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[inthemudhole]

I never thought I'd bring myself down to do this, but here I am.
Posting in relationships.
Asking for advice.

Story::

Okay. Well. My boyfriend and I have been going together for about 2 3/4 months. For the past couple of weeks, he's been acting differently, and I don't know how to explain how he's acting differently, but he just is.

He's also been hanging out with a few friends of ours a lot lately.. and they're girls. He's always on the phone with them, and I haven't talked to him on the phone since early July.

A few people have recently said something like this to me.. "I don't see why you two are still going out. You don't talk often, and when you do, it's about nothing, really.. and you never see each other."

I don't exactly know what to do.
Yeah, I guess I should talk to him about it, but I'm afraid I might mess it up.. I might be misunderstanding him, but maybe not.

Uhm. So, what do you guys think?

[MeanBastard]

Break it up. Unless you want to live under the illusion he still likes you. Or maybe you should confront.

[leeeza702]

well, I think you should talk to him about your situation... if you guys barely talk, go out, see each other or whatever.. it doesn't really seem like you guys are "going out" you know... but uh... I say talk to the boyfriend and see what he thinks...

[inthemudhole]

Well.
We used to call each other everyday, and see each other almost everyday.

Now I feel like I did something wrong.

I just emailed him.. telling him I felt things seemed a bit different between us.

[slurp]

you have to talk to him sooner or later if this continues, since you guys used to see each other almost everyday and now that youre not, there is something wrong already and i dont think talking to him about it is a way misunderstanding him?

[Gr33nT3agUrL]

As i read the story n it seemed to me lyke he's been ignorin u n the love between u 2 started to fade away so itz better to talk it out n then if u don think it'll work out, DUMP HIM

[x0143637x0]

my bf is doing the same thing too. so i juss talked to him bout it and now we're still working things out. so yooh need to talk to him

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

talk to him......duh? communication is the biggest part of a relationship..

probally is starting to like ur friends and hes tryin to hook up with them IMO but ima naughty person and i doubt hes like me. heh

hrm maybe he just needs some space?

[inthemudhole]

Well. They're OUR friends, and my friend and I talked about that.

-One's a ninth grader (1 year older)
-One likes to hang out with guys rather than date them.. sorta tomboyish.
-And the last one talked to me about it and said she would never do anything to hurt me, and that she doesn't even like Alec.

[HaN4RaNg]

i suggest u talk to him bout it one on one. tell him how ur feeling and ask if anythings wrong. really, i wudnt bother with a guy like him.. not calling, hanging out with ur friends instead of u, barely even talking to u.. what sorta relationship is that? but before deciding anything, talk to him bout it.

[conster]

i think u should talk to him about it whether ur misunderstanding him or not.. but remember if u dont talk to him, the misunderstanding gets deeper so its better to talk it out... and plus its normal for a girl to think whatever ur thinking cuz.. its jus normal lol but either way talk it out

[silver-rain]

yeah, you should talk to him. this happened to me and my bf, and since i didnothing about this, he broke up with me. bleh.

[sporadic]

Brie, you don't have any problems with him liking other girls, so I'd move past that.

I think that he's lost interest in your relationship, cause you guys rarely talk these days...

But whatever you do, DONT BREAK UP ONLINE.
Just don't.

[dani41790]

woah that sounds familiar cuz that waz kinda happening to me last week. well umm just talk to him and stuff and hopefully things will b fine

[inthemudhole]

I think that he's lost interest in your relationship, cause you guys rarely talk these days...

We talk often.. every day, at least.
Just not in-person or on the phone.
I actually do prefer IM.. but.. eh.

[MeanBastard]

Email? Big mistake girl.

[inthemudhole]

Email? Big mistake girl.

I know.. it's just I had to get that off my chest at the moment, and it was too late to call him, and he wasn't online at the time, so I figured email was better than nothing. *shrugs*

But whatever you do, DONT BREAK UP ONLINE.
Just don't.

Wow, that's encouraging, Liz. :P

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EDIT//
K, emails.. he replied..

Yea, I guess I did have fun, but I missed you a lot, you really should've come with.

Yah, I know what you mean, I don't know why we don't talk very much on AIM or don't see each other. I mean, we haven't seen each other since.....a long time ago, too long.
No, I do not feel differently about you. And if I do feel differently, it's more love for you because I love you more than anything on this world. I'm serious. I love you so much. We really need to do a Magical Playdate sometime this week, cuz I haven't seen you in the longest time.

I love you so much

and mine..

Hey, Alec. Uhm. Well, since we didn't talk much at all today, I decided to e-mail you..
Sounds like you had fun today. =-]

Well.. I was thinking about a lot of stuff last night. ^_^
Uhm.
It sort of seems like things are.. different between us lately.
We don't seem to be talking as much as we used to, and seeing each other as often.. or so I've noticed.
I'm just wondering if you feel differently about me.. or something..
It just seems like things are different, and I don't understand why.

Yeah. Well.

I love you.

Love,
Brie

I'm still skeptical, but eh..

[racegirl24A]

well i read here a lot and never post, but i went through close to the same situation as yours so i figured id give out some advice. it was a little after me and my ex bf's 3 month, and things were just different. he spent more time talking to his other friends (which were girls) than me. he still told me he loved me and all that stuff, so i tried not to worry about it. pretty big mistake on my part. a few days later he dumped me and told me he liked 2 other girls more than me, which were the ones he had been spending more time with and talking to more than me. so my best advice would be just to break it off. besides, youre 13 right? i was 12 at the time, just about to turn 13. Im 14 now and ive decided just to wait a few years before i start dating. got plenty of time to find someone and i find it kinda silly to have a bf at such a young age. wow, sorry if that was kinda long.

[iheartsimba]

aww i know what you mean!


....except on his behalf =/

this is what happened to ME. NOT SAYING THIS IS WHAT HE'S THINKING!


We never really tlaked cuz at the beginning there was like this awkward feeling....before that we were seirously best friends. the less i tlaked to him, the less i saw his good qualities. and the more i focused on his bad. I mean he was like the hottest guy in school. But then I kept thinking all stuckup. Like his add, and his dislexia. and lyk omg he's 2 inches shorter than me! and omg hes like 5 months younger! OH EM GEE.
Wow i was a nerd. a complete stuck up female dog.
but to be honest, he just started to get utterly annoying.
And he had an obsession with me to.
My firend went over to his house and all these pictures i drew were hanging abouve his bed so he could see them when he feel asleap. along with my picture.

then i started to focus on those little thing and they just seemed to get bigger and bigger and and the bad qualities were the only thing i saw in him anymore.


anyway. a few weeks later i just broke it off with him.
he was crushed of course =p
but he serously was...and i felt horrible.
and he liked me 6 months later. then kinda stopped.
then i liked him again.
and he liked me again
but by then i had stopped again.
and he likes me agaiun.

and oh god i apologize for making this whole post about me buut maybe it could relate somewhat to you topic. i just got a little bit carried away in the story =X