Ask him out or not??, please give me some advice.... sigh... Options

[> [ a k i k o...]

*deep breathe* okai, I don't really want to talk about this 'relationship' but I'm kinda in too deep now. warning: story is long. And I'm asking for help cuz I dont know what to do now

Okai, so I have known this guy since 6th grade. But during 6th, 7th, and 8th grade, we were enemies and hated each other so much. However, start of 9th grade, we started to clik and I started to like him. I'm a junior now and I have liked him for 2 years now. During these two years, we hanged out a lot, and I guess he is like the closest friend I have. I never told him I liked him though and he never asked me out ( kinda hoping he'd ask me out, but he didn't). During these two years, there were some times when I dated other people which cause him to be mad and not talk to me the time period I was going out. Many people have also ask us if we were a couple and such. End of sophomore year, his best friend told me that he used to liked me. And this summer, I feel that I am beginning to really love him. His best friend even told me to ask him out. But I don't want to. My reason is: Lately he has been hanging out with one of my best friend (his friend too). I know that she used to like him and that he used to like her too. I just dont know if they still feel the same. Anyways, they have been hanging out a lot. I fear that if I ask him out, he might say No cuz he doesn't like me anymore. Or if I ask him out and he say Yes, I might ruin my friendship with my girl friend, cuz I'm pretty sure she likes him too. I have even asked her who she likes and she kinda hints it over to him that she likes him. And if he says No, it might make out really great friendship awkward. Not dating him would be fine but DUDE it's been 2 years!! and I'm kinda growing impatience because I don't want to have to wait for him you know? I could be missing out on other great guys too. But I really really like him...really bad. I never realize how much I like him until I dated my "ex". I broke up with my "ex" cuz I realize I was trying to forget him but didnt work ( while back) see..he's like the ONE for me! I can't stop thinking about him. Plus I dunno if I should take a chance and ask him out. He once told me he doenst want to date asian ( he's white) so I dunno. advice?

[x0143637x0]

if you think its gonna ruin ur friendship with ur grlfriend then i dont think you should. if you dont think that she cares then heck go for it. onli if you think your gonna have a chance cause yooh wouldnt want to make ur friendship between u nd him awkward.

[> [ a k i k o...]

if you think its gonna ruin ur friendship with ur grlfriend then i dont think you should. if you dont think that she cares then heck go for it. onli if you think your gonna have a chance cause yooh wouldnt want to make ur friendship between u nd him awkward.

when you say it....it sounds so simple if only it were so....

[talentedbabe04]

this exact thing happened to my best friend! just ask your friend if it's ok. she probably won't mind. she could be really happy for you.

[jo3]

if you and your friend both like the same guy, you both have to:

1) agree not to go out w/ the guy
2) let one or the other date him
3) let the 1st one to him date him (will most likely result in a loss of a friend)

i'd go with #1. if your friend decides to forget about your promise, that tells you that she really isn't your friend

if you do #2, then make sure you take the initiative and go ask the guy first. only problem is once you (or she) breaks up with him, then the other might wanna date him, and all that's gonna do is allow him to make comparisons between you two...which isn't good

one thing i'd definately not do is #3. but if you choose #3, then forget your friendship...and run after the guy!

[HuGs_fOr_yOu]

I think that you shoudl see what your friend thinks about the whole thing, then go for it.

[aznplayaz]

well this is pretty confusing cause if you wait for then to finish going out maybe your friend doesn't want you hanging around her ex

[conster]

wow.. thats one hard situation... well.. u and ur gf should still be as good as u two are now whether he likes u or not... and i think u should tell him, not ask him out lols jus tell him how u feel...

yes i knoe ur afraid of his answer but u gotta face it sooner or later or else ur jus gonna be like how u are now but worst cuz u cant get it over with... get it over with now so u wont be missing out great guys =) good luck i hope u get wit him tho!

[*mishyerr*]

wow. that sounds like my story....

i would talk to the girlfriend about it first.. and explain to her how long u've liked him. and tell her that you want to ask him out. if you do really LOVE him. im talking real love. like REAL love. than i think that your girlfriend should support you in your decision. and you know what.. if he says no the first time. dont back down! =) i asked out the guy i liked like.. a lot of times.. he didnt go out with me at first cus he was too shy to.

but a total turnoff is that you dated other guys to make him mad. thats not gooood! =(

[straightedge9]

it shouldn't matter what your friend thinks.. this is about YOU. if she's really a good friend, then she'll be happy for you no matter what. but i know this is harder than it sounds...
good luck