I'm Into My Friend's BF, yikes! Options

[towntown2]

Of all relationship things for me to talk about, I never thought it would be this. Because I think I've given advice on similar topics. Nevertheless--here is my story:

Guy: C
GF and Friend: B
Best Friend and confidant: J

J, B, C, and I are all friends. We're all pretty close with each other, but I'm closest to C and J. C and B have been together for almost two years now.

Their relationship was the model relationship for a while--they were very much in love, and he was the type of boyfriend everybody wanted. The quintissential cool couple who didn't do icky lovey dovey stuff. But B could never shake off her jealous nature--she could only trust a small number of girls around C. I'm one of the very few.

Lately, they've been growing apart, or at least complacent. Both J and I noticed that they don't act as if they are as into each other as they once were. Rumors started going around that C and B are over. Even J told me that C supposedly left B because he couldn't stand seeing her jealousy-driven freak outs [emotional ones, not physical freakouts].

I'm in a club with him that meets after school twice a week. During those days, we'd spend around 10 hours together at school. C and I have become close friends. But I'm flirtatious by nature, and I flirt with him--harmlessly at first.
I tend to be very touchy with him, hugging him, jumping on him. Today, I went to tackle him and he picked me up and carried me. These are all harmless-looking things, but I'm getting the feeling that to the outsiders, it doesn't look like it.

I know I'm doing things that I shouldn't do. Even if he and I really are good friends and he's loyal to B. But I have to tell you, boys and girls of cB, I don't think I can stop even if I want to. Eeek!

[Chii]

Even though you said that you can't stop, you have to. You don't want to be that girl; the girl who breaks up a relationship even if it's doomed.

If he's looking for a way out, he might use this as an opportunity to walk out of the relationship and you will look like the villian.

Since she has jealousy issues and you are one of the few girls she trusts, this is going to make her problems worse. As girls, I think you should stick together because boyfriends come and go. Besides, would you want a boyfriend who carries other girls around while he's supposed to be with you? Look at the big picture, do you want your boyfriend seeking affection/attention elsewhere when you two are having problems? The way I see it is that if he does this to her, what will stop him from doing it to you?

There are plenty of men, look elsewhere!

[towntown2]

Exactly.
There's so much at stake--all of our friendships are interconnected, and once I'm the black sheep, I lose them all.

I know what I need to do.
I know what you are talking about and why.
I get your logic because that's my logic, too.

Though obviously it's not getting in my head right now.

[gojira]

lol would you want that to happen to you though? could you understand your friend going after your boyfriend, and would be willing to accept it? if you want him, while risking breaking up a friendship, then go for it. that's on you and your morals. if you don't, i suggest you stop your flirtacious ways around him because that's unfair to your friend. i don't know about you, i wouldn't want some girl slobbering over my man, especially if she is my friend, and especially if i claim to trust her.

[Tung]

^ sandy is the last person to take advice from about relationships.

[gojira]

lol stfu, mine might not be working in my favor. you can't talk eitha busta

[mytangerine]

damn, i was pretty much in exactly the same situation. uhm, i just kind of backed off & stopped talking to him because everytime we'd talk we'd flirt SO much & it was all bad to the point where i started to feel bad. his girlfriend hates me to this day.

[gojira]

lol were you friends with her though. it hurts 100000x more if you were

[towntown2]

The story wasn't complete, though.
There's another friend of mine--U--who's been getting close to him, too.
She knows the situation with C and B, and my friend has been confronting him about his feelings. He's remained vague and unwilling to be honest.

U knows not to do anything until B and C are completely done. If B and C don't break up, then U won't make any moves.
She doesn't know how I personally feel about C.

My outlook is similar to U--I would hate myself if I became the cause of B and C's breakup, but I'm afraid I might buckle and do something I'll regret.