Why is she acting this way? |
 Sep 2 2008, 05:04 AM
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Why is she acting this way?
Okay i met this girl at the family party and we started talking and i asked her number and her screen name so she gave it to me, and after that we talk for 3-6 hours a day, we also talk and flirt on the phone,text and chat online. We've known each other for a month and half we hung out and we flirt too, and i know she likes me and i like her, she even cooked for me but the thing is i told her that i love her and she started acting different, i told her i wanna be with her and i love her and everything and when i told her she started picking fights and she told me that she doesn't believe in love, because it sounds too serious and she doesn't like it when i say i love you to her. She never had a bf and she says shes a flirt but i know she likes me, yet she didn't wanna go out with me, and i told her we could be friends, but she keeps getting mad or picking fights about it and she told me that we shouldn't talk for a while and so i agreed and told her to talk to me when shes ready but its been 2 weeks and shes still hasn't talked to me even when we see each other she ignores me and wont even look at me in the eye, she just reply me with the short answer when i talk to her and i asked her why she doesnt reply my text and she said i dont know and i dont know why she wont talk to me if she likes me too, but i don't know now what do you think about this? we were doing REALLLY good and we liked eachother, but when i told her i how i love her and wanna be with her she started acting weird and we dont talk anymore. please help!! |
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Sep 2 2008, 06:40 AM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 1,028 Joined: Sep 2007 Member No: 579,129 |
Maybe you JUST like each other then.
You've known her for like a month and you think you love her. |
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Sep 2 2008, 09:41 AM
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 Amberific. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,913 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,772 |
Maybe the two of you got your signals crossed. In any case, maybe you should back off a little bit, not come on so strong. And ask yourself if it's worth keeping her as a friend, considering your feelings for her.
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Sep 2 2008, 09:51 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
you keep saying "i know she likes me" but how can you be so sure?
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Sep 2 2008, 10:24 AM
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 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,020 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 653,768 |
A. How old are you?
B. Saying "I love you" can be a very, very, bad thing, especially so early. Maybe she just wanted a boyfriend, not a serious commitment. That's not to say it won't evolve, but don't just pop out of nowhere and say I love you. Besides, so early on in the relationship it's just an artificial feeling of love, a high. It's not real, brah. |
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Sep 2 2008, 10:57 AM
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 R.I.P JDL Group: Member Posts: 178 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 652,668 |
People seem to get way too attached way too early these days. I love you is slowly losing it's meaning. Saying it so soon most likely scared her away.
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Sep 2 2008, 11:02 AM
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 poison Group: Official Member Posts: 4,806 Joined: Mar 2008 Member No: 629,020 |
Maybe you said it a little too early.
Plus in the mysteries of life she could have had a rough time or something happened to her the last time a guy said that they loved her. Though my guess is that you said it too early. |
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Sep 2 2008, 07:09 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 2 Joined: Sep 2008 Member No: 682,470 |
I think you might be moving too fast...slow down, take a breath and talk it out. Tell her that you're ok with taking things slow. And don't say the L word again until she says it to you first. Good luck.
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Sep 2 2008, 07:36 PM
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 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
QUOTE(doughnut @ Sep 2 2008, 07:51 AM)  you keep saying "i know she likes me" but how can you be so sure? Good point. It sounds to me that you said the L word way way early. You're classifying your "like" for her into something that is so beyond what it really is. You like her a lot. But you don't love her yet. [You'll realize soon enough that we're right.] She obviously knows that you said it way too fast and freaked her out. She sounds a lot like me. I know what she meant by being a flirt yet still having feelings for somebody. You freaked her out, and that's why she's giving short answers. She can't look at you in the eyes because now she's uncomfortable around you, and your trying to force a one-sided friendship doesn't help. She hasn't talked to you in two weeks because she's not ready [obviously]. Give her space and time to cool off and forget about the weirdness that happened. This is not about how much you want to talk to her. This is about how she feels about the situation. DO NOT force things to happen. The more you do, the more you'll turn her off. In time, if she wants to become your friend again, she will. |
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Sep 2 2008, 07:43 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 388 Joined: Aug 2008 Member No: 682,013 |
Dude I think you said 'i love you' way too early...Im pretty sure its jst a Strong like...cos it takes a while to love...your prolly jst falling in love with her...you prolly scared her with that and what not.. and she's prolly not ready to commit too .Love is a word you don't throw around...A lot of people say it but they don't mean it...yadidi?
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Sep 2 2008, 08:31 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
You shouldn't have told her that you love her, especially since what you think is love is most likely infatuation.
I want to know what everyone else does: did she actually say that she likes/liked you back? You shouldn't have made that assumption. Even if you like her, she may just be a flirt, or testing the waters, and not like you enough to date you. Tell her that she needs to stop avoiding you and talk it out. If she doesn't want to be as close to you as she was, then she should say so, but it's not fair for her to ignore you like that. |
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Sep 7 2008, 04:24 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 9 Joined: Aug 2008 Member No: 675,940 |
i am going to agree with everyone else and say that you are creeping her out with the whole love thing. if she is a flirt, like I used to be, she isn't going to like the prospect of being in love and being held down by you. However, if you can provide proof that you can say that she feels the same way about you, then maybe everyone is wrong. You definitely creeped her out with the love thing so soon in the relationship. I am sure you have good intentions. But I would try to back off from her for now... try to move on and see where that takes you..
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Sep 7 2008, 04:44 PM
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 The Resident Drunk Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 |
QUOTE(kryogenix @ Sep 2 2008, 11:24 AM) A. How old are you? B. Saying "I love you" can be a very, very, bad thing, especially so early. Maybe she just wanted a boyfriend, not a serious commitment. That's not to say it won't evolve, but don't just pop out of nowhere and say I love you. Besides, so early on in the relationship it's just an artificial feeling of love, a high. It's not real, brah. This was the best response by far to the problem. Rule No. 1: NEVER EVER tell a girl you love them out the gate...they get scared off easily. |
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Sep 7 2008, 05:40 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
i think you need to give her the time and day, and tell her to just shut up already, and make her give u head until she gags.
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Sep 8 2008, 08:42 AM
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