Do you take advantage?, Roar... |
 Dec 24 2008, 10:53 PM
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So my friends and I are having this huge debate, it all started with :
BFF: ok one question BFF: but its BFF: rhetorical me: mm? BFF: WHY DONT GUYS EVER APPRECIATE ANYTHING me: i wish i knew. So I posted it on my MySpace blog, and we started having a debate. Guys seem to think it's the girls, where as it's reversed for us... One of my friends wants numbers on this, so I figured one of the best places to go about this would be cB because a lot of us are opened minded... (okay some, not all.) and I figured they would give honest answers since they don't know my friends or me. Question being : Which gender appreciates things less? Do you think Girls take advantage of guys more often, or guys take advantage of girls? I'm biased considering my past, I would prefer non-biased opinions ^_^ If this didn't make any sense, sorry @_@;; 
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Dec 24 2008, 11:03 PM
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 Has a PhD in horribleness Group: Member Posts: 866 Joined: Sep 2008 Member No: 686,301 |
I think guys appreciate things less.
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Dec 24 2008, 11:11 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 1,028 Joined: Sep 2007 Member No: 579,129 |
This isn't really debatable. It's different for every situation.
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Dec 24 2008, 11:19 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Both. I can name plenty of men that I know who take advantage of girls, and I can name an equal amount of women who take advantage of men. The way they take advantage of people is what differs.
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Dec 25 2008, 12:37 AM
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 tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
it can go either way.
usually girls and guys equally "use" each other not in a bad way, just that there is always some give, and some take in relationships. |
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Dec 25 2008, 01:43 AM
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Joss, I see what you mean. I agree, but that wasn't the question.
It was more like... Person A was giving person B everything they had to give, heart+mind, entirely they were Person B's. But Person B wasn't giving Person A that in return, in return Person B couldn't stop flirting with others... couldn't really give Person A their entire self because Person B was sharing it with everyone. So Person B took advantage of how open Person A was, while fooling Person A that Person B wasn't doing anything wrong.. I think I just confused myself, I hope you understand that 
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Dec 25 2008, 10:51 AM
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^that is.. EXACTLY what I'm going through. dkldffgjlkdjg I'm person A!
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Dec 25 2008, 12:14 PM
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QUOTE(Realized @ Dec 25 2008, 12:43 AM)  Joss, I see what you mean. I agree, but that wasn't the question. It was more like... Person A was giving person B everything they had to give, heart+mind, entirely they were Person B's. But Person B wasn't giving Person A that in return, in return Person B couldn't stop flirting with others... couldn't really give Person A their entire self because Person B was sharing it with everyone. So Person B took advantage of how open Person A was, while fooling Person A that Person B wasn't doing anything wrong.. I think I just confused myself, I hope you understand that this sounds a lot less like an issue of appreciation and much more an issue of dependency, insecurity, possession, and obsession. get a grip and figure out that relationships, healthy and successful ones, don't turn a single person into your all and everything (or nothing). get it? grow up. |
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Dec 25 2008, 04:42 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Administrator Posts: 2,648 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 639,265 |
Does it really matter which gender generally gets taken advantage of? If you're a guy and some chick is taking advantage of you, are you really going to feel better knowing that guys are more likely to take advantage of girls?
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Dec 31 2008, 01:46 AM
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 fad3d Group: Member Posts: 62 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 483,080 |
that's an easy answer. It's both. Girls can take advantage as well as guys. It only depends if the girl(s) or guy(s) know HOW to take advantage.
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Dec 31 2008, 01:50 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 31 Joined: Nov 2008 Member No: 698,157 |
i agree with faded its vice versa!
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Jan 1 2009, 03:57 AM
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guys rarely appreciate any good things.
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Jan 5 2009, 03:36 PM
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fad3d Group: Member Posts: 62 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 483,080 |
Oh, I concur. We can appreciate. We just don't notice.
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Jan 18 2009, 02:31 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 15 Joined: Feb 2008 Member No: 623,138 |
@NoSex, it wasn't even about me, it was about my friends boyfriend =P
He doesn't really appreciate what he has, he's even cheated on her, either way, you took it the wrong way and the "grow up" thing was unnecessary. Yeah, I get what you're saying with the "dependency, insecurity, possession, and obsession" but Hi, that's taking advantage of your SO's trust in general. Think about it, would you want your SO going around flirting with people that they've wanted to be with in the past and then playin' you like a fool? @fad3d I agree ^ They appreciate when they actually notice that there is something to appreciate.. Which depending on the guy, isn't very often.. Some of you got the question, some of you took it way out of hand xD But I'm amused to actually get as many replies as I did.. I know that both are known to "use" "take advantage of" etc, we just wanted a open-minded opinion from people other than us  Thanks to those who actually answered and didn't go around saying mindless thoughts. <3 |
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Jan 24 2009, 12:14 AM
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yeah, i'm such a crappy person that i do it intentionally. i have an icebox where my heart used to be!
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