it's 3:30 pm-school's out and no kids coming home!, kids grown, who the heck am i now?????? |
 Apr 7 2009, 05:53 AM
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watched oprah today, very on target with anyone in the beginning or middle of raising kids. they talked of "losing" themselves, who are they now and where did their old life go. think it's confusing after 5 yrs or under??? what about trying 20-30 yrs of the term "mom" being your identity, and then poof!!!!! you did your job well as ceo of home and they are independent. the house suddenly "down-sized" and your job was cut. try "re-inventing" yourself without using any of the terms associated with mom duties. anyone relate????
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Apr 7 2009, 07:51 AM
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You are a 30 year old woman on a web design forum filled with people half your age.
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Apr 7 2009, 09:19 AM
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 Melieized Group: Official Designer Posts: 1,372 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 478,715 |
QUOTE(dissie @ Apr 7 2009, 05:53 AM)  watched oprah today, very on target with anyone in the beginning or middle of raising kids. they talked of "losing" themselves, who are they now and where did their old life go. think it's confusing after 5 yrs or under??? what about trying 20-30 yrs of the term "mom" being your identity, and then poof!!!!! you did your job well as ceo of home and they are independent. the house suddenly "down-sized" and your job was cut. try "re-inventing" yourself without using any of the terms associated with mom duties. anyone relate???? well, i'm raising a 2 yr old so i'm in the beginning stages of losing myself and my identity. |
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Apr 7 2009, 10:01 AM
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This is why I'm never letting my identity completely depend on my "job." Just because you are a mom doesn't mean you should let "mom" become all that you are. Get a hobby or something to occupy your time.
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Apr 7 2009, 10:20 AM
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 ^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
Stay away from the daytime television.
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Apr 7 2009, 11:38 AM
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rawr? Group: Official Member Posts: 2,705 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 285,858 |
what Brandon said(:
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Apr 7 2009, 12:20 PM
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 Tick tock, Bill Group: Administrator Posts: 8,764 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,948 |
QUOTE(fire @ Apr 7 2009, 07:51 AM) You are a 30 year old woman on a web design forum filled with people half your age. And? Last I checked, there wasn't a maximum age restriction. QUOTE(heartquasm @ Apr 7 2009, 10:01 AM) This is why I'm never letting my identity completely depend on my "job." Just because you are a mom doesn't mean you should let "mom" become all that you are. Get a hobby or something to occupy your time. Absolutely. I'll admit to going through certain times when I felt like I wasn't my own person. Fact is, you are never just you're own person after you have a child. At one point you find the balance with being a parent and being an individual. It takes time and there will always be certain times when you feel like nothing is about you anymore. Find something that you might enjoy that is outside your parental responsbilities and do it soon. If you think that you're lost now, wait until your children get older. Feel free to PM whenever you feel like venting or would like some friendly advice. My son is 9 years old and I completely understand what you may be going through (although I've never been a stay at home mom). :) |
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Apr 7 2009, 12:26 PM
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^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
Rebs is here.
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Apr 7 2009, 01:09 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
QUOTE(dissie @ Apr 7 2009, 05:53 AM) watched oprah today, very on target with anyone in the beginning or middle of raising kids. they talked of "losing" themselves, who are they now and where did their old life go. think it's confusing after 5 yrs or under??? what about trying 20-30 yrs of the term "mom" being your identity, and then poof!!!!! you did your job well as ceo of home and they are independent. the house suddenly "down-sized" and your job was cut. try "re-inventing" yourself without using any of the terms associated with mom duties. anyone relate???? My mom is having a hard time right now because I am the baby of the family and I am now a Freshmen in college. I'm doing a lot on my own (living on my own, going places on my own) and it's driving her nuts. She hates it she doesn't know where I am every minute of every day. I'll usually text her if I am going somewhere by myself, but that just makes her worry even more. She can't work because of her health, but she's taken up some hobbies. Find some hobbies and some people that you can share them with. You've shared your life with your children for all these, so finding something that you can share with someone is going to make it easier. My mom's taken up knitting and gardening and she's made some pretty good friends along the way. |
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