does your happiness rely on others? |
 Jan 1 2009, 03:35 PM
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or do you make your own happiness?
it's probably unhealthy but my happiness relies really heavily on other people. spending time with people i like makes me happy, but when things don't go the way i want them to or leaves me unsatisfied, it can completely ruin my day. maybe i should become a hermit. zero contact is the answer. |
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Jan 1 2009, 03:50 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
I rely on others to make me happy.
But I can make myself happy to. Such as taking myself to go shopping alone. I'm usually happy then. ^_^ |
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Jan 1 2009, 09:35 PM
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 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
I make myself happy by surrounding myself with other people that make me happy.
So..it's kind of a circle. |
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Jan 1 2009, 10:38 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
my happiness is relied on my boyfriend and my family.
There was a time over the summer when my friend told me to not be so reliant on my boyfriend [which i can totally understand] but i cant help it... he just makes me happy; he's literally my best friend (aside from family of course). |
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Jan 1 2009, 11:56 PM
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 Vae Victis Group: Official Member Posts: 1,416 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 460,227 |
It relies on others in the sense that I need to not be with anyone, in this context, to be happy. I don't get how anyone can allow another person to emotionally complete them.
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Jan 2 2009, 12:15 AM
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 Photoartist Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,363 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 399,390 |
“You are wrong if you think that the joy of life comes principally from human relationships. God’s placed it all around us, it’s in everything, in anything we can experience. People just need to change the way they look at those things.”
in contrast: “Happiness is only real when shared.” both from the movie Into the Wild Good question. |
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Jan 2 2009, 01:34 AM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 1,028 Joined: Sep 2007 Member No: 579,129 |
Yes. My happiness relies on everyone :(
QUOTE(Tung @ Jan 1 2009, 03:50 PM)  But I can make myself happy to. Such as taking myself to go shopping alone. I'm usually happy then. ^_^ Unless I'm shopping by myself, too. |
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Jan 2 2009, 01:40 AM
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 <3<3<3<3 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,177 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,779 |
Yes it does.
My boyfriend/family/friends have major influences on my happiness. But not only can shopping by myself makes me happy but doing things that I want to, when no one else does or wants to do makes me feel happy too. |
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Jan 2 2009, 01:47 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,071 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,748 |
Yes. I have to admit, it does a lot of the time.
 Unfortunately.
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Jan 2 2009, 02:03 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 113 Joined: Dec 2008 Member No: 704,636 |
No I don't need friends
I only need myself to be happy And I have hands Guess what I do with them hint: i play video games :] |
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Jan 2 2009, 06:21 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
I can definitely be happy on my own since I'm often independent, but sometimes part of that happiness comes from knowing that my friends are happy, too.
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Jan 4 2009, 01:24 AM
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After seeing this thread I've really realized that my happiness mostly depends on my boyfriend and best friend. I'm constantly worrying that I'll lose them and be alone again. I don't know if this dependency is a good or bad thing. It's probably both? I guess it's great to have people who you can depend on but if something happens you need to be able to be yourself. I'm very happy at where I'm at but I guess I just need to know that life would go on if they weren't there anymore..but I'm sure that won't happen. They are too awesome. :D
So yes, my happiness depends on others, and I'm cool with that-until it all crumbles..which I'm sure it will. All good things come to an end right? |
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Jan 4 2009, 02:39 AM
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 we jerkin' Group: Member Posts: 2,408 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 210,730 |
fellatio requires another person.
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Jan 4 2009, 03:22 AM
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 Drank wit your boy Group: Official Member Posts: 1,711 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 649,997 |
Both actually. Being around people makes me happy but I also have times where I feel I need to be isolated from people and spend time to myself. I tend to do crazy things that make me happy, excited, and laugh that I wouldn't do if I was in front of people(typically dancing like Carlton Banks).
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Jan 4 2009, 09:07 AM
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 ◕ ◡ ◕ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,779 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 416,697 |
QUOTE(IamLegend @ Jan 4 2009, 03:22 AM) Both actually. Being around people makes me happy but I also have times where I feel I need to be isolated from people and spend time to myself. I tend to do crazy things that make me happy, excited, and laugh that I wouldn't do if I was in front of people(typically dancing like Carlton Banks). i love this. i think i am that way too. i partly agree wif juna, happiness is only real when shared. some things are enjoyed better with people than by yourself. |
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Jan 5 2009, 03:32 PM
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 fad3d Group: Member Posts: 62 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 483,080 |
Happiness comes from everyone else around you.
make people feel happy, you feel happy. people try to make you happy, you feel happy yourself they are trying to care for you. |
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Jan 5 2009, 07:46 PM
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 Has a PhD in horribleness Group: Member Posts: 866 Joined: Sep 2008 Member No: 686,301 |
QUOTE(IamLegend @ Jan 4 2009, 03:22 AM) Both actually. Being around people makes me happy but I also have times where I feel I need to be isolated from people and spend time to myself. I tend to do crazy things that make me happy, excited, and laugh that I wouldn't do if I was in front of people(typically dancing like Carlton Banks). I'll go with this. |
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Jan 5 2009, 09:19 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 70 Joined: Nov 2008 Member No: 695,640 |
my happiness relies mostly on my boyfriend.
like if don't talk to him everyday or see him once in a while, u'll see the difference in my mood. i'm very cranky and i'm a bitch when that happens.  normally i'm a very quiet person, i like to observe things. |
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Jan 6 2009, 01:17 PM
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 na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
gah for me, of course my happiness relies on others.
But not all the time. If I see the ones I love so dearly, I'm truly happy. Sometimes, I make myself happy to be happy for others so they can be. Happiness can be brought to me completely from a happy person :) It's a whole cycle of happiness. i love being happy, but not all the time. |
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Jan 10 2009, 05:05 PM
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we jerkin' Group: Member Posts: 2,408 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 210,730 |
probably the only time i'm happy by myself is if i had a stressfull day. besides that i can't really deal with not being with the homies/homiettes.
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Jan 12 2009, 05:36 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 521 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,557 |
As an unemployed only child that is half homebody half social butterfly, it's a mix of the two really. I mainly create my own happiness if need be, but I like when other people make me happy & vice versa.
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Jan 12 2009, 08:50 AM
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 55KAMG's<3 Group: Member Posts: 232 Joined: Sep 2007 Member No: 577,506 |
QUOTE(s1cktypeS @ Jan 5 2009, 06:19 PM) my happiness relies mostly on my boyfriend. like if don't talk to him everyday or see him once in a while, u'll see the difference in my mood. i'm very cranky and i'm a bitch when that happens. normally i'm a very quiet person, i like to observe things. where does your boyfriend live now? how far away? |
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Jan 13 2009, 11:03 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Designer Posts: 5,880 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,382 |
I just want to be able to drive...
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Jan 15 2009, 03:34 AM
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 ^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
QUOTE(heartquasm @ Jan 1 2009, 11:35 PM) or do you make your own happiness? it's probably unhealthy but my happiness relies really heavily on other people. spending time with people i like makes me happy, but when things don't go the way i want them to or leaves me unsatisfied, it can completely ruin my day. maybe i should become a hermit. zero contact is the answer. I'm happy right now. Not because I have friends that are like brothers or because I'm in a relationship that is unlike any happiness I've ever experienced, but I'm happy because I'm comfortable with me. Love, companionship, emotional support and encouragement are all wonderful and they contribute in making life worth living, however, we all must be prepared for the worst. Born alone, die alone. Everyone that I know could turn their back on me at any given moment. My family can die. I could lose everything that I own and be flat broke, alone, and miserable. Who will make me happy then? Nobody. So it's up to me to stay grounded in who I am. /rant |
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Jan 20 2009, 10:47 PM
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 roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
QUOTE(ojairus @ Jan 4 2009, 02:39 AM) fellatio requires another person. Doesn't that mean oral sex? I think I learned that word in Latin last week... |
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Jan 21 2009, 12:01 AM
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 never settle for less than what you deserve. Group: Member Posts: 485 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 328,920 |
hrm, its a little of both for me...but if i had to weigh them both out ..i prob rely on others for my happiness. my friends and family keep me grounded even when im being crazy paranoid or worried about something..they help me out in anyway they can..and spending time with ppl i love spending time w/ really makes me happy forsure.
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