boyfriend or friend advice, i need advice |
 Aug 1 2004, 09:29 PM
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Ugh, me and this guy ((jeremy)) have been friends since we were 4. We go to church together..so i see him almost every sunday. About a month and a half ago, we started going out, and I didnt really like the whole 'goin out' thing((even tho we've tried it 3 times before this)), so i broke up with him*that was a week ago..from todae* and now, he aint talking to me. He'll call, but he doesn't say anything. He wont even say hi. He'll just be silent. Then he'll ask me if I have anything to say..and i say no. So he hangs up.
Am i supposed to have something to say? I meen, im not sorry for our breaking up. He's like a brother to me, I cant go around kissin my brother. But i dont want that to ruin our friendship!!! What do i do? |
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Aug 1 2004, 09:53 PM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
if u've tried it three times before this, and then u go out with him again, then crush his heart and hopes and dreams, NO DUH HE'S GONNA GET PISSED OFF! i swear, people these days, grrr.... anywho, i suppose he's expecting a, "i'm sorry" or a, "i wish we could make it thru our relationship, lets get back together." cause he obviously really cares about u in the sense of bf + gf. and also, does he even kno about how u feel about being bf + gf together? cause maybe he thinks u like him as a bf, but just keep on breaking up with him or just using him or whatever. hm...maybe i'm just crazy. whatever. *MOO*
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Aug 1 2004, 10:04 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
QUOTE He'll call, but he doesn't say anything. He wont even say hi. He'll just be silent. Then he'll ask me if I have anything to say..and i say no. So he hangs up. ok thts kinda like stalking there..no point into the call, just wasting money.. NE who, u can go out with him again but he seems very immature about this whole situation and i think u need someone better but hey, its just me. just try to go to him like nothin happened as in ever started going out and stuff. just be a friend and goof around. if he is still -_- then be patient. im sure he will be his normal self around u soon |
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Aug 1 2004, 10:20 PM
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 Pimp Status Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,200 |
QUOTE just try to go to him like nothin happened as in ever started going out and stuff. Ummm I dont think thats a good idea. if the guy is still calling you then its pretty obvious that he still feels something there. The thing that you could do is talk to him about it... You dont have to go back out with him or anything, but you've got to realize that this guys heart is broken and that hes hurt... If i was the guy the last thing I would want is for the girl to think that everything is fine, because it really isnt. And when the guy calls the reason why the c onversation is quiet and awkward is that this guy might be trying to find some common ground on which to talk on. I bet when you two were going out you guys could talk about anyting, but now that things have changed, he may or may not know how to talk to you. Bottem line is to still be there for him if he needs anything, and continue to support him in any way you can. Hope this helps... |
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Aug 2 2004, 12:03 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,025 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,051 |
QUOTE(dahding @ Aug 1 2004, 9:53 PM) if u've tried it three times before this, and then u go out with him again, then crush his heart and hopes and dreams, NO DUH HE'S GONNA GET PISSED OFF! i swear, people these days, grrr.... anywho, i suppose he's expecting a, "i'm sorry" or a, "i wish we could make it thru our relationship, lets get back together." cause he obviously really cares about u in the sense of bf + gf. and also, does he even kno about how u feel about being bf + gf together? cause maybe he thinks u like him as a bf, but just keep on breaking up with him or just using him or whatever. hm...maybe i'm just crazy. whatever. *MOO* i agree... try talking to him, and if he wont answer, slip a note into his mailbox or something... |
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Aug 2 2004, 01:03 AM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
tell him how u feel about it, its not like uve done anything wrong and get some logic through his head lol and i think u should pretend it never happened cuz if he sees that uve moved on then he'll probably move on
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Aug 2 2004, 07:12 AM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
iono how u can dump someone 3 or 4 times and still want to be best buds with them, or send that kind of vibe lol.
Anywho hae u tried telling him how u feel about the relationship and friendship u 2 have? im pretty sure hell still be "uGhZ" when u tell him how u feel but atleast he wont keeps his hopes up and making both ur lives uhhh miserable ? ~_~ 
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Aug 2 2004, 07:44 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 421 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,135 |
think about him for a second. you guys grew up together and he's probably liked you for a good amount of that time. you finally decide to date and then you just break it off. you don't apologize or give your reasons. you can't always get what you want. he sure didn't.
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