parents drinking?, when is this just a bad idea Options

[coolbutstressed]

this week i went to camp with my dads family. he decided to let me do what i wanted and i met up with some kids from school. he got totaly smashed and when he found out that i didtn tell him where i was going he flifed and drove way over the speed limmint to the sight i was at. he made me get in the car and was speedign again i was so scared i jumped out because he was drunk. he slamed hte brakes adn got out. screamign he threw me into the truck smaked me and pushed. someone broke it up and i walked back to camp fought some more secerity broke it up again. then i got my stuff and went to the entrence my mom was gunna pick me up. my frends came and got me almost calmed down when my dad showed up. he threatened one of my friends and when he swung at the other he hit me. i screamed at him to stop adn he woudnt go away he fought with me adn i told him to bit me he was drunk. adn then he said he woul knock me out... i said hit me i dare you ill put your ass in jail in a moment so f*ckign hit me and then he swung and clocked me and then someone broke it up and he acted like it was nothgn then when secerity went away he swung at my friend again and i was crying so bad but he wouldnt stop then my mom finaly showed up. and he fought with her... idk what to do. im heart broken he hit me adn i hate him. he is dead to me... for life. in my opinion parents shouldnt get smashed when they are the adults in charge.

[hypnotique]

Err...well then interesting thing to share on a Design forum..

I think this would be better suited in relationships since this has to do with family..


Moved to relationships

[LittleMissSunshi...]

fathers always have anger management problems when it comes to their kids lying to them. my father has temper problems when he's not drunk, and it can go very violently at times. drinking just makes it more absurd where the parents can not remember a thing, some do.. but most never really try to remember if they did something horrible. honestly, it's just a parental issue where we, as their kids, don't get along or have miscommunication with our parents.

drinking is honestly very bad, that's why there are limits to drinking, it's not the alcohol it's the person who is in charge of drinking that alcohol.

[transcendentalis...]

:/ that's terrible of your dad... you should get some professionals involved to make sure it doesn't happen again. or at least, if it does, so you and your friends aren't going to be hurt.

[Sandraaa]

I get where you're coming from. My dad has hit me when he was drunk. Took a knife and almost stabbed me (not drunk) and loads of shit like that. So yeah, my dad is dead to me.

Thing is in your case, I hope this is the first time this happened. Talk to your dad (when he's cooled down). And keep your distance. Let him know how you feel. If this is the first time it happened, you might still be able to have a relationship with him. But let him know how hurt you were / are because of his drinking.

I wish you good luck from the bottom of my heart. Truly.

[Tomates]

Wow, what a terrible thing for you to go through
i rarely ever see my parents get completely wasted. Actually come to think of it i dont think i ever have.
I know they occasionally get tipsy but not enough to get crazy. Got my dad to jump over fireworks last year just to see how drunk he was
but either way my parents can just be vicious without alcohol.

[heyo-captain-jac...]

I'm glad my parents don't get like that. They're just talkative when they're drunk.

[Tomates]

I'm glad my parents don't get like that. They're just talkative when they're drunk.

lol that reminds me of the time we got my grandmother drunk. She played DDR and offered me $2,000 if i helped her find a house

[superstitious]

Parents shouldn't drink if it affects them in this way, especially towards their children.

You don't have to put up with that behavior. Also, in my opinion, one incident is one incident too many. Try to get some help. I'd hate something terrible to happen to you.

[FreshPrincess]

Haha, trust me when I say I know what you're going through.

My mother is an alcoholic. She wakes up in the morning and you'd think she's normal - goes to the gym, goes off to work [she works in a hospital, no less.], etc. But when she comes home, she's a completely different person.
She transforms. She gets into the wine and by 9 o'clock, she's drunk. I'll often go down stairs to find her passed out on the floor, couch, or on the toilet. One night, the porch light was on... I walked outside and there she was on the bench, passed out. I tried to awake her SEVERAL times - shaking her, yelling, etc. She wouldn't budge. Finally I just grabbed a blanket and was about to throw it on her and just leave her out there, but she woke up.
Another time she was coming home with my father from a New Year's Eve party. [Also her b-day, she gets worse than usual.] She slipped and fell on ice when my father tried to pick her up. She bit him and scratched him, so he left her out side. I had to let her in hours later when I was awoken to the sounds of her pounding on the door.
Her drunkiness outshines who she is. Or who she was, I guess.
I used to see my mother as this strong, beautiful woman. I thought I could look up to her... she'd be successful and things would stay the same. But I was wrong.
When she's drunk, she's the "lovey-dovey" type. Sometimes she's TOO lovey. She'll come in my room late at night and lay on my bed. I remember one time she wouldn't get out after so many requests, I got so fed up of her sitting there and laughing. I splashed water on her face - she got up, I ran to the bathroom, she split the door, and pounded on it calling me a bitch. My dad awoke to this and told her to go back downstairs [she sleeps on the couch.] to which my mother did, and fell down the stairs, breaking the stair window.

My father has anger issues. When he's really angry he threatens us, even pushing the "abuse" border. He'll abuse us emotionally as well... he's called my mother a sl-t, my sister and I b-tches, etc too many times to count.
Once I was sitting outside my room because I was waiting for my sister to clean it after messing it up. A protest of some sort, if you will. My father came out and saw me, telling me to get back to my room. When I refused we got into a big fight and he told me he didn't want me anymore. He said he was going to take me to a foster home to have a shit life, like I deserved. I told him to go right ahead and do it. I was too pissed off beyond that point to care what they wanted to do to me. Anything was better at that point.
When my sister and I were little once, he actually told us we were going to an orphanage because we didn't come inside when asked. I remember the day so vividly. He drove us to the hospital where my mother came out and waved goodbye. He told us that that was the last time we'd see her again, and naturally we started bawling. He drove us to a building where he announced it was the Orphanage, and that we were going. We had to promise him we'd be good, or else we'd end up there.
At our trip to Disney I was rummaging through his suitcase for the motel key, and I found some pills. I figured they had to do with depression, but I'm not too sure what they were.
They hate each other. My father has girlfriends from online and he purposefully talks to them on the phone in front of us all. He'll sweet talk them with that soft smooth voice and it makes me sick. He does it all because apparently, my mother hooked up with guys from work years back and denied it.

I dunno. Family sucks sometimes, and it's hard. You just have to wait until the day you can move out - for now I suggest focusing on school work or work or whatever you do. Don't let them tear you down, because you'll need a ticket out of the hell someday soon.