Confused...any help???? |
 Jan 17 2009, 05:42 PM
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Hey everyone,
So here it goes...I'm 18 and i have been working at this place for 5 months now. It's pretty much a small store so only 2 people work there for each shift. Anyways, so there is this guy that also works there and he is the assistant manager. So one day, he told me if we can be friends and all and i said okay and we exchanged our numbers. then, he told me if we can hug and at first i told him no so he said it's okay. after a few days, we started hugging and they were kinda passionate type of hugs. Then, after a few weeks, he asked me for a kiss and i told him no and he was like okay. the reason i told him no was because he is 31 years old and married and has 3 kids. i didn't wanted to have a relation with him. but later on he told me that his marriage was arranged and he had never loved anyone so much. after a couple of days, he kissed me and that was my first kiss. I didn't know but i started to have feelings for him and i kinda started to like him. One day, i was working and he was off that day so he came to the store parking lot waiting for me. so, i took my 30 minutes break and went to his car. he bought me a rose and then we kissed and then he took me to an empty parking lot. then, we went into his backseat and we kissed and we didn't go any further than that. then, he dropped me back at work and we said bye to each other. So, that is how our relationship is and wht i'm confused about is what i should i do now. should i still have a realtion with him or should i just try to forget about him. i still have feelings for him and sometimes i think that whatever i'm doing is really wrong. i know that there is a huge age difference but i starting to love him even more. I dont know wht to do. any help here????? |
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Jan 17 2009, 07:09 PM
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girl, your way too young to be thinking about having a relationship with a 31 yr old man.. i dont wanna be an ass and say hes too old cus some of my friends right now are around the same age gap and dating.. but idk, hes marrriedd and has kids!! think about that honeyy, idk your probably just infatuated with him specially him being ure first kiss and right now he seems to be respecting to you but idk ... if you start to see him, hes gonna have his baggage.. are you read for that?
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Jan 17 2009, 09:46 PM
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QUOTE the reason i told him no was because he is 31 years old and married and has 3 kids. Are you seriously needing help with this situation? |
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Jan 18 2009, 03:40 AM
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 ^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
QUOTE(me1issaaaa @ Jan 18 2009, 05:46 AM)  Are you seriously needing help with this situation? F'real. You FAIL, mystery girl. |
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Jan 18 2009, 01:42 PM
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 never settle for less than what you deserve. Group: Member Posts: 485 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 328,920 |
-MARRIED
-HAS KIDS -YOUR assistant manager of your job -hes prob. done this before -youre just infatuated that he is your first kiss and hes giving you attention -do you guys even have any connections other than the making out & rose giving? i say, seriously stop what youre doing. it IS wrong, just imagine if you were in his wife's position...you would not want your husband making out with a younger chick for the hell of it. find another job or stop what youre doing.. |
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Jan 18 2009, 06:16 PM
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I know that whatever I'm doing is completely wrong but I'm really in love with him. He hasn't done this before with anyone else and he really respects me a lot. But, if i stop my relation with him. How do i overcome this because we both would be working in the same place and I can't afford to lose this job.
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Jan 18 2009, 09:39 PM
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 Kimberly Group: Member Posts: 1,961 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 121,599 |
It almost looks like now you're just worried about the potential consequences of ending things with him. That's definitely not the right way to be looking at it. Ignore how things could end up being if you end things - your job becoming uncomfortable or potentially losing it.
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Jan 18 2009, 09:53 PM
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 poison Group: Official Member Posts: 4,806 Joined: Mar 2008 Member No: 629,020 |
QUOTE(Mystery09 @ Jan 18 2009, 06:16 PM) I know that whatever I'm doing is completely wrong but I'm really in love with him. He hasn't done this before with anyone else and he really respects me a lot. But, if i stop my relation with him. How do i overcome this because we both would be working in the same place and I can't afford to lose this job. no offence but what part of he is 31 years old and married and has 3 kids do you not get? |
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Jan 20 2009, 07:15 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
he's pretty bad if he's got kids and still goes looking for girls. just cuz he says so, doesn't always mean he's telling the truth, especially when evidence like neglecting his family comes in.
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Jan 20 2009, 01:38 PM
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GD. <3 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 1,222 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 198,566 |
QUOTE(Mystery09 @ Jan 18 2009, 03:16 PM) I know that whatever I'm doing is completely wrong but I'm really in love with him. He hasn't done this before with anyone else and he really respects me a lot. But, if i stop my relation with him. How do i overcome this because we both would be working in the same place and I can't afford to lose this job. If he respected you homeslice, he would've never put you in this kind of situation. Without mentioning the obvious things ... a) if he's unhappy with his wife and kids, then he needs to get away from them first before pursuing his personal happiness. b) once a player, always a player. c) a real man takes responsibility for his choices, actions, and circumstances whether they were forced or by choice. d) ask yourself if you want to be that kind of person. and not to be crass about it ... but technically, by continuing this kind of crap ... you're putting yourself in the position of home-wrecker. if he wants to get divorced, leave, etc. let him deal with his shit first before bringing you into it. |
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Jan 20 2009, 06:57 PM
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QUOTE(Tomates @ Jan 18 2009, 09:53 PM) no offence but what part of he is 31 years old and married and has 3 kids do you not get? have to agree with that sorry but mabey if the fact he wasn't married and had kids, but this would mess you up too |
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Jan 21 2009, 01:20 AM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 3 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 671,151 |
heyy mystery its totally depends on you as if did really a good person than y he don't have sex with his wife y he is coming to you for it after these many days
its just only a attraction and he is getting its benefit you are teenager and not udnerstood all these so please go with your age boy, u can go for dating else not ___________ Kittens lingerie |
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Jan 21 2009, 05:53 PM
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rawr? Group: Official Member Posts: 2,705 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 285,858 |
i really you think you should end it. he has kids! what if you had kids, and you just left your kids to go on with some young boy. put yourself in his situation! it isn't a good one -___-! try to talk to him about it, cause he's putting you in an awful position to make a decision!
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Jan 24 2009, 12:10 AM
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you should have stopped here.
"the reason i told him no was because he is 31 years old and married and has 3 kids" |
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Jan 24 2009, 12:11 AM
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cheater, looking in this part of the forum only
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