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 Sep 20 2008, 01:36 AM
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If you began to date a guy who had been kind of a player in the past and has had sex a few times before, would you want to know his whole story? Or would you just want to wonder? Or would you not care at all? Does it bother anyone that what a guy is saying to you now, has been used on girls before you? Just looking for some honest opinions..
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Sep 20 2008, 11:23 AM
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I'd want to know... it's only fair to know about the person you're with. The past is the past but that doesn't mean that the person is any better/more sincere than they were before.
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Sep 20 2008, 11:17 PM
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 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
Oh, I'd want to know.
So I'd know what to watch out for and protect myself. |
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Sep 20 2008, 11:34 PM
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If you're wanting to date him you should find out everything you can before you get down and dirty, so that you don't regret anything in the future.
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Sep 21 2008, 02:28 AM
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I'd want to know and its good to share :D
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Sep 24 2008, 07:59 PM
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rawr? Group: Official Member Posts: 2,705 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 285,858 |
i would want to know, because i want to know his past if like we belong together or meant to be. i don't want to have a long lasting relationship with someone who had sex with other girls and who knows? those girls might be your friends or something you know? i don't know that's just my opinion, because i'm a nosy girl. but i guess, it's different with everyone.
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Sep 24 2008, 08:02 PM
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 poison Group: Official Member Posts: 4,806 Joined: Mar 2008 Member No: 629,020 |
Part of me would want to know but in a way part of me would not want to know.
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Sep 30 2008, 08:01 PM
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 and so it is Group: Human Posts: 1,304 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,085 |
i'd like to know (even if he wasn't a player). i mean, i gotta protect myself right? plus, i'm just mildly curious because a person's past shapes his/her character. i think you can tell a lot about somebody from his/her choices and actions in the past.
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Sep 30 2008, 08:25 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
how many is a few? like 3? or like...15?
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Oct 1 2008, 07:51 AM
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QUOTE(misoshiru @ Sep 30 2008, 09:25 PM)  how many is a few? like 3? or like...15? 400. |
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Oct 1 2008, 11:22 AM
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 This bag is not a toy. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,090 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 583,108 |
I guess in situations like this I really only want to know the absolute least possible for me to still be informed enough to be safe. I don't want any other details. Or any details at all, really.
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Oct 1 2008, 02:02 PM
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The older you get the more likely it is that your partner has had sex with someone else before you got together. You can't let things like that get to you.
And, I like to know what happens in past relationships. If you are dating a guy that every girl he's ever talked to has a restraining order against that'd be some useful information. It doesn't bother me that my boyfriend had sex with other girls before me. It doesn't bother me that he had sex with a girl so his friends could rob her car. I know that I mean more to him than any girl before me, I know he really loves me, and that's all that matters. |
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Oct 1 2008, 02:09 PM
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I wouldn't want to know .. I would need to, because STD's and all that stuff . And I don't want to be a name on a list, so ..
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Oct 2 2008, 07:50 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
lol depends on how interesting the story is. if i want to know its really just curiosity. people learn from mistakes so they probably wont do the same to you.
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Oct 2 2008, 07:50 PM
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and so it is Group: Human Posts: 1,304 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,085 |
QUOTE(doughnut @ Oct 2 2008, 07:50 AM) people learn from mistakes so they probably wont do the same to you. it's funny you say that because i see people going through the same thing over and over without even acknowledging the mistake itself. or what if somebody was nice to you when you did him/her wrong? (like he/she was trying to be the bigger person so there was no flipping out and stuff) then what incentive does that person have to change their ways? (cause if the other person made a big deal, then the wrong do-er learned the lesson) i'm not sure if i'm making sense & i'm not trying to shoot you down. i'm just legitimately curious. |
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