oh i don't understand boys. Options

[artisticmelodies]

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[creole]

if you got the looks and the personality, all you need left is the confidence. try approaching guys in a playful manner. be careful not to act like a big megawhore though.

[hypnotique]

perhaps people assume you already are involved?

[libertie]

First of all, I don't know you, but I'm gonna go out on a limb and say I don't think there's anything wrong with you. My first boyfriend was when I was 15 - it's because I was such a quiet person, I never really talked to many people other than my friends. Since I wasn't EXTREMELY social, I didn't end up talking to guys very much. And believe it or not, if you aren't often in places where they are, they typically won't just go out of their way to approach you. I joined band when I was in 7th grade, and that instantly gave me a group of people I didn't know who had something in common with me. Maybe you should try something like that? Not band necessarily unless that's your thing, but maybe some kind of group.

Anyway, if you're kind of the quiet type like me, it's natural that you won't just get offers from guys all the time. More outgoing girls tend to give guys the impression that it's okay to hit on them. If you're more closed off, some guys might see that as a "do not disturb" sign. So you could either try to become more outgoing, which I don't recommend because the idea of ME doing that makes me extremely uncomfortable.. or you can be patient, which was my method. Eventually these situations will just happen. And it's so much nicer when it's not forced. Another alternative is perhaps you making the first move? Who knows? haha

P.S. I'm pretty sure you aren't "unliked" by guys. Just sayin'. =]

[tokyo-rose]

And believe it or not, if you aren't often in places where they are, they typically won't just go out of their way to approach you. I joined band when I was in 7th grade, and that instantly gave me a group of people I didn't know who had something in common with me. Maybe you should try something like that? Not band necessarily unless that's your thing, but maybe some kind of group.

Anyway, if you're kind of the quiet type like me, it's natural that you won't just get offers from guys all the time. More outgoing girls tend to give guys the impression that it's okay to hit on them. If you're more closed off, some guys might see that as a "do not disturb" sign. So you could either try to become more outgoing, which I don't recommend because the idea of ME doing that makes me extremely uncomfortable.. or you can be patient, which was my method. Eventually these situations will just happen. And it's so much nicer when it's not forced. Another alternative is perhaps you making the first move? Who knows? haha

What Dani said. Guys get nervous about approaching girls, and vice versa; it's just that it's expected by society that guys should make the first move. You don't have to ask a guy out on a date to be bold; just say "hi" and become friends, then see if he's dating material. If not, you've made a new friend and that's always nice. As Dani suggested, you could join a club or other organization that caters to your interests and meet other like-minded guys that way.

You may not realize that you are displaying "do not disturb" attitude if you're unaware of your body language. Actions such as avoiding eye contact, not smiling, and crossing your arms all send the message that you want to be left alone or are unfriendly, even if that's not what you mean to convey. Be aware of your body language, since it's true that actions can speak louder than words.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

Oh my, I don't think you need to worry about having boys sitting or talking to you. You have a long time ahead of you of having boys liking you. I'm 17, and I never had a boyfriend.. I never had a makeout session or a real kiss (although I don't even know what that means when girls ask me that). I don't find myself unattractive and neither do boys (so i've heard). There is no such thing as guys not liking you. Maybe they won't like you now, but maybe later in the future. Yeah sometimes it maybe intimidating seeing other relationships.. but don't worry about it. It just takes time, don't rush things. I think girls like us feel that way sometimes because of the generations of boys and girls having relationships at such early age that it makes you feel that when is it gonna be my turn?

I had a topic like this 1 or 2 years ago, about never having a boyfriend.. I don't know if it still exists.. but I learned that having a boy not like you right now, is okay. (:

[LADiiEKAY]

you have nothing to worry about, you're only 15 like others said, if you have the look and the personality you just need to be confident.. but not cocky.

[iRapediCarly]

oh man, so many nice people in this thread



ok now to the important stuff. are you ugly?

[artisticmelodies]

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[iRapediCarly]

so choice for yourself.

lol




you probably just haven't found a match, unless you're lying and you're actually fat and ugly, shouldnt be that hard to attract guys

[artisticmelodies]

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[none345678]

Be more aggressive. Rape.

[iRapediCarly]

haha your a sasser. and no i am not lying, that is me, i don't know if that is a good or a bad thing to you but it is me. and i agree with attracting guys shouldn't be hard, but i guess i'm just not to great at it.

nah typically, people are good at hiding whether or not they want to bone you, you just gotta make it obvious to some guys, see the girl above me, she gets dick like no other

[artisticmelodies]

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[AngryBaby]

if you got the looks and the personality, all you need left is the confidence. try approaching guys in a playful manner. be careful not to act like a big megawhore though.

thats exactly what she should do. obviously god intended for that otherwise she'd have a man.