Dirty Laundry: Situation A (Long Read), Japan Options

[fameONE]

When I was in Japan, as a lot of you lurkers know, I was with a beautiful Japanese girl who treated me like a king. No bullshit. I treated her like a queen and it was one of those perfect relationships that made people sick. Oh, was life good. The sex was outstanding, as well.

As time went on and we became more comfortable with one another, we began to get complacent with the relationship. Sure, I loved her, and she loved me. But all the partying we did together and hitting the scene every night, put a strain on the relationship.

After a while, the studious, Japanese college student that I fell for started acting like a typical American party girl. The were fingers pointed in both directions that I cheated on her and that she cheated on me, but no proof. Her friends were talking, my friends were talking, and it made matters worse because many of my friends dated her friends.

Shitty.

When she found out that I was possibly going to Iraq, she threw a fit, we argued, and before I knew it, we were going our separate ways. Honestly, I haven't been in a better relationship, and what's even more disheartening, it's even harder to find a friend like her. /sentimental

Fast forward >>>>

So I'm in Iraq. I don't have much support from my family (other than my sister and Robbi), I'm single, making a grip of money to stay alive, and I have the world by the balls. In the last month, or so, she's been emailing me little by little. First and foremost, shorty wanted to clear the air on all the bullshit that damn near destroyed our friendship. We were back on even ground. We got back into the groove of laughing about life, talking about politics, sneakers, street racing, anime, etc.

She wants me back.

I have choices for my next duty station; DC, NY or an extension in Okinawa. I'm no reenlisting in the Marine Corps (even though I'm pretty good at this gig), and in those three places, I can easily see myself settling down.

The question is; if you were in my shoes, what would you do?

[Tung]

Give the extension in Okinawa a try, and see if you can get back with her. I mean you did mention you and her had some kind of sentimental friendship. That's something that's once in a lifetime thing, so don't give up on it. Give it another try, and see from there.

[fameONE]

^That's what I'm thinking. I'm pretty tied to her in a lot of ways. Her parents actually like me. There have been plenty of Sunday afternoons where I'm drinking a beer with her pops watching sports. Shit like that isn't common.

I'm going to give the extension a shot.

[fire]

You should read Gaijin Smash and see what its like to be a large black man working Japan.

[applejaxkz]

I say give it a shot. It's not like you're too old to change your decision. What have you got to lose? Go for it!

[karmakiller]

I agree with everyone else. If you don't go, you might end up being stuck wondering what would've happened had you gone.

Although I'm sure I don't have to mention this, seeing as it probably has nothing to do with your situation... my brother met a girl through mutual friends. He was in Oki and she was in Chicago. They ended up really hitting it off and that was three years ago. Shit ended up happening and neither one of them were able to get to where the other one was. Now that my brother isn't in the service anymore and has been trying to make ends meet out west, he's finally had a chance to make things happen with her. It sounds all sappy and romantic when you think about it, because he's at a point in his life when he really needs someone. The point is, he's waited all this time with her in the back of his mind and always regretted not going to see her when he had the chance to. Even if you do end up having another chance to go back to Japan, you never know when that will be. Or if it will be too late.

[Tomates]

Its better to try it out then to miss out and possibly regret not going.

[diputs]

Definitely try again .. :) you can always come back to the states .. but not always just go back to Japan ..