my life is 1 big jerry springer episode.., some1, other than jesus, please help me? |
 Sep 30 2004, 05:23 PM
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hey urrybodii.. not to be so upfront in my life, but for now, let's pretend that "my friend" has this problem.. (it sucks that you all probably figuered that i'm referring to myself) BUT..
i was in a relationship for 2 yrs. with this guy, he found out i was pregnant with his baby, ditched me, & while i was pregnant, he found it so entertaining to call me a fat beached whale & how nobody would want me anymore because i'm ugly & yada yada.. but i mean i knew i was a beached whale at the time kuz i was pregnant.. 9 months of torture, 9 months of crying & taking tylenol PM every night just to get a decent sleep without waking up every couple of hours in the morning to feel depressed & suicidal.. blah blah blah.. finally had my baby, i was nice enough to let him stick around & then he's nice to me while i'm in the hospital & then all a sudden, couple days after while i'm still slowly recovering from pregnancy, he says "that baby doesn't look like me. i want a paternity test." i'm like WTF??? whutever on him... but now, 15 months later, after my baby's birthday, he still calls.. how do i get on with my life & forget about him? i know it's easier said than done, but this was the guy that i thought i would live the rest of my life with & thought that we would be a family kuz i thought he would grow up & take responsibilities for his side of his actions in bringin' out my baby... WHAT SHOULD I DO? gosh, i just finally realized that this entry is too long.. god bless anyone and/or everyone who actually responds to my problem.. or would it be easier for me to call a TEEN CRISIS HOTLINE??? love ya xoxo (that's my baby below, the one i was telling you all about; 1 yr. old)
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Sep 30 2004, 05:27 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Awwwwwww. She's cute.
Er, anyway. How old are you? Can you talk to your parents about this...? Tell him what you just told us if he calls again. ;] |
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Sep 30 2004, 05:31 PM
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aww thank you.. that's my baby-love!! but umm, yeh i'm 22 & i did try to mention this to my parents, but for them, not talking a whole lot in english or understanding our "now-a-days relationships", they tell me to stop whining or get over it or something just so retarded.. & everytime i try to tell him how i feel, like what i mentioned, he hangs up the phone on me or just the other day when i attempted, he called me a b*tch & said that he hates whenever i talk about stuff like that.. what the hell is THAT supposed to mean? that stupid boii.. grr...
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Sep 30 2004, 05:34 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
Use protection girl. Change your identity. Only way.
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Sep 30 2004, 05:34 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Aww.
What a jerk. Tough situation. For now, I myself would probably just ignore him.. but I really do not know. |
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Sep 30 2004, 05:38 PM
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 Prez of Student Council 04/05 Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 |
wow your baby looks big for being 1 yr old... and damn that men is soooo cruel!!!! he needs to die! he or his family should atleast be responsible for it!! and calling you that? tahts just mean! i don't know why you kept the baby...
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Sep 30 2004, 05:45 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 9 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,141 |
hey, changing my identity sounds like a good idea.. protection from now on? HELL YES!!! rubber is the way to go until the day there's a ring on my finger.. » *see image below!
then again.. IGNORING HIM sounds good too.. i guess i tried that so many times, but i guess that love for him still gets in the way & i just had to talk to him & pick up that damn phone.. but i guess it wouldn't hurt if i REALLY GAVE IT A SHOT.. thanks so much..
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Sep 30 2004, 05:49 PM
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i agree, 177emories.. he DOES he need to die.. but a lil' part of me still misses him because i can still remember how he was wen i first met him.. i been having weird dreams about him recently too, wat the hell is my problem??? but yehh.. i kept my baby because i don't believe in abortions or anything.. he wanted me to have the abortion, but he wanted me to pay for it myself.. that ass... i remember i thought she was a mistake that my life was ruined after that, but after i realized it, she is my pride & joy.. he used to be my love, but now, my babygirl is my lil' love..
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Sep 30 2004, 05:50 PM
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 t@ken Group: Member Posts: 206 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,914 |
omg shes so adorable!!!!!!!!mayb try talking to him or something
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Sep 30 2004, 06:03 PM
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aw, you can get through it, you got through the hardest part already by keeping ya head up all those months giving birth to your cute little baby girl. maybe the feelings you have for him is just because youre reminded of him when you see your daughter and honestly, if he still wouldnt take responsiblity he doesnt even have the right to see your daughter. what a friggin ass.
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Sep 30 2004, 06:38 PM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
shes cute , and im sorry to hear that .
Um.. this is new territory for me ... um if hes still not willing to take responsiblity , and just keeps agrivating u with his pathedic attempt to act like hes tryin to do something. just tell him the next time he calls to stop calling,"you walked out on me when i was in need, and i made it by myself, so why dont u act like your normal self and dissapear, forever" . Yes , it sucks ,having to get rid of the one person u love and thought you would spend the rest of your life , and i cant imagine how much it sucks cuz yea,im not you. But i think your better off,your family is helping u out rite? iono if i missed something. Well your daughter is adorable, and i wish you the best of luck . |
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Sep 30 2004, 06:56 PM
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thanks everybodii.. yeh, its been hard on me... i even tried my best to be nice to him to try n make him see the lengths that i would go to for him.. but he doersnt even appreciate my generosity.. yeh.. i tried telling him that i didnt wanna talk to him anymore & that he should leave me & my baby alone now, but he thinks its a joke that i'm saying that.. i guess he THINKS that he's got me "wrapped around his finger?" kuz if he did do or say something nice, itwould be that i would fall in love iwth him all over again.. i mean he does wanna take my daughter like if i have class during the day or if something important is going on in my schedule, but other than that, i wish he would take her because he loves her, not because i'm busy and i really need someone to watch her.. he doesnt get it; i think if i wait for him to grow up & realize his responsibilities, i'd be waiting a really long time for him to realize it & by then, i might've already made a decision & met someone new.. thats a long way from now, but i never thought i'd end up with anyone else but him...
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Oct 1 2004, 10:03 PM
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I love you <33333 Group: Member Posts: 2,928 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,404 |
aww ur babay is so cute!! did u put his name on the birt certificate?? because if u didnt he wouldnt b able 2 have coustody or ne thing.....if u did put his name on there tell him to eff off and u r not gonna get a test because u were the only one who was with him...and y should i trust u because u r the one who was calling me a beached whale
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Oct 1 2004, 10:37 PM
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hmm well guys like him aren't worth your time. right now all that matters is the care for your baby and yourself. your luck will eventually sneak up on you one day and you'll be happy. spend time taking care of your baby and letting friends come over or something? i have no idea how to deal w/situations like this.
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Oct 2 2004, 12:30 AM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
QUOTE(betrayedbytheducky @ Oct 1 2004, 10:37 PM) hmm well guys like him aren't worth your time. right now all that matters is the care for your baby and yourself. your luck will eventually sneak up on you one day and you'll be happy. spend time taking care of your baby and letting friends come over or something? i have no idea how to deal w/situations like this. totally agree. I understand how u miss him and all that... but please remember.. that was back then.. people change in good and bad ways and ... its in the past, let the past be the past. if it was a happy past, let the memories be with u, but hes not that person u once knew.. so.. jus tell him to leave u alone lols. a good thing to do is to raise up the adorable baby girl =) shes ssooo friggen cute =P and show him how much of a loser he is and how u dont need him in ur life. =) whether he'll come bak to u or not.. thats not the issue. just be happy and live a good life wit ur baby girl =) |
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Oct 2 2004, 12:30 AM
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 Want fries with that? Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,652 |
Agreed...your baby is adorable. Her smile is the cutest and...jerry springers an interesting show. I think you should try raising the baby with the help of your parents until you grow stronger to take care of her yourself. I really do hope things work out. As for the father of your baby, ah....i don't know what to say about him. *crosses fingers* I just hope he's not violent.
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Oct 2 2004, 01:36 AM
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 jn Group: Member Posts: 713 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,769 |
ur baby's so cute! i can't exactly relate to you tho, so its best i dont make any stupid suggestions. but remember, NO is not a BAD WORD!
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Oct 2 2004, 09:27 AM
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 stephanie .. Group: Member Posts: 1,965 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,529 |
your baby's really cute...you shouldn't trust him anymore cuz of all the $#!t he said to you...i wish you the best of luck!
  Steph
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Oct 2 2004, 09:48 AM
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 WWMD?! - i am from the age of BM 2 Group: Member Posts: 5,308 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,848 |
awww!!! babyyyy!!! cuuuute!!!
anyway, it's sad to see him do that to you. all people need support when having kids. however, i wouldn't go back with him. he doesn't seem all that trustworthy and probably won't be that much help. do you know of any relatives who could help out with money and stuff? |
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Oct 2 2004, 09:50 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 5,585 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 38,082 |
What a stupid jerk.
 Well since you still think about him, throwing bricks at his window can't happen.  And plus you're 22, so I don't think you'll do something like that I would do. Heh..Just think more about your baby girl instead of that bastard. You'll move on. You're strong from what I've read already. *hugs* - KPDesigns |
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Oct 3 2004, 04:57 PM
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OMG! She's sooo kute! Anyways, back to the topic! That guy's a effin jerk. Ignore him and move on. You don't need him anyways =]
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Oct 3 2004, 05:10 PM
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 I'm Cat. Gotta problem with that? Group: Member Posts: 394 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,845 |
well if he still calls that means that he does care bout u still... just try to let him back into ur lyf or al least in ur baby's lyf.... maybe he cares bout the baby
ur baby is soo cute..... soo adorable |
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Oct 4 2004, 03:10 PM
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I'm really very sorry to hear all this.
You need to focus on raising your beautiful child and just forget about him if he's not gonna be taking any responsibility. Focus on your child who loves you and try and provide the best for the both of you |
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