Complicated, I love my boyfriend but still truly love my ex... =/ Options

[ZukoJin]

There's this guy I went out with for almost a year until he broke up with me right before valentines day of this year because he couldn't handle the problems I was going through. I was severely depressed and having a lot of problems with my parents at the time. He stayed with me for 10 months during all that but finally when my parents grounded me from seeing him he broke up with me.

After that my parents finally realize that I had a serious problem and they couldn't help me by themselves and took me to a therapist and now things are definitely better for me, I'm not depressed or suicidal anymore.

Well around the 4th of July he called me and said that he still loved me. I didn't know what to say because last I knew he had a girlfriend. When I asked him about her he said she broke up with him and when I asked when he said it was only two days before. It made me feel like I was just his second choice and that because he knew that I truly loved him and still do and always will that he could just come back to me whenever he felt like it. Naturally he claimed that wasn't the case.

So we got back together for almost a month but then I went to his myspace one day and saw that his top friend was some girl I've never even heard of before who's display name was "Josh's Girl".

When I tried to talk to him about her he ignored me and so I finally just broke up with him in a voicemail because he wouldn't answer my calls or text messages.

After all that I started going out with this guy who used to go to my school and things have been going well with him. We have a lot in common and can text all day without running out of things to say. But yesterday we had our first date and while I had a good time and really enjoyed myself, I just didn't feel that spark that I always did with my ex.

A couple of weeks ago my ex started texting me again and said that he was sorry about what he did and that he still wanted to be friends though and I thought that I had moved on enough to be okay with that.

Well after my date with my current boyfriend yesterday my ex texts me and says that he still likes me. I asked if he just liked me because that wasn't enough and he texted back saying he still loved me in capital letters. I ended up calling him and we talked until after 4 AM when we both fell asleep. Before we fell asleep we talked about a lot though. About how he felt about me and I about him and he's still with that girl but she lives in Iowa (we live in Georgia) and he said he knows it's not working and that he doesn't love her like he does me but he can't bring himself to break up with her because he doesn't want to hurt her and I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because I want to know just how long my ex will wait for me to see if he truly does love me. But I'm so confused and don't know what to do because I love my boyfriend but there's not that spark with him like there is with my ex when we're together. And while seeing how long my ex will wait (he says forever) makes perfectly good sense, I don't know what to do. Am I being unfair to my boyfriend, are me and my ex being unfair to each other? Is there any really good answer to my problems?

[mytangerine]

does your current boyfriend know you're still talking to your ex? that might put a damper on things..

[ZukoJin]

does your current boyfriend know you're still talking to your ex? that might put a damper on things..

No, he doesn't.

[misoshiru]

your ex is a piece of shit who likes to play around with you.

[Melissa]

^ I agree.

He'll just end up hurting you again.

[queen]

maybe that "spark" you feel is just all the tension from the drama you go through with your ex. the less drama the better. i agree with the above; cut your ex from your life, and stay with your current if he's still willing to be with you after he finds out you've been talking to your ex ;o.

[AyeVickaye]

Hellla drama. he's tryna mess wit you...Jst be all like. "If you loved me and cared about me, then you shouldn't have broke it off ." if he really cared. he'd break it off with that Iowa girl becuz he's jst leading her on and what not....