'm not his dad. Try getting into a stronger bond w/ him. And try to get him off smoking slowly. As a friend, it's your responsibility to attempt to stop him from harming yourself (given that smoking is harmful!). Get him patches or something. Don't push him too hard to quit. You gotta help him realize its wrong, the physical stopping he has to do it himself to change 100%. Have a nice day! =) |
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Oct 5 2004, 09:19 PM
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 lick me Group: Member Posts: 3,044 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,013 |
Ive started seeing my friends smoke from the time I was like 10 :/ Its not a biggie, it has nothing to do with caring about the person really either. Just that smoking seems like a big concept, a negative thing, and when you're young you cant comprehend that its happening to you so fast
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Oct 6 2004, 03:05 PM
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wtf? your friends want you to stop liking him...??? okkk
well I THINK that you should go on liking him, go out with him, f**k him, shoot him, stab him, it's nonna your friends business to MAKE you do anything...they're there to help you make decisions not make them for you. so please, if you like him then keep liking him, talk to him about why he smokes and if y'll end up going out...and y'll end up falling for each other...i promise if he loves you enough he'll drop it for ya. but i dun see why it's sucha big deal. i know it's not a good habit but it's not that terrible either...it doesn't affect his personality...please juss be calm `n cool `bout this before he stops likin` ya! |
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Oct 6 2004, 06:59 PM
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QUOTE(xo b0o b0o @ Oct 6 2004, 3:05 PM) wtf? your friends want you to stop liking him...??? okkk well I THINK that you should go on liking him, go out with him, f**k him, shoot him, stab him, it's nonna your friends business to MAKE you do anything...they're there to help you make decisions not make them for you. so please, if you like him then keep liking him, talk to him about why he smokes and if y'll end up going out...and y'll end up falling for each other...i promise if he loves you enough he'll drop it for ya. but i dun see why it's sucha big deal. i know it's not a good habit but it's not that terrible either...it doesn't affect his personality...please juss be calm `n cool `bout this before he stops likin` ya! well.. they think that if i go out with somebody who smokes.. then he would try to persuade me to do it.. idk.. im a lilo gullable.. idk.. i still like him.. but i see him flirting with other gurlz too.. so i dont think i will end up with him.. but yea.. i'll try to talk to him.. thanx.. LUV YAZ!! |
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Oct 6 2004, 09:23 PM
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lick me Group: Member Posts: 3,044 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,013 |
Not all people who smoke try to persuade others to.. most of them try to hide it a lot too.
You people watch too much peer pressure TV shows |
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Oct 7 2004, 02:14 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 59 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,584 |
do what you want, not what your friends want you to do, at least in thsi case. smoking is borderline alright. just so long as hes not into other stuff. to me, drinking, marijuana, etc might soon follow. if all hes doing is smoking cigs (thats what hes smoking right?)
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Oct 7 2004, 02:53 PM
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 Ah, mon Dieu ! Group: Member Posts: 2,274 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,587 |
QUOTE(rainnydaiis @ Oct 4 2004, 8:10 PM) i started smoking 6th grade and quit in 8-9th grade area... yep that's smart. good for you. 
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Oct 7 2004, 02:58 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
i think you should do whatever you want...you can probably change him....its going to be hard though
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Oct 8 2004, 05:21 AM
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I think that if you like, there's pretty much nothing you can do. Once you fall for a person, you can't just say you're over him in a day or two.
I believe that you can change a person. My ex used to smoke - underaged also. But I managed to make him quit. He hasn't smoked in a while. If I can do it, why can't you? |
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Oct 9 2004, 03:55 PM
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aww smoking sucks..
i don't think it's WRONG to like someone who smokes i mean, you can't relaly help it. |
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Oct 9 2004, 04:52 PM
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lick me Group: Member Posts: 3,044 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,013 |
QUOTE(strwbrrykiwi23 @ Oct 7 2004, 2:53 PM) i started smoking 6th grade and quit in 8-9th grade area... yep Haha. Smoked for two-three years and quit at such a young age? Youre talking about of your other end. Some people've smoked for a few months, and cant quit it. Youre joking. |
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Oct 11 2004, 09:01 PM
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if you really don't like him smoking then it's useless wanting to be in a relationship with that kind of guy. it's kinda stupid to be judging him in the first place just because of his smoking habits.
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Oct 11 2004, 09:50 PM
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 I'm not mean; You're just a sissy. Group: Member Posts: 796 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,520 |
pfft.. well it really all depends on what kinda guy. but geez.. smoking so young. he's gonna die. haha. lol jk. most guys in my grade in my old school smoke now coz of peer pressure. pfffffft. they dont even know hot to smoke properly. they look like monkies when they do. haha.
anyways! sorry for going off topic. like i said, you could change him but it all really depends on what kinda person he is. wait, are you even going out with him? or close to him a tiny bit? you couldnt really do anything unless you're close to him in some way or he might just tell you to mind your own business. well i changed my boyf. lol. he used to do drugs and smoke like crazy but then when we got together i told him his breath stinks and stuffs and that i wouldnt go near him soo yah.. 
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Oct 11 2004, 09:59 PM
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 aiko Nakamura at your service Group: Member Posts: 1,518 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,144 |
haha yea same here but i dno they quit for some reason and yea dno how. but i say cant leave them alone& cant try to persuade. so im lost hah sorry
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Oct 11 2004, 10:03 PM
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if you both like eachother enough...i KNOW you can get 'im to stop. my mom got my dad to quit smoking.
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Oct 12 2004, 04:21 PM
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 naners Group: Member Posts: 113 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,394 |
QUOTE(jambaJUICE @ Oct 4 2004, 7:58 PM) i`ve seen kids 9 + do drugs.. cant really do much.. unless they`re JUST getting into it.. cuz people are stubborn these days, and just look at society and how the publicating sex and drug use. and even if u try to stop them, they`re just gonna cuss u out, and say sh_t like.. "u ain`t my momma, b_tch u dont own me, f_ck off"pretty f_ckin` sad.. speshully how kids are being brought up not acting their age ...Yep..pretty much my whole highschool smokes or drinks..and most of them start at a young young age. And just talk to him I guess about it...if it was me I wouldn't like him anymore. I guess it just depends on how you feel about it & him. |
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Oct 13 2004, 07:55 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 56 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,753 |
well.. we are a lilo close.. and im still trying to figure out if he likes me.. but yea.. i'll try to talk to him about it.. when im ready.. lol
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Oct 13 2004, 10:06 PM
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 You got spunk, kid. Group: Member Posts: 76 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,585 |
Ummm...Just get over him...or you can try to make him stop smoking...and if you try to make him stop smoking, that'll just prove that you do care about him...
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Oct 13 2004, 11:52 PM
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 kelly[changed] 2 liz Group: Member Posts: 525 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 55,472 |
so what if he smokes? thats his problem. if you really like him, go for it! then talk to him about his smoking.
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