Friends or Lovers?, So how does it go? Options

[Corianboi]

There are many cases where a friendship is ruined over someone developing feelings for the other...in your opinion, should the line be crossed?

[sammi rules you]

My first boyfriend was first my friend. It was cool for a while -- until we broke up. Now we barely talk anymore.

So, it's OK to take it up to the next step. Just don't break up.

[*CEP*]

Sure, cross the line.
Just don't be stupid during the relationship. Don't do f*cked up things to her. She knows you. She was your friend. If all turns out well, you both'll end up being friends still.

- Chinkieeyedpnoi

[conster]

of course cross the line, i think its worth giving it a try.. if they break up neutrally like they both just think its best to be friends again, they can be friends again... just hope that they wont do something harmful to each other or...

[Winter]

Of course you give it a shot.

I was friends with my ex first. Things ended quite well between us and after that, we continued being friends. Now, he;s my best guy friend.

[Blue Lightning]

All my bfs where friends first, and only two of them ended on a good note though, but then again the last ex I've had is a complete jerk, haha

[Corianboi]

Heh, I just wanted to know some view points other than my own

[HaN4RaNg]

umm i duno.. a reason im always afraid to tell some guy i like him is because im afraid he'll act different around me and it'll ruin the friendship. so i usually keep it to myself. =\

[LiNHy POO]

aahh good question! i think it depends on the two... if they want to have more.. then yehh sure they can go for it!! but sometimes... you could be better off juss as friends...

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

sure

[inthemudhole]

Hmm. Well, my boyfriend now was one of my really good friends before.. and we started to hang out more and feelings grew for each other.. we're still together.

I think those relationships are best, because you know the person well enough, and the relationship is most likely to last longer..

[mizz_mithy]

at my age i'd rather have a best friend than a lover. that might change when i get older but for now no that line should not be crossed. think about it if ur realtionship doesn't turn out good as b/f and g/f u might ruin forever. not forever but for a long time.

[inthemudhole]

sure

^I smell spam.

[anger_is_my_frie...]

nope.

[anger_is_my_frie...]

to me, i don't think it's worth it.
i mean, you have this friend that you can talk to, you can tell him about the recent guy you're dating and all your personal feelings and stuff, but for me it naturally feels awkward talking to a bf about real personal things without being afraid of what he'll think. but if you're willing to put your heart on the line, then do it. the sad thing is that you probably won't last forever with him/her, and when you guys break up it will never be the same, trust me. you might've been "closer than friends" or whatever, but after that you really don't know "where" the fine line is, and it also depends on what you guys really had together.
but all in all, i say don't go for it. if you were really good friends, wouldn't you want it to stay that way??-my xanga-

[sheepy]

well i would not risk it. i dink. it depends on how much i love him :]

[s0emotionalx3]

I think it depends on both of the people. i mean if they really do like each other that way, then nothing's going to stop how they think about each other. A relationship is basically a friendship, added with the lovey dovey things except you think about the other person differently. And my boyfriend right now used to be like a brother to me. And it doesn't seem awkward..

[[i]LLMATiC]

id depends on the people themselves.. but i wouldnt cross the line wit my bestestest friend in the world shes the best.. i love that girl but i wouldnt go out wit her shes like family i kan tell her ne thing theres alot of good things outta it but then alot of bad things too cuz if u break up then the friendship os over.. its no longer jus a friend shes now an ex but sumtimes it works for the best like there jus madly in love `nd live happily ever after..

[peach_kisses13]

i'm in that kinda relationship now. i've know the guy for 4 years, we've been the best of friends, and it just happened. i think that you should jus follow your heart. don't let anything hold you back, cuz u never kno wat you're missing out on. but jus be cautious, u dont wanna give ur heart away too fast. just let it flow. so yea, cross the line. rules were meant to be broken

[COLOR=red]..i hope you open your eyes soon, before you realize i won't be there much longer..

[pbear]

I'm kind of in the same situation.
I want to stay friends because I don't want anything to change.
On the other hand, I want him to know how I feel.

So...this is just me, but I wrote an entry in my xanga [the newest one] telling him that I like him, but I don't want anything to happen between us.
Complicated, really, but I'm glad I told him.

[Caitlin]

yeah it really depends on both of the people. my first relationship we were friends for a really long time but things didnt end up too well & we arent even really friends now.
just make sure that its a good choice- sometimes people are just better off as just friends.

[x hYpErRoSeY x]

i t hink its fine, but it sucks if you break up, because most of the time its like you never talk to your ex-friend AND ex-bf/gf

[mouse_3k]

If u wanna cross the line then go for it. who knows, maybe she/he is the one (corny i know) but my ex & current bf was my close friends before we started dating. my ex, we still are friends and stuff. my current bf, never been happier.



I mean, if ur friendship is something u wanna risk, then go for it. Who knows, maybe u guys will date and then after, still be friends after. theres always a good thing tht might happen

[straightedge9]

my first bf was one of my best buddies before we went out.. and im still in love with him over a year later! unfortunatly, i dunno if he loves me anymore.. we broke up cause he went to a different school. but anyway... i think there are most definatly cases where the line can be crossed

[Guarneri]

PUHAHAHAA.... JESUS is my friend and my lover.

[someflipguy]

I have many friends that like me but I just can't go out and date some of them because friendships are more important to me! And, getting to more than a friendship may just be weird. But, in some cases it works...just not in my case..

[Stupid_Fat_Boy]

There are many cases where a friendship is ruined over someone developing feelings for the other...in your opinion, should the line be crossed?

if u really really like them i think it should

[x AZN D0RKii x]

if you want the line to be crossed then go ahead cross it . if you don`t think so, then don`t cross it . in my opinion i think you can cross it if you really like then person, and if it doesn`t work out then you can get back to being friends easy as that .

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not all friendships get ruined because one another crossed the line .. lots of my friends crossed the line and their relationship with my other friend is pretty going well . which i am happy for them