I've never had a boyfriend.. Options

[LittleMissSunshi...]

so i searched for this topic.. and i couldn't find it. so if there is a topic about this, please let me know and then you can delete it and i can post it there. (:

I, myself, never had a boyfriend. I kinda feel left out because, all my friends even boys had like a partner for a little bit. and I have waited.. and said, it's not my time. heh, obviously it never use to bother me before.. but now it is. I guess it's because there's so much couples around me. It kinda gives the feeling that I want a boyfriend. I've never had a one. When I chill out with all my friends (girls) they explain like the best thing that happened to them with their boyfriends or stories of em'. should I be bothered? or like just forget about it, and focus on school/other things like i usually do?

[Gigi]

Neither have I. And right now I'm closer to one than I ever have been before and it's not making me any happier, I promise.

I probably don't have it as bad as you seeing as how none of my close friends have had boyfriends either (maybe we'll grow old together as old maids? LOL), but I seriously think that having a boyfriend is not all that it's cracked up to be. Better to wait for a guy you actually like, and that likes you, than feel like you need to whore yourself up just to feel accepted.

How old are you, I'm curious?

[Melissa]

It's okay, I've never had a boyfriend, either. I've gotten sorta close to having one, but all it really caused was lots and lots of stress. My best friend is always in really long relationships and the people around me are constantly coupling up, so I sorta know how you feel.

I figure I'll just let whatever happen ... happen. Focus on school, work, life, etc. Right now, I'm sorta fine with my little flings that don't mean anything. =/

[LittleMissSunshi...]

LOL the old maid parts. 16... yeah i know.. it's kinda young. but man our world is so corrupted to have boyfriends and all the sex stuff. i was just bored, and put myself to use to ask a question. i've always asked my friends but never really answered my question. i really don't care if i do have a boyfriend now, cause i'm use to not having one. it just got me thinking when your bored you know?

[towntown2]

^^ I think deep down you feel insecure that you've never had one--and now you're covering it up by chalking it up to boredom.

Who cares if you didn't have boyfriends in high school?
Men have not fully evolved at this time, and they're still making dumb mistakes that incense you and take up your time.

Let them make their mistakes on other girls--let them practice on other people.
Once they're old enough and experienced enough, that's when you reap the benefits.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

ehhh, whatever. boys are boys.. and i don't think i'm desperate to have one so bad ~ i was just thinking, cause that day was just an out of world question..

[Joss-eh-lime]

i know you've crushed on boys & then you probably think "oh well. nothing will ever happen with us." thats tough in high school (i would know, i think that all the time) the only advice i can give you is to not focus you entire self on having a boyfriend. look around campus and realize that not THAT many people are in a relationship.

a relationship with a boy should develop naturally you just cant force it, so try to become friends with boys that seem friendly & friendly.

[misoshiru]

I've never had a boyfriend either. And I'm pretty happy not having one. Although at the moment, if I were really physically and emotionally attracted to women, it'd be much easier to get a girlfriend.

[ofconfidence]

boyfriends will either make you happier than you've ever been or more miserable than you've ever been. it's a win/ lose kinda thing.

don't be in a rush to have one. because if the first one is a good guy, you'll be much better off.

maybe that's just me. i messed up the first time and it's almost unmotivated me completely to ever date again, but not quite.

[shanaynay]

Well make sure you know how the guy actualy is, not how he acts when he's flirting. guys will tend to be all nice and flirty, and then take advantage of your trust.

[CocaineNoseJob]

Awe its natural thinking like that. Just think of all the downs of having a boyfriend. All the potential problems and stress it can come with. Remember you dont need a guy to make you happy, just do your thing and eventually you'll find your first at the right time, when your ready.

[*cakedout*]

its ok, i never had a boyfriend either

[misoshiru]

but kevin, I thought you were gay.

[venti-anemoi]

I've never had one either. Although I can't say everyone around me is hooking up, there is a lot of coupling going around, especially since Homecoming is right around the corner, and even though I'm happy for my friends there's this kind of lonely and left out feeling too.

I am learning so much in this thread right now, its scary. I should stop assuming things about people.

Me too. I was surprised by some people/ the number of people who said they've never had boyfriends before. (Then I felt guilty for assuming things. :/)

[Flaunted]

So this question came up to me a while ago when I was pondering about this situation (Pre-Boyfriend)

Would you rather have just any kind of boyfriend or one that you truly like and know he'll totally be there for you?

I didn't have my first and true boyfriend till I was nearly 18 and I'm so glad that I waited.

I don't think you should be worried :)

[*cakedout*]

but kevin, I thought you were gay.

lol nope sorry

[LittleMissSunshi...]

I've never had a boyfriend either. And I'm pretty happy not having one. Although at the moment, if I were really physically and emotionally attracted to women, it'd be much easier to get a girlfriend.

^ LOL :D


i never intentionally meaned i wanted a boyfriend so quickly. i guess it was a coping time for myself to be like "shyz, i don't have a boyfriend." i really don't want want one. i guess i just wanted that feeling to be needed, i suppose? yes, boyfriends are very complicated and hard to keep up with. thanks guys (: i really do have so much other things to focus on! flag football is around the corner, ahah (x.

blech; anywho, although some girls don't have boyfriends.. do you have crushes and such to keep you occupied?

btw; heh, judgemental is very hard to keep quiet about.

[charliebonce]

I have never had a bf and I'm 14. I know it's because I'm fat and, well, ugly. But I hope one day I'll find someone who can look past that. :3

[rnicron]

boyfriends will either make you happier than you've ever been or more miserable than you've ever been. it's a win/ lose kinda thing.

not exactly. if you care for someone, you'd have the will to actually work things out, not just say, "well, you suck. NEXT!"

[LittleMissSunshi...]

I have never had a bf and I'm 14. I know it's because I'm fat and, well, ugly. But I hope one day I'll find someone who can look past that. :3

i don't think you should think that way. and i think 14 is pretty young to have a boyfriend. i mean i didn't have one either. lol (x but i think that the modern times these days you can have a boyfriend at ANY AGE! which i find it kinda disturbing due to the fact that it set us girls down.. haha xD anywho.. i don't think you should just have no self-confidence in yourself. i mean i've seen some guys with fat girls.. like my sister she's pretty on the chubby-side. like a lot, and she has a boyfriend who loves her just the way she is. and my teacher, she's in her late 20's and she has a boyfriend. she's pretty large too, i really don't think thats a good idea to just put down yourself like that. i mean everyone has different shapes and sizes and some may and don't have boyfriends.

[xhugerific]

i think its best if you wait for "mr.right" xD
cause if you fall in love too soon , you MAY get your heart broken.
& like you'll regret it. i'm serious.

[Chii]

I had my first boyfriend at the age of 14 and since then, I was pretty much never not in relationship. Guys have always liked me and I have always liked guys...but all I wanted were male friends not boyfriends and they didn't see it the same way.

Boys are much more trouble than they're worth. I was always focused on the boyfriend so I sacrificed friendships and for a period, school.

All you should really care about are friends. They're so much less stressful. With friends, yeah you fight but then you make up however with a boyfriend, you fight and sometimes that's that.

charliebonce, beauty is a curse; wouldn't you rather someone want to be with you because of you and not what you look like? Sometimes, I still wonder if my boyfriend loves me for me or for what I look like... He has always liked Asian girls and likes to reference my body but when I bring it up he tells me that if that were so he wouldn't still be with me but I don't know...


Anyway, it's not a big deal if you don't have a boyfriend, a boyfriend doesn't define you or determine your happiness.

[dosomethin888]

Im 19 and never had a boyfriend. Oh well. Someday.......

[Tomates]

There will be people who dont get many boyfriends
and there will be people who will go through a ton.
Ive had 2 relationships, one in 8th grade which doesnt count since middle school relationships are never that serious so i guess ive only been in 1 real relationship and im currently still with him.

Luck of the draw i guess?

[LittleMissSunshi...]

boyfriends, you can't live with em' or without em'. yes there are flings here and there, and some girls may have found the mr. right. i'm very happy for them! i can live without a boyfriend, heh, i've done it, i don't think waiting a few years hurts anymore. having boyfriends aren't the end of the world to say, yes i may have started this topic. but only because seeing that feeling that others have and that comes out as pure jealousy due to i don't have a boyfriend.

every girl has an emotional point, don't start it by discouraging yourself. and i mean it! boyfriends come and go.. never having a boyfriend is sensitive to some people. i've learned that complaining about it does nothing but soothe your soul to let people know your feelings at that moment. but to actually doing something is another storyyy :D~. so ladies, girls, chickadees, and women never having a boyfriend or someone to care for isn't forever. because never isn't forever.. basically i'm saying you can't say you never had one untill you lived forever.

[swishersweet]

i wouldn't mind being ur bf.
;]

[LittleMissSunshi...]

hahaha (x no, i read your post how you just broke up with you girlfriend. lol that's way too fast to get back "in a relationship" status.. especially, if your still not over her (;

[sixfive]

heh, loser

[swishersweet]

hahaha (x no, i read your post how you just broke up with you girlfriend. lol that's way too fast to get back "in a relationship" status.. especially, if your still not over her (;

yeahh. i guess ur right.
but i'm kind of sort of over her now.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

i still believe that was quickly fast izzjae.

but having girlfriends or boyfriends isn't the end of our world.

[absinthe]

honestly, i don't even find relationships desirable.

i haven't really been in a full fledged relationship either ... just exclusively dated guys for extended periods of time ... and none of them did a damned thing to change that view. if anything, they just made my life that much harder then, and in some cases, now.

and although there are those times where the existence of a constant speed dial 1 seems imperative (aka right after watching the notebook) i've found them to be temporary and thoroughly abatable without committing myself to a relationship.

but then again ... i've been told that i have quite a male outlook on relationships and dating courtesy my men are like skittles lifestyle ... so idk.

[swishersweet]

i still believe that was quickly fast izzjae.

but having girlfriends or boyfriends isn't the end of our world.

aha. just call me jae.
i know it's not. thanks for informing me.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

LOL at your skittles life (x! lolll let's not date boys then xD!

[djZrockerZ]

its so totaly understandable what you feel. i never had one either and my bff started dating at like 10 years old. but dont thinks because of unattraction. one day, you'll find some one you like and want to date, like learning to fly, love takes time

[LittleMissSunshi...]

haha thanks :D! you made me smile, xD.

[espressive]

i know this girl who has never had a boyfriend, but gives the best advice about relationships just because she's a good listener. look at it this way, the stories your friends tell you will give you insight on what to do, what not to do, and what to expect in a relationship. and perhaps the lessons learned from stupid stories/bad relationships will save you a heartbreak or two in the long run.

[RCKstarh]

seriously, dont worry about it. i've never had a boyfriend either nd im 16. i've had friends w/ benefits nd i've done all sorts of stuff that a boyfrend nd girlfriend would do but i try not to get too attached most times. Sometimes, i feel its better to not have a "title" on a relationship. jus let it flow nd u'll someday have someone who cares about u as much as u care about them

[LittleMissSunshi...]

thanks ^^ that really helps if you think about ittt (;

[Kay-]

It's all good, man. I think dating in highschool really screws around with your mind. Think, maybe you're better off without a bf for awhile =]

[ChaoticHeartCras...]

I'm 20 and I've only had 2 boyfriends before I found the guy that I'm probably going to marry. It's best to wait and not let what you think is your heart get caught up in guys that aren't serious. One relationship lasted a week and the other lasted 1 month. Until you find someone that can be both your friend and someone you love, no guy is worth the hassle in my opinion. It's fun to go out and just hang out with guys, but I never saw the point in getting serious with someone whom I just think is cute and have no clue about the personality. I like to think of it as, all these girls go through "heart break" after "heart break" and I've only experienced it twice.. well once wasn't too bad, but think of the others that bawl for days then thow themselves at someone else just to have it happen again a week or two later...

[s1cktypeS]

i've never had a bf before the one i have now
and i feel you about the whole being left out cuz my bestfriends all had boyfriends and i was the only one that didn't

i used to not care.

but now i have a really good boyfriend.
and about the whole not knowing how to kiss or watever
i was like that too.

[swishersweet]

LOL at your skittles life (x! lolll let's not date boys then xD!

wtf. r u callin me gay?

[LittleMissSunshi...]

uhm no.. i was referring to agiri.. if you read her post she was talking about skittles. lol

[swishersweet]

ohh. ahah. my badd

[*cakedout*]

you two need to get a room

[LittleMissSunshi...]

uh, no! haha, anyways..

so my cousin recently got a boyfriend. I was surprised because she never really had a boyfriend. she always tells me these funny things between her and her bf. it doesn't get me jealous, but it gets kinda annoying.. does that mean jealousy? i hope not, cause i'm not into her boyfriend. she invited me to hang out with her and her boyfriend. i told her i don't know and i'll let you know if i can. i don't want to be the third wheeler and feel like i want a boyfriend. because that's stupid and it's not that i ever had one. gah, feelings suck i guess heh

[*cakedout*]

yeah your jealous

[Tung]

yeah your jealous

look at dis n*gga.

trying to get in shannonlovin's pants, cuz she's desperate and ronery.

[*cakedout*]

wtf hell nah, i aint into 14 year old girls like Kay~ son rofl, ay its cool, i know you like long walks on the beach and candle light dinners =]

[Tung]

dawg, kay is 18. i need proof she 14. until then she 18 in my eyes. son u can have her though. i got my eyes on a bigger prize.

yo mom.

[*cakedout*]

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php...=201917&hl=


lol gotcha, btw i was already done withcha mom, in my opinion, if there was a tournament, she wouldn't place mothaf*ckaaa

[Tung]

lol wtf. shit. aite aite. i'll fall back on that. but n*gga stop cockblocking me especially with etc

[*cakedout*]

lmao aight but you gotta admit, you started the cockblocking first

[Tung]

naw, i only cockblocked u cuz u did it first. who did i cockblock u ?

[*cakedout*]

i dont remember too many, f*ck it, i call truce though

[LittleMissSunshi...]

all i have to say wtf? btw, i'm not 14...

[*cakedout*]

wtf, we aint talking about you

[gojira]

high school she was that girl that make me do the hula hoop around the gym

[LittleMissSunshi...]

lol at your sig^^ (x

[andy12345]

Deary me girls/ladies,

I think you had better research love shyness and see if you fit those symptoms. Its worse for a man btw.

also, the website love http://www.love-shy.com/ will probably answer a wealth of issues that you have.

HAve fun and learn about yourselves and why you are what you are

PS you may also dysthymia, some of you, look that up as well.

I have lots of research because for me as a man, in the last 5 months, it was a try to get a life or die trying.
Simple as that, no more, nothing more, nothing less.

[gojira]

mebbe if yew looked rike dis

click to enlarge

[LittleMissSunshi...]

Deary me girls/ladies,

I think you had better research love shyness and see if you fit those symptoms. Its worse for a man btw.

also, the website love http://www.love-shy.com/ will probably answer a wealth of issues that you have.

HAve fun and learn about yourselves and why you are what you are

PS you may also dysthymia, some of you, look that up as well.

I have lots of research because for me as a man, in the last 5 months, it was a try to get a life or die trying.
Simple as that, no more, nothing more, nothing less.

lolllll xD wtf? some girls don't have boyfriends because they have symptoms? that's meannnn! hahaha (x i don't think thats true, but hayy, if your like that, then it's your life.

[Joss-eh-lime]

I, myself, never had a boyfriend. I kinda feel left out because, all my friends even boys had like a partner for a little bit. and I have waited.. and said, it's not my time.

i've been there!
i hate that feeling. one day you are confident and feeling secure in your single status, the next you are like. OMG i want a boyfriend!
honestly, i have only had one boyfriend and it was pathetic.

the best advice i can give is to throw out friendly & confident vibes to EVERYONE. even people you don't usually talk to. you never know who will end up being the guy you want.

[gojira]

ugly people get love too, just like fat people. i mean that somewhere out there, someone loves me 2.

[smash]

lolllll xD wtf? some girls don't have boyfriends because they have symptoms? that's meannnn! hahaha (x i don't think thats true, but hayy, if your like that, then it's your life.

hah! symptoms. i could've sworn i replied to this a long time ago... maybe i just considered it. anyways, i've never had a boyfriend either. i'm about to be 22 in a few months and i've never had a effin boyfriend. i've had plenty of guy friends that were more than friends, friends that acknowledged a mutual attraction, friends that have straight up told me they would do me, but none of them ever asked me to be their girlfriend. so annoying. the crappy thing is, now i'm having to just cut them out of my life completely regardless of the actual friendships that we have because they can't seem to focus on much more than gettin' in my pants. <--- run-on sentence?

[audreymae]

myeahhh... i haven't had a boyfriend either.
& i'm 17. i think i want a relationship now though.
cuz sometimes, i walk around school and i see couples holding hands
and kissing every so often. and it makes me want that.
like, i've had little things with guys... but i've never had a real relationship.
so, i've never fallen in love, and i'm kind of scared to. i fall hard.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

beee careful, don't fall too hard (; ^

[*BOSS*]

mebbe if yew looked rike dis

click to enlarge

[AngryBaby]

i never had a boyfriend either

[*BOSS*]

thats a lie, we all know you and arjuna had a little fling

[LittleMissSunshi...]

hahahah funnay kevin.

[synatribe]

I havent read through the 3 pages of responses, but here is my response to your original post,
I've never had a Girlfriend either and I promised myself that I wont get one during high school because 99% of High school relationships dont work out in my opinion. I would never get a GF because me close friends had one, I find that to be peer pressure. Your not going to be going into a genuine relationship, if you enter a relationship with the fact that you feel lonely because all the people around you are in a relationship. If you look around there are plenty of people who have never had a partner. All my friends who did get a partner for the same reasons as you later regretted it because they were expecting either too much or they were expecting to get the same results as the people around them :] I usually never post in this section, but we have something in common :]

[Tung]

sorry, but shannon got a man name Kevin Xu already, not you Kevin Jo

[synatribe]

sorry, but shannon got a man name Kevin Xu already, not you Kevin Jo

wow Tung stop making me look like you

[LittleMissSunshi...]

sorry, but shannon got a man name Kevin Xu already, not you Kevin Jo

what? ew, kevin xu.

[gojira]

[sixfive]

funny story, i know of this girl who stuck a beer bottle up her vag

[Desolation-Row]

^^ haha eww how painful

[datass]

i knew a girl who knew a girl who used a test tube. and it broke.

[*BOSS*]

i knew a guy

[fire]

OH SHE HAS RIGHT NECK OF FEMUR FRACTURE AND A FRACTURED LEFT GREATER TROCHANTER!

[*BOSS*]

dont forget the bottle up the butt

[sixfive]

i knew a guy

sean

[misoshiru]

i knew a girl who knew a girl who used a test tube. and it broke.

ouch.

[shanaynay]

She accidentally the whole bottle?

[TOOLBAGSIRNUTS]

inb4 1guy1cup

[ukluverparadise]

i don't think you should think that way. and i think 14 is pretty young to have a boyfriend. i mean i didn't have one either. lol (x but i think that the modern times these days you can have a boyfriend at ANY AGE! which i find it kinda disturbing due to the fact that it set us girls down.. haha xD anywho.. i don't think you should just have no self-confidence in yourself. i mean i've seen some guys with fat girls.. like my sister she's pretty on the chubby-side. like a lot, and she has a boyfriend who loves her just the way she is. and my teacher, she's in her late 20's and she has a boyfriend. she's pretty large too, i really don't think thats a good idea to just put down yourself like that. i mean everyone has different shapes and sizes and some may and don't have boyfriends.

nobody's fat and ugly! even i think im kinda fat and ugly but boys like me cuz of who i am uh.. cute, happy and funny. and they accept me cuz of who i am and sumtimes even pretty girls dont have a bf! and u'll be on a roll be4 u noe it! =]

[staardust]

you're insecure, and in my opinion, the key to finding love is to be happy and confident of who you are.

i'd tell you to accept yourself now, as a single girl out to find a guy, and to do that, you have to like yourself, be yourself first. if you don't like yourself and is insecure, how on earth is anyone else going to see what the real you is?

that's something i realized when i was feeling the same way you were. let me tell you, i've had unbelievable experiences in love, more than i could ever expect. you don't know what you're going to find in love, so start being happy and confident of who you are first. then go and worry about finding the right guy.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

lolol, thanks iloo^.

is this topic still going around? i didnt know that.

[*BOSS*]

bump

[smash]

lol, why are you bumping it? are you amused at all the girls who have never had a boyfriend for one reason or another?

[LittleMissSunshi...]

lol^ i agree with youuuu :D. ignore kevin he is bein sillay.

[Burenduhhx]

i think its best if you wait for "mr.right" xD
cause if you fall in love too soon , you MAY get your heart broken.
& like you'll regret it. i'm serious.

Yes I agree with her.

[Comptine]

Holy shit. She had a hip replacement.

[*BOSS*]

lol, why are you bumping it? are you amused at all the girls who have never had a boyfriend for one reason or another?

no its cause the topic starter is shannon and she gets amused when people pick on her

[smash]

oh okay.

[*BOSS*]

so when are you and JC hookin up

[saintsaens]

i'd smash smash

[*BOSS*]

she got some big titties

[saintsaens]

and she got dem juicy lips