should I be mad?, :0( |
 Sep 6 2004, 09:20 AM
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 JeSsIcA rAyE  Group: Member Posts: 782 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,977  |
I was on my boyfirends desktop and I accidentally found a bunch of pictures of his ex-girlfriend...... or should I be worried.. I duno what to thing, cuz I don't wanna seem obsessive and not trusting... well not like he trusts me very well either.. I am just really confused right now. and he also told me that he would stop watching porn on this computer becuase it really messes it up and I hate it. but did he.... nope... no the computer is all fricken messed up.... what should I do??
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Sep 6 2004, 09:53 AM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
Reformat it.
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Sep 6 2004, 10:17 AM
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 Word. Group: Member Posts: 3,004 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,673 |
yeah what he said and um.. its probaly nothing.. i keep pics of girls i know on my computer and stuff and it doesn't mean anything.. and the porn thing.... it happens.
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Sep 6 2004, 10:23 AM
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 cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
prlly nuttin, i keep pics of my former crushes...
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Sep 6 2004, 10:27 AM
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cb=bullshit. Group: Member Posts: 1,783 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,793 |
Go back there and delete them all... and see if he says anything to you about it.. if he does... then... obviously he was LOOKING for the pics... and WHY would he do that? To remember all the times he had together with his ex?!
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Sep 6 2004, 11:52 AM
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 ooo la la Group: Member Posts: 433 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 19,853 |
just talk to him about it. ask why he has pics of her.
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Sep 6 2004, 11:59 AM
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 WWMD?! - i am from the age of BM 2 Group: Member Posts: 5,308 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,848 |
*shrug* i have 5 pics of my ex-ex-boyfriend in my wallet. it doesn't mean anything, it just means i was too lazy to take them out.
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Sep 6 2004, 12:05 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
QUOTE(omg_melface @ Sep 6 2004, 11:27 AM) Go back there and delete them all... and see if he says anything to you about it.. if he does... then... obviously he was LOOKING for the pics... and WHY would he do that? To remember all the times he had together with his ex?! i agree. delete them, and if he asks then tell him. |
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Sep 6 2004, 12:48 PM
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 Sweet n' Sexy Group: Member Posts: 146 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,489 |
well as long as they arent disgusting pictures of his xgf they might just be chillin there cuz hes a lazy mofo! that I wouldnt worry about...as far as porn...thats a problem. try to make deals with him...DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM TO GET HIM TO STOP but maybe offer him something if he stops.
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Sep 6 2004, 01:56 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 875 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,841 |
QUOTE(omg_melface @ Sep 6 2004, 10:27 AM) Go back there and delete them all... and see if he says anything to you about it.. if he does... then... obviously he was LOOKING for the pics... and WHY would he do that? To remember all the times he had together with his ex?! yeah i agree, if he yells at you or anything thatd mean he cares about the pictures more than you? 
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Sep 6 2004, 02:04 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
QUOTE(th5418 @ Sep 6 2004, 9:53 AM) Reformat it. haha yeah i agree, hope he didnt save it some where else |
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Sep 6 2004, 03:07 PM
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 mrs. carrabba Group: Member Posts: 67 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 33,786 |
i'd probably be a bit suspicious....
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Sep 6 2004, 04:27 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
QUOTE Go back there and delete them all... and see if he says anything to you about it.. if he does... then... obviously he was LOOKING for the pics... and WHY would he do that? To remember all the times he had together with his ex?! Yeah. I agree. You should delete 'em, and see if he mentions it.. if he does, then you have all rights to be pissed off. |
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Sep 6 2004, 05:19 PM
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POWAPOSTA Group: Member Posts: 3,169 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,725 |
QUOTE(omg_melface @ Sep 6 2004, 10:27 AM) Go back there and delete them all... and see if he says anything to you about it.. if he does... then... obviously he was LOOKING for the pics... and WHY would he do that? To remember all the times he had together with his ex?! Disagree. I don't really understand what is there to be upset about, I have pictures of my ex-friends and boyfriends. Boohoo. Shot me. |
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Sep 6 2004, 07:14 PM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
no its nothing, i keep my exs pictures on my comp and in my drawers or w/e u spell it.... its not like i look at them when im bored, its just a peice of my past... my memories in another word haha... Man u got him to quit porn? haha good sh!t... ide be like "i'll stop watching if u put out" hahaha....... anyways reformat the computer or do a system restore
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Sep 6 2004, 10:41 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 149 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,593 |
how long have you two been together though..? and how long were they togehter?
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Sep 6 2004, 10:52 PM
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 Bubble Group: Member Posts: 341 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,405 |
QUOTE(th5418 @ Sep 6 2004, 9:53 AM) Reformat it. Lmbo... i agree! 
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Sep 6 2004, 10:55 PM
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 Aznsorpor Group: Member Posts: 89 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,522 |
have you tried to talk to him about? or have u jus been too lenient..? dont let him be like taking advantage of the fact that you dont say nething. say something. or u can slowly delete the pics.. like not all at once but a few at a time especially since you said that he has a lot rite? or if i was you i would take the other memeber's advice and jus like format and say that it's messed up gotta format it.
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Sep 7 2004, 01:00 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,384 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,337 |
i dont think the pics mean anything. delete the pics, if he gets pissed off u for doing that, then yeh
the porn thing... eh i dunno no comment |
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Jul 18 2005, 01:14 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,087 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 36,491 |
well just go on it and when he comes by goes "heeey isnt this your ex gf?" haha keep it casual
and ALL guys pretty much look at porn. only like 5% of guys admit it though  nothing to be worried about, but if it does bug you a little bit u can talk to him about it. im sure he'll understand |
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Jul 18 2005, 02:30 PM
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CHYEAAHHH MAN Group: Member Posts: 1,255 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 168,013 |
QUOTE(linke3 @ Sep 6 2004, 1:05 PM) i agree. delete them, and if he asks then tell him.  why would you delete it? sometimes people have a reason for keeping pictures. as for the porn thing...ehh what can i say? it's a hard habit to break...haha no pun intended |
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Jul 18 2005, 02:31 PM
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QUOTE(th5418 @ Sep 6 2004, 10:53 AM) Reformat it. The computer, or the boy? |
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Jul 18 2005, 03:48 PM
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 emaleth Group: Member Posts: 56 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 169,513 |
ahah.
really it's not a big deal...just tell him to delete it not b/c you don't trust him but you would rather not see that crap on his computer when you're on it... and porn..yes all guys watch porn...of course they will say no when you ask but it's normal. sort of how girls like to gossip about other girls. |
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Jul 18 2005, 07:00 PM
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 ^-^ Group: Member Posts: 1,676 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,668 |
QUOTE(omg_melface @ Sep 6 2004, 7:27 AM) Go back there and delete them all... and see if he says anything to you about it.. if he does... then... obviously he was LOOKING for the pics... and WHY would he do that? To remember all the times he had together with his ex?! I disagree. Those could be the only place where the pictures are stored, you dont' want to delete the pics forever. Pictrues can be kept forever, they hold peices of memory and history and shouldn't be thrown away for no reason. I kinda agree that mightwork tho, just please save teh pictrues to a disk before you delete them off his computer. Otherwise he could get mad, and for a good reason. It's like deleting pictrues of your old freinds off your comp and they're the only ones you have. I'd be furious. |
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Jul 18 2005, 07:24 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
QUOTE QUOTE(th5418 @ Sep 6 2004, 10:53 AM) Reformat it. The computer, or the boy? Both. :D |
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Jul 18 2005, 07:29 PM
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 GREEENROCKS Group: Member Posts: 1,393 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,624 |
ask him about it.
or just delete them and see what he does.. |
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Jul 18 2005, 08:32 PM
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 it's our chemistry Group: Member Posts: 1,151 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,775 |
Hmmm I would be mad, but I'd keep it to myself. Instead, I'd trash all the photos and "accidentally" reformat his computer.
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Jul 18 2005, 09:10 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,101 |
confront him about the pictures. he is a guy porn is porn 'nuff said. reformat
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Jul 18 2005, 09:33 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
QUOTE(omg_melface @ Sep 6 2004, 7:27 AM) Go back there and delete them all... and see if he says anything to you about it.. if he does... then... obviously he was LOOKING for the pics... and WHY would he do that? To remember all the times he had together with his ex?! that might work... but he'd probably get mad at you for going through his personal stuff. it depends on your trust level really |
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Jul 18 2005, 09:47 PM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
I hate when guys look at porn, that is so disgusting. It's basically another form of cheating if you look at it, but ok. And i know all you girls say, "well they are guys, they look at porn. it's a known fact" ...yah but still, for me it's not somethan i let slide like that.
Um, the ex girlfriend pictures....I wouldn't just assume anything. You should go ask him about it. I mean i'd be worried if his ex girlfriends picture was the background on his desktop or somethan lol, but i'm sure he just never delelted those pictures or forgot they were there. So why don't you bring it up and talk to him about it? oh yah, and the girls up there are telling yah to delete the pictures. Um, no. That's his personal stuff, you wouldn't want him going on ur computer and deleting stuff would you? naw, just talk to him about it. Don't even think of doing somethan sneaky or nething. That's not the way to go lol |
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Jul 19 2005, 02:23 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 683 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 135,526 |
QUOTE(omg_melface @ Sep 6 2004, 7:27 AM) Go back there and delete them all... and see if he says anything to you about it.. if he does... then... obviously he was LOOKING for the pics... and WHY would he do that? To remember all the times he had together with his ex?! I would smack you the hell up if my girl did somethin like that...Well not really but I'd be angry as hell. |
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Jul 19 2005, 02:30 PM
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relax. not everyone gets all scarface and terrorizes traces of their ex after a breakup.
they're just old pictures. i'm sure they have no meaning. |
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Jul 19 2005, 03:56 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
now I would get mad. I am the jealous gf and if I dare found NE thin from my Bf's ex, I would get PISSED. Id find that girl, stick her in the face, then id go to my bf and punch him in the nuts...then I would just walk away and not talk to him for a while
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Jul 19 2005, 04:01 PM
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I'm sorry, but I don't agree with just trashing the pictures. Photo's are very meaningful to me and they might be for your boyfriend. For example, I have over 5 gigs of pictures, some of them are girlfriends, and I would be angry if someone just came along and deleted the pictures because they didn't like that person. I keep all of my pictures, even the ones I hate, so if I were you I would ask him about it, but don't to anything drastic.
For all you know the pictures could just be there, I have lots of random photo's on my desktop I havent put in my pictures folder yet. |
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Jul 19 2005, 04:05 PM
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 4/5th of all people do not understand fractions. Group: Member Posts: 735 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 169,498 |
don't get mad
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Jul 19 2005, 04:09 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 39 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 167,855 |
You should really talk things out first,
make sure that there are no clear signs that he still likes his exes or whatever. Don't do anything you're gonna regret later. Communication is the key to a successful relationship. And the porn thing, don't all guys watch porn at some time or another? I let my BF watch porn. I have no problem with that. |
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Jul 19 2005, 06:01 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
this topic is reallly old...she probably doesn't have tis problem anymore
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Jul 19 2005, 07:43 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
well your curious about it righT? so asak your man about it... why its in his computer in the first place.. but it explains it all that he was his ex...
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Jul 19 2005, 09:09 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
i don't think it should really matter..unless check the date of when they were token haha..
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