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post Jul 26 2004, 10:31 PM
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so im da kind of grls that are kinda shy. pplz tell me that i need to be more outgoing and i think so too. but the thing is its hard to be outgoing when u started out as the shy kind ermm.gif any ideas on how to make it easier?
 
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post Jul 26 2004, 10:49 PM
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i was shy too when i was younger and it was hard for me to talk with people. i realized that if i dont do something about it, i wont get more out of my life becuz i was hesitant to experiment. just talk to people, and be more open but not to open that you might slip something out that you dont want anyone to know. im still shy tho but only around boys cuz i dont know how to flirt *sweatdrop*
 
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post Jul 27 2004, 04:25 AM
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QUOTE(x0143637x0 @ Jul 26 2004, 7:31 PM)
so im da kind of grls that are kinda shy. pplz tell me that i need to be more outgoing and i think so too. but the thing is its hard to be outgoing when u started out as the shy kind ermm.gif any ideas on how to make it easier?

Aww, same here cry.gif I mean, I can't try and be more out going... cause I'm not very confident in myself... so it's hard
 
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post Jul 27 2004, 07:56 AM
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just be more social with people, if u stop at a gas station or something and u see someone's car that u think is cool, talk to him/her about it
 
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post Jul 27 2004, 08:10 AM
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maybe try to get involved in clubs at school... or join a sports team?
 
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post Jul 27 2004, 11:38 AM
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hmm.. ur kinda shy? lucky... im a little too loud and outgoing... tongue.gif ... but i was shy *alot of people dont beleive that* and what helped me was acting. I take acting classes at usc *even though im only in 7th grade* and thats a talent taht i discovered that helped me talk to other people. yah so try different clubs activities... hmmm i dont noe if im jst a dork but i like debate club as an activitie and that should help... its lots of fun... so jst find something that will get u used to being around other people... hmmm i hope this helped biggrin.gif
 
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post Jul 27 2004, 12:08 PM
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Erm. I'm pretty shy, too, so yeah.
I'm outgoing among the people that I'm acquainted with..

Uhh, just try and be social, and don't worry about embarrassing yourself, just be nice and be yourself. _smile.gif
 
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post Jul 27 2004, 03:17 PM
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just try to be confident in yourself, actually u kno wut? fake it for a while, and take risks, eventually it'll come naturally....
 
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post Jul 27 2004, 03:25 PM
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I'm shy in class, and around my classmates or "peers." But, when I'm with friends and/or family I'm so loud I can get on their nerves. tongue.gif
 
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post Jul 27 2004, 03:26 PM
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mm i dunno find friends ur comfy around... then u can act goofy... hehe dunno seems to work for me^^
 
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post Jul 29 2006, 05:15 PM
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Being shy is hard && believe me i know first hand. I used to be shy when i was younger, but one day i decided to do something about it. I just took a deep breathe in a took risks, and i met some amazing friends and consequently some people who dislike me, but my friends are worth it. So take a chance cause once you start it gets easier and easier. You may be thinking its not that im afraid to say something...i just never know what to say. Well if you have some spare time on your hands just think of some topics so you don't run out. People always like a good conversationalist. && a compliment or 2 never hurt. Just do the little things like say bless you when some sneezes, say hi when you walk past them in the halls, pick up their pencil if they drop it and put a smile on your face people are attracted to happy people. This may seem way bizarre, but can actually help, talk to yourself in the mirror and work on self-confidence boosters.

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post Jul 29 2006, 05:49 PM
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I used to be really really shy, but since i started hanging out with my friend Tanya, her outgoing attitude has started to rub off on me.
 
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post Jul 29 2006, 05:55 PM
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join a club that you like in school. you`ll meet people who will have the same interests as you and pretty soon, you`ll be socializing with them as if you don`t even know what the word shy means. after that, you`ll start to progress from just socializing with club members to other people.
 
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post Jul 29 2006, 06:20 PM
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ask ur friend to hang out... go out.. do w/e u feel free to... well i live in the city so theres a lot you can do here
 
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post Jul 30 2006, 12:13 AM
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Getting used to some people and being loud could help. Having cofidence in yourself helps a lot.
 
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post Jul 30 2006, 12:35 AM
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Learn to like yourself before expecting others to like you. In short, self confidence is the best attribute that will contribute to outgoingness.
 
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post Jul 30 2006, 10:12 AM
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number one key don't try to be outgoing, just be yourself and it will just click.
meet people that are interested in the same stuff you are.
if you collect something, meet with someone that collects the same thing.

 
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post Jul 31 2006, 02:22 AM
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QUOTE(xsweetdreams12x @ Jul 27 2004, 3:25 PM) *
I'm shy in class, and around my classmates or "peers." But, when I'm with friends and/or family I'm so loud I can get on their nerves. tongue.gif


Haha, kind of the same thing with me. Working in Customer Service has helped me to be more outgoing with people though...because that forces you to deal with all different kinds of personalities and stuff. =]
 
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post Jul 31 2006, 02:28 AM
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Try subscribing to some teen magazine like Seventeen. I'm sure they have tips.
 
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post Jul 31 2006, 06:25 AM
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LOLZ! The funny thing about me is I`m the outgoing kinda shy.. I just basicailly go outside by myself.. Sometime`s a friend or 2 and just.. Try to have fun [=
 
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post Jul 31 2006, 12:17 PM
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post Jul 31 2006, 01:51 PM
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talk a lot, laugh a lot, scream, go crazy once in a while, and be nice :)
 
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post Jul 31 2006, 02:25 PM
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I used to be shy, too. But not anymore.

Make sure that you wear clothes that not only represent you, but stand out. I'm not saying to wear something bizarre, just make sure that you use color. Red represents confindence.
Keep your makeup natural. Guys tend to prefer natural beauties.
Make a list of all the positive and negative things about yourself. Write down ways to fix the negatives and focus on the positives.
Surround yourself with supportive friends and family.
EVERYONE has things about themself that they want to change. Learn to love yourself the way you are.
Try a new activity that you were too shy to do before. It will help you realize that you're braver than you think.
Last, and most importantly, SMILE! A bright smile just exudes confidence.

Remember, confidence and an outgoing nature go hand in hand. Build your confidence first.
 
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post Jul 31 2006, 02:35 PM
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thats a problem for me too. its takes me multiple encounters to be comfortable with a person. its hard to start converstations for me.

im guessing it takes practice. ask people about themselves, till you find something you have in common. try not to be the quiet one of everyone, people tell me it makes a person seem boring.
and like what mai_z said it might seem fake at first but just be confident in what you are sayign and how you are acting.
 
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post Jul 31 2006, 03:29 PM
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meh I'm shy too.
fake it.
 
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post Jul 31 2006, 03:30 PM
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Just don't think go for it. Don't let anything hold you back!
 
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post Jul 31 2006, 07:00 PM
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I'm really shy around anyone other than my family...it's weird, I hate it
 
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post Aug 1 2006, 05:55 PM
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You can start out by being friendly towards girls first. Especially the ones you don't know. When you feel comfortable, it's always good to joke around in a funny way. Once you think you can handle it, try it towards opposite sex. Then you'll start being outgoing. It also helps when you join activities like sports or NHS because people recognize you more and that's when your reputation grows.
 
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post Aug 1 2006, 07:11 PM
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truthfully, i took Drama and i was forced to lose my stage fright if i wanted to pass the class. it REALLY helped me out. i used to only have a few friends and now i know someone or meet someone EVERYWHERE i go.
 
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QUOTE(Kathleen @ Jul 31 2006, 10:17 AM) *
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i can't give better advice than what's already been said. self-confidence really is the key though. if you're comfortable with yourself then it makes other people comfortable around you. outgoing friends always help, the number one place to go for them is the theater. drama kids are ALWAYS out there. fearless, we are. if theater's not your thing, then find something you are interested in. i promise there will be other people who are interested too.
 
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QUOTE(nyctophiliac @ Jul 31 2006, 8:00 PM) *
I'm really shy around anyone other than my family...it's weird, I hate it

I KNOW IT'S SO ANNOYING. ARRRRGH. grr.gif
 
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post Aug 2 2006, 01:21 PM
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just always try to be yourself no matter what . try to take pride in yourself with less ignorance .and try to use your unordinary attributes and make into something positive as though your trying to show the other crowd. that way the outer crowd would get you .
 
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do something crazy.
you'll get addicted to it, i promise.
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seriously, it's not bad to be a bit shy.
some people are TOO outgoing.
just get involved, meet some people, HAVE FUN!
 
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post Aug 2 2006, 10:29 PM
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^ that kidna thing only works for some people..doing something crazy.


but i like what someone told me, join a club and get comfortable talking to more people
 
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post Aug 3 2006, 01:27 AM
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if you do something crazy... don't do something illegal.
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QUOTE(truluvis4eva @ Jul 27 2004, 11:38 AM) *
hmm.. ur kinda shy? lucky... im a little too loud and outgoing... tongue.gif ... but i was shy *alot of people dont beleive that* and what helped me was acting. I take acting classes at usc *even though im only in 7th grade* and thats a talent taht i discovered that helped me talk to other people. yah so try different clubs activities... hmmm i dont noe if im jst a dork but i like debate club as an activitie and that should help... its lots of fun... so jst find something that will get u used to being around other people... hmmm i hope this helped biggrin.gif



mhm. thats what i did too. joining drama puts you out there. i mean even if youre shy to get up in front of people beleive me its cool once youve done it a few times. after a few performances youre more confident in yourself and more comfortable around other people. try it.
 
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post Aug 5 2006, 08:11 AM
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Ask your friends to go out to eat together or what-not. Just simply ask them.
 
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post Aug 27 2006, 12:17 AM
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i still am shy but not as shy as i was before...like i talk a lot with people i know. but with other people who arent close to me or dont know who i am, i am totally shy to 'em
 
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post Aug 27 2006, 04:57 PM
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Well suprisingly... when i was in kindergarten-5th grade. I was SUPER shy. After i started middle school i started hanging around people that are more outgoing. I think that the Thing to make you out going is just people you hang out with. Usually the reson why people are shy is because they hang around people tht dont trust people.

Not that i'm telling you to switch frineds. But the thing i've done to make me outgoing was to trust the people i hanged out with and loosend up. ;]]
 
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post Aug 27 2006, 05:19 PM
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don't worry. i used to be shy too, when i was eh, kindergarten age? but just be friendly; don't be afraid to introduce yourself to people. it may seem awkward at first, but just go for it, and be yourself. (=
 
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I have the same problem as alot of these people.
In school i feel so nervous around people.
I hate it. i feel really imtimidated around everyone else.
I don't know how to change. when i was younger the used to have a bunch of friends but since i got to high school it all changed
 
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post Oct 28 2007, 02:15 AM
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You just need to be able to speak your mind with confidence.
Believe in what you are going to say, and say it.

because the major problem I see with people who aren't outgoing is that you can tell they are unsure of everything they do.
 

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