Arguments?, ever had any? Options

[na-nancy]

okay, the reason i am posting a topic like this is because
me and my boyfriend for 6 months now ( we were best friends for 2 years before
dating) have never never ever had an argument at all. I mean, seriously.
It just popped in my mind today when my friend asked about us and asked if
we have any arguments and i answered her "no, not really" and the thought's been in my head
since. But, it's kinda weird, but is it....i can't find the word, is it okay to not have any arguments? I mean we get along all the time and i can talk to him about almost anything, haha. We're easy to talk to and never have much disagreements and think alike at times. It's just a little funny to me now that I think about it.
but tell me what you think.

[mipadi]

Nah, it's fine. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 14 months, and we almost never argue. We've probably only really argued 2 or 3 times, and the arguments haven't been that bad at all. That's not to say we don't disagree more often, but we usually work things out before it becomes an argument.

Some people say couples are supposed to argue regularly, like it's healthy or something, but I don't really think that's true.

[espressive]

yeah i was thinking the same thing when i was dating my exes, cause that's the type of relationship i've had with the guys i've dated. i dated this one guy for 7 months. we never argued. and i'm not just saying that... like seriously, i think our biggest 'argument' was about sports he's a big sports fanatic. i don't know, we had a very joking-around/sarcastic relationship so nothing really bothered us. and if something did, we'd bring it up with some humor so it wasn't awkward/upsetting to the other person. so i have heard that it is healthy to have arguments, but i don't think it's necessarily unhealthy to not have arguments... i mean, would you really rather want to be upset/yell at your bf/gf?

i can understand why some people believe arguments are healthy on a small scale, however. arguments arise from people addressing a bothersome issue in the wrong manner and/or people taking the conversation in the wrong way. so the key point is that there is a flaw in communication, but at least problems are addressed. if problems weren't addressed, that would be unhealthy. so i think that not havin arguments CAN be positive in the sense that problems are addressed/taken the right way. on the other hand though, there may not be arguments because both people are choosing not to address a situation, which can take a turn for the worse later down the road. so if you feel that there is a sense of maturity in your communication, then i think it's perfectly okay. props for doing that!

that was my speal

[SugarSkull]

Ha, that's funny because when I first read the title to this post I thought, "Duh! We all argue!" but now that I think about it I haven't had an argument with my boyfriend of two months, yet. What's more, when we first started going out I told him, "You know, I don't see me fighting with you at all." But i guess it's because i'm more comfortable talking to him about a lot more things than my ex's.

[towntown2]

The absence of arguments isn't bad.
That probably means that you and he communicate very well together.

I've never been in an argumentative relationship [I never really cared so much about them to argue--beside the point.]

Good for you two for not arguing!

[brooklyneast05]

we argue like everyday, but it's not really that serious most of the time. it's more just like disagreeing/arguing for the sake of it. we've always been that way though, for...15 years that i've known her. so i don't think it's unhealthy it's just how we do.

[imperfectionistx]

I just read this article in the newspaper about how relationships don't progress without arguments... lol. We used to argue incessantly, but now things have really evened out and we only get into the usual little disagreements, mostly *knocks on wood* But without some kinds of arguments, I don't think either person will truly get to know the different sides of one another.

[AyeVickaye]

Dengs. You guys must get along pretty well...anyways A lot of couples that argue and fight learn from their mistakes after making up...

[Becks539]

I read an article once that said how it is unhealthy if couples do not argue IF they are not expressing things that are bothering them, even if they are small things. It shows that the communication is weak and the problem will never be fixed. If a couple is repeatedly arguing over the same topic, that shows the conflict isnt being resolved and thats a problem.

But, id say that if you guys really have nothing bothering you and you're not bottling anything up then thats great:)

As for my boyfriend and me, we have been together for just about 19 months and we have had maybe 1 or 2 like "fights" but they always are resolved in a couple hours tops. We bicker about stuff, a lot of people say we're like a married couple, and honestly I don't take that offensively. Our bickering means nothing to us, it doesnt hurt our relationship at all. It just shows how comfortable we are around each other.