friends with benefits., worth it? or not. |
 Jun 30 2004, 02:11 AM
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when you are jus "friends with benefits" doesnt it bother you that you guys arent offically together.. as in "bf and gf"?
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Jun 30 2004, 02:27 AM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
sometimes if your feelings are that strong and you feel you can't be more than friends it is hard .. but if you just wanna see people it's perfectly fine to do as you please without strings attached =]
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Jun 30 2004, 02:30 AM
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 WUT THA DUCK? Group: Member Posts: 3,950 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,138 |
i wouldnt... im a jealous person.... soo yehh and feelings might get involed... and one or the other is gonna end up getting hurt... too risky for me!!!
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Jun 30 2004, 05:39 AM
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I don't think it's worth it. Someone's gonna end up liking the other person but when the other person doesn't feel the same, it sucks.
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Jun 30 2004, 09:29 AM
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save a horse...ride a cowboy! Group: Member Posts: 20 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,125 |
i guess it depends on how strong you feel about the person...if you love them and want to be with them and its the closest thing you can get..then its worth it
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Jun 30 2004, 02:22 PM
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questions make me blue. Group: Member Posts: 2,608 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,796 |
well if your friends with benefits, AND THEN YOU ALREADY HAVE A BOYFRIEND...that`s not a good thing.
 who would you choose? what? depends on the person? i hear that too much... 
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Jun 30 2004, 03:29 PM
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im' edible Group: Member Posts: 1,529 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 23,022 |
i want friends w/ benefits...MUAH! cus they can buy me toys when im sad. WOOT!
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Jun 30 2004, 03:31 PM
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 did someone fart?! Group: Member Posts: 1,528 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,662 |
Mini, you're a dork.
 Anyway, I wouldn't go for friends with benefits. My emotional side is way bigger than my sexual side. And besides, my emotional side feeds into my sexual side. I'm hornier with people I like than with people I don't like..
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Jun 30 2004, 04:11 PM
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 Got Me? Group: Member Posts: 34 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 26,430 |
yeah, it bothered me. See there is this long complicated story...me and this guy named brandon were together for like 5 years, well his bestfriend tolbert liked me, and always hit on me, and secretly I always liked it and kinda liked him. Well, I was always a jerk to him tho, so when me and brandon broke up I immediately noticed how much I liked him. So we started hanging out more and we became friends with benefits becuz he was scared that I would hurt him. Well it sucked becuz that meant we were both free to like other ppl and crap, and I hated that...finally last week he asked me to go out with him and just be his gf becuz he doesnt like the just for fun thing either. Trust me...its much better when you are in a relationship, or atleast to me.
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Jul 1 2004, 01:26 AM
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QUOTE(ThePrincessofTKD @ Jun 30 2004, 2:22 PM) well if your friends with benefits, AND THEN YOU ALREADY HAVE A BOYFRIEND...that`s not a good thing. who would you choose? what? depends on the person? i hear that too much... FWB = u already have a bf? i never knew that lol |
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Jul 2 2004, 11:00 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,032 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 23,398 |
friends with benefits is bad cus eventualli one person is gonna hab feelings fo da other nd it will hurt if yoohs see da other person flirting.
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Jul 2 2004, 11:12 AM
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 lil______d00ks Group: Member Posts: 508 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,538 |
QUOTE(babixlilac @ Jul 2 2004, 11:00 AM) friends with benefits is bad cus eventualli one person is gonna hab feelings fo da other nd it will hurt if yoohs see da other person flirting. i agree |
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Jul 2 2004, 10:46 PM
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 Sweet n' Sexy Group: Member Posts: 146 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,489 |
fwb=bad idea. someone alwa ys gets hurt
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Jul 2 2004, 10:48 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 228 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,737 |
yeaa.. sometimes, i guess bcuz then yu can't reli expect the other person to be completely loyal and faithful and stuff..
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Jul 2 2004, 11:06 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,443 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,050 |
ummm yeah it would be hard to not be together officially so i dont think its a good idea unless there is a good reason
well me and this girl is sorta like that she really cant date me cause of ... nways so she told me if i could wait for her we will go out .:tonY:. |
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Jul 3 2004, 01:03 AM
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questions make me blue. Group: Member Posts: 2,608 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,796 |
QUOTE(babygurl_xtacy @ Jul 1 2004, 1:26 AM) FWB = u already have a bf? i never knew that lol  huh?? i`m just using an example. when you have friends with benefits and then you already have a boyfriend, IT`S HORRIBLE. say you end up liking the FWB, but you already got a boyfriend. what are you going to do about that? fall in love with the FWB or stick with your first choice? i don`t want to end up in that situation...so i limit my relationships to a minimum. that happens too much in the movies and it MAY mislead some couples in love. |
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Jul 3 2004, 01:23 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 286 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,508 |
uhm. i guess it's ok if you just want to fool around with no strings attached.
but i wouldn't do it though. i would rather have a real relationship... doing certain things with people who aren't my boyfriend just seems weird to me and very icky. you'll never see the friend in the same way again. |
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Jul 3 2004, 02:11 AM
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 S*q*U*e*E*G*i*E Group: Member Posts: 157 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,243 |
im a guy and i dont like it.....it makes her feel used...if she likes you and you dont like her dont use her and say lets be "FWB's"...screw that...dont hurt her more than she needs to be....if you like her back go out with her..stop being slow about it
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Jul 4 2004, 02:47 PM
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 Feeel X Group: Member Posts: 2,814 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,498 |
um...yea, that is sad. but are you in benefit right now? hmmmm.....i think i was in that situation before too.
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Jul 4 2004, 04:24 PM
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 Peter aka Peetah =) Group: Member Posts: 198 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,046 |
Spidey2 the movie can relate to this thread
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Jul 4 2004, 04:53 PM
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 weeEee *smack* Group: Member Posts: 46 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,490 |
hmm..not a good idea. Sooner or later one of the people will develop feelings and only wind up getting hurt in the end.
-Teressa |
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Jul 4 2004, 05:17 PM
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personally.. i dont think i like it either lol
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Jul 4 2004, 05:48 PM
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Feeel X Group: Member Posts: 2,814 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,498 |
QUOTE(pm3k @ Jul 4 2004, 4:24 PM) Spidey2 the movie can relate to this thread hmmm, your right. you are SO right. it does relate but don't ruin the movie for others... |
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Jul 4 2004, 05:51 PM
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QUOTE(faithin_felix @ Jul 4 2004, 5:48 PM) hmmm, your right. you are SO right. it does relate but don't ruin the movie for others... felix!! how come your not on msn?? |
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Jul 4 2004, 07:54 PM
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two wods... it suks.. but wat kan u do if u relly like the guys and tass the only way u kud eva have him
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Jul 4 2004, 08:33 PM
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Umm........I've tried that whole thing and it doesn't work for me 'cause I end up getting feelings for the guy. It's way too complicated, but if you can do it, more power to you! LOL.
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Jul 4 2004, 08:48 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 279 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,406 |
what i mean by friends with benefits.. is that.. I guess.. you both like each other.. but you guys arent together.. you know what i mean?
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Jul 4 2004, 08:57 PM
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 baby, be good to me Group: Member Posts: 592 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,358 |
I think it's good but you just gotta be sure that you guy friend won't make it weird between the two of you...I mean if you are close why not just have fun with your friendship
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Jul 5 2004, 11:22 AM
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it depends... usually friends with benefits ends up with someone having feelings... it's not bad if it's both people, but usually it's just one person and that's not worth it.
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Jul 5 2004, 01:50 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 279 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,406 |
couldnt friends with benefits also mean.. u both like each other.. but.. not together?
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Jul 5 2004, 02:49 PM
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 lil azn supermodel... =] Group: Member Posts: 461 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,841 |
that friends wit benefits stuff neva works out cuz its tru that one person will lyk tha otha person, in all those relationships, ta me, its lyk one person is usin tha otha, it doesnt matta wtf they tell u, cuz if they really did lyk u, u'd b togetha,
QUOTE(babygurl_xtacy @ Jul 5 2004, 2:50 PM) couldnt friends with benefits also mean.. u both like each other.. but.. not together? how does that make n e sense? u lyk eachotha but fa sum reason u'd rather fool around than b in a relationship? |
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Jul 5 2004, 03:21 PM
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 Rawr Rawr i am a Reptawr Group: Member Posts: 263 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,045 |
i used to be in a relationship like this but he asked me out...but when we were just friends we had talked about going out but we decided not to because it might ruin our friendship...and things kept going along and we kept getting closer and closer and we were at sixflags and we kissed and we made a mutual effort and we are going out now!
but when we were friends and we would like hang out together and sleep in the same bed and stuff it was really weird...like i thought there was more but there wasn't...i was really confuzzeled! |
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Jul 5 2004, 11:45 PM
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goose bucket. Group: Member Posts: 756 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,411 |
QUOTE what i mean by friends with benefits.. is that.. I guess.. you both like each other.. but you guys arent together.. you know what i mean? that's NOT what friends with benefits is.. that's people having a crush on each other, friends with benefits is friends who have a physically romantic relationship and not an emotionally romantic relationship, so in regards to that question: heck no. i have a really good friend that is an AMAZING kisser, so umm yeah. it doesn't bother either one of us that we're just friends, plus plus plus. mmm. |
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Jul 6 2004, 12:07 PM
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iF i AiNT G0T Y0U.. Group: Member Posts: 32 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 26,014 |
It all depends on the person. I had fwb before but they were all ex boyfriend's.. but I still had feelings for a few of them. I mean it was pretty okay DURiNG the time.. but once they got girlfriends or I told them how I really felt & they didn't feel the same......that part sucked. And if you're gonna be fwb with someone you like, I suggest you DONT do it. It ends up hurting you a hell of a lot more.
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Jul 6 2004, 08:39 PM
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 i`m in love & always will be Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 12,769 |
I dont think its worth it.. someone will get hurt maybe & your friendship will be wayy different.
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Jul 7 2004, 01:44 PM
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Feeel X Group: Member Posts: 2,814 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,498 |
friends with benefits, i didn't know what it meant either until now, lol.
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Jul 7 2004, 02:03 PM
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 Unlock the Darkness Group: Member Posts: 305 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,967 |
I don't think I trust anyone enough to be FWB. There's too much stuff going around for that. I mean if you're in a one-on-one situation, at least you can be sure of who (s)he is knockin' boots with, but FWB is Waaaaaaay too open-ended.
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Jul 7 2004, 08:07 PM
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 s a r a h r o s e <3 Group: Member Posts: 575 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 12,944 |
people might get hurt that way- so it might feel totally weird
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