We broke up..., ...yesterday |
 Jul 29 2004, 01:05 AM
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Justin and I had been going out for 2 years. We had decided to take a break during the period. And after about a week we got back together because we could not stand it without each other. But after we got back together he had changed. He wasn't himselve. He had told me that if I wanted to go back out with him I needed to stop smoking and cutting. I told him that I could agree on the cutting but not with smoking he accepted the fact and we moved on. Then one day he asked me if I had smoked lately and I had told him the truth, yes. He got mad, upset and all that. I told him that it was something I enjoyed doing and if he had a problem with it we should end our relasionship. So he dealed with it. Then he asked again the other day. I told him yes. I realized that it is not worth stoping something you like for someone. Not only was he controlling but he hated the people I hung out with, so he would always try to make plans when I had already planned somethign with someone he did not like. I was sick and tired of being hurt and so were my friends. So I called him last night around 9 o'clock and I tolded him we needed to break up. I told him why and everything. He cried... horrably. I mean horrably. He ask for another chance to change things and I turned him down. I feel horrable counting that I love him, but I fell in love with the person he once was. Not who he is now. He just doesn't understand that. I feel horrable and told him I was truly sorry... but I don't feel like that is enough.. please.. help.
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Jul 29 2004, 01:27 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 239 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,630 |
hmm.. if i was in that position, i would have told him before what he was doing instead of saying it there and ending the relationship without a second chance. maybe he WOULD have changed
 . hopefully u two are still friends, good luck
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Jul 29 2004, 01:30 AM
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 it onli hurts wen i breathe Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,197 |
um .. maybe you should smoke neways .. its bad for you .. poor kid.
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Jul 29 2004, 01:54 AM
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 Aww! ^___^ Group: Member Posts: 184 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,645 |
Maybe give him a second chance? I don't really know, I'm sorry I'm not a big help.
-hEaRt <3 |
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Jul 29 2004, 04:38 PM
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i would give him a second chance... thats cuz he told u to stop smoking, which he shows that he cares about u
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Jul 29 2004, 06:09 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 286 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,508 |
awww, well if you still have feelings for him, why not give him a second chance to fix things?
 He probably only wanted you to quit smoking because he cared for your health and stuff.
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Jul 29 2004, 07:22 PM
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iwould give him a second chance cuz obviously he cares alot about you. boyz like that are really hard to find.
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Jul 29 2004, 08:02 PM
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I would give him a second chance. From what you're telling me, he really cares for you. I mean, most guys would just have given up on your smoking habits and such. But he put up with it. I dunno, he seems to really care a lot for you and your health. Most guys, if they dont like something about you, they just dump you. And here he is, trying to help you. I know you love to smoke, but you should consider what it's doing to your health. You should also give him a second chance. And the whole "he plans things with me when i have plans with my friends," is just his way of trying to help you. um..your friends probably smoke too?? so he's trying to break your habit cuz he wants you to live long. He sounds really caring. Give it another shot??
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Jul 30 2004, 01:04 AM
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you should give him another chance. he was just showing you he cares. cuz smoking is bad for you and he doesnt want anything bad to happen to you
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Jul 30 2004, 01:12 AM
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i <3 me Group: Member Posts: 315 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,888 |
is an object really worth more than a relationship?
if it is, then HE deserves a better relationship |
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Jul 30 2004, 11:48 AM
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I gave him many secound changes gone on to the thrid, forth, and 5th
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Jul 30 2004, 11:50 AM
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QUOTE(jo3 @ Jul 30 2004, 1:12 AM) is an object really worth more than a relationship? if it is, then HE deserves a better relationship No it's not. It's something that I am addicted to. and if you were put in this position you would understand. |
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Jul 30 2004, 02:35 PM
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2 years isnt a short period of time, if he asked for a chance you can still consider it thinking if its worth it or not. have you thought that he wants you to stop smoking for your own good? well i know its hard for you butt it might help if you try to smoke not as much? if you guys are meant to be youll be, good luck
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Jul 31 2004, 09:05 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
2 yrs is a long time. maybe he was just concerned about you, cuz lik smoking is bad for you. but den again if u really loved each other u would take each others faults nd all.
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Jul 31 2004, 10:36 PM
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 Ah, mon Dieu ! Group: Member Posts: 2,274 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,587 |
do what you want to...
haha i'm no help, but seriously... do what you think is right. |
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Jul 31 2004, 10:42 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Yeah. He was probably concerned..
And 2 years is a LONG time.. congrats on that.. 
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Aug 7 2004, 04:28 PM
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i think that he did this cuz he really cared about u and loved ya....mayb u should should consider to stop...it's ur choice if u think he is worth it to stop..
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Aug 7 2004, 10:05 PM
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Maybe he's just concerned. He's looking out for you. Don't take it so... personally.
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Aug 8 2004, 12:25 AM
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 vertically challenged Group: Member Posts: 181 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 36,342 |
No offense if taken but I really think you took his relationship for granted. I mean, a relationship is worth more than an addiction, especially one that hurts you. And he's just caring for you.. I know its an addiction and it's not something you can just STOP. But he probably just loves you a lot and doesnt want you doing something thats bad for you.
WIth your friends.. maybe thats just a guy thing? Im not sure but maybe he doesnt necessarily HATE your friends. You can always talk to him about the planning thing. And yes i think he does deserve another chance. It takes a lot of emotion for a guy to cry over something. Would you really pick an addiction and misunderstandings between him and other people over two years of relationship? |
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Aug 8 2004, 02:32 AM
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im sorry to hear about what you went through (the breaking up thing) and the trouble you're in right now... yea i can imagine its really hard to go through.
if i were you.. since you 2 have been going out for 2 years which is a while.. i think you should try to stop smoking. i know its hard and its something you like to do but just think of it this way: want a relationship/want the smoking going on and no relationship? sorry if that pissed u off idk im just giving u my opinions.
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Aug 8 2004, 08:06 PM
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like wat most ppl said...he probably did it cuz he cares a lot about u....mayb ya gotta decide if u think he's worth it and u really luv him...
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Aug 12 2004, 08:56 PM
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Maybe he just really cares for you that he doesn't want you doing something bad that might kill you later on. Gotta agree with everybody else.
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Aug 12 2004, 09:08 PM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
wow that sucks. but umm i realli dont think he was realli tryin to b controlling by making u stop smoking and cutting. i think he was trying to make u do wats best for you because he realli cares for you
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Aug 13 2004, 01:19 AM
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he probably wanted you to stop smoking because he cared about you so much. if i was in your position & i loved him, then i would have stopped. what's more important to you? it must have hurt him that you chose smoking over him.
sorry that's just what i think. |
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Aug 13 2004, 01:53 AM
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QUOTE(sandra @ Jul 29 2004, 4:38 PM) i would give him a second chance... thats cuz he told u to stop smoking, which he shows that he cares about u he isn't actually tryin to control u mayb he realli cares bout u 2 ask u to stop cuttin and smokin. its bad 4 u anywayz |
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Aug 13 2004, 03:08 PM
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 anti-friendly Group: Member Posts: 181 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,973 |
forget him
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Aug 13 2004, 03:23 PM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
give him a second chance but only after u explained and point out the things ude like him to work on... and ur getting mad cuz he tries to make u quit smoking and makes plans for u guys so the relationship stays fresh.........HRMMMMMMM! u seem kind of selfish haha. anyways 2 years is alot to throw away without tryin to make things work..... its up to u
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