Do you think religion matters in a relationship? |
 Sep 1 2008, 09:07 PM
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If you were a devoted Catholic or christian, would you care if you dated somebody that was a different religion than you?
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Sep 1 2008, 09:09 PM
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 I'm Jc Group: Mentor Posts: 13,619 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,556 |
yeah, if i really believed in what i said i did. them going to hell would bother me.
i'm atheist, i would care to date someone different than me. i don't know how well it would end up if we could never agree on that. |
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Sep 1 2008, 09:15 PM
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Yes religion does matter to me.
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Sep 1 2008, 09:18 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Yes, I don't really care what religion someone is, but usually it effects their choices. I think it would cause us to butt heads. If he loosely followed a religion and didn't try to push it onto me, then it would be fine.
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Sep 1 2008, 09:41 PM
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 Cornflakes :D Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,541 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 322,923 |
No not really, unless it was like I was Christian and they were like a Jehovah's Witness. Then there would be some clashes, because for one they don't celebrate any birthdays or holidays, and considering Christians celebrate Christmas pretty throughly, I would say it could be a issue with families and such later in life.
Catholic and Christian, I guess I could see some little things that would have to be worked out but not so much that you wouldn't date the person I'd say. Same with most of the others I'd say, there are some that stand out but I can't think of the names of them. |
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Sep 1 2008, 09:43 PM
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 AIDS at RAVES. Group: Official Designer Posts: 2,386 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,878 |
Im not religious so I dont think I would have any problems cause i would probably just respect their religion :]
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Sep 1 2008, 09:44 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 1 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 519,923 |
yup unfortunately....religion does matter. Why? cuz eventually you'll marry someone...but your relationship doesn't end there. Say a Muslim and a Christian got married....everything was going great...until they found out they were having a kid...if both feel very strongly about religion...what religion will the child be taught???
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Sep 1 2008, 09:45 PM
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I wouldn't care if I dated someone of a different religion but if we ever decided to get married, then there could be some disagreements.
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Sep 1 2008, 10:17 PM
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 Amberific. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,913 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,772 |
Religion doesn't matter to me. My most... meaningful, I guess, relationship was with a Muslim and I was raised Christian. But then again, I'm not too religious anyway, and religion never came up between us.
QUOTE(yannir70x7 @ Sep 1 2008, 10:44 PM)  yup unfortunately....religion does matter. Why? cuz eventually you'll marry someone...but your relationship doesn't end there. Say a Muslim and a Christian got married....everything was going great...until they found out they were having a kid...if both feel very strongly about religion...what religion will the child be taught??? Well, traditionally, if a Muslim man marries a non-Muslim woman, the child is supposed to be raised Muslim. But the guy I was talking about, while he identifies as a Muslim, was raised partly Christian, because of his mother. It's a fine line to walk, and if two consenting adults of differing religions decide to have a child, I'm sure there's a lot of finesse and negotiation involved in the child's religious life.
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Sep 2 2008, 02:40 PM
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 Lets Get Dead Group: Member Posts: 381 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 641,562 |
QUOTE(karmakiller @ Sep 1 2008, 07:18 PM) Yes, I don't really care what religion someone is, but usually it effects their choices. I think it would cause us to butt heads. If he loosely followed a religion and didn't try to push it onto me, then it would be fine. That is pretty much exactly how I feel about it. Except I have to add, that they must have some kind of belief in something. I tried dating a guy who was VERY strong in his Atheist beliefs and it just couldn't work. QUOTE(hi-C @ Sep 1 2008, 08:17 PM) Well, traditionally, if a Muslim man marries a non-Muslim woman, the child is supposed to be raised Muslim. But if the woman is Catholic and the man is Muslim then what? That would be a pretty tough situation. |
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Sep 2 2008, 02:59 PM
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Amberific. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,913 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,772 |
QUOTE(only-tuesdays @ Sep 2 2008, 03:40 PM) But if the woman is Catholic and the man is Muslim then what? That would be a pretty tough situation. QUOTE(hi-C @ Sep 1 2008, 11:17 PM) It's a fine line to walk, and if two consenting adults of differing religions decide to have a child, I'm sure there's a lot of finesse and negotiation involved in the child's religious life. And besides, most Catholics I know are lapsed, anyway, if not outright atheist/agnostic. |
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Sep 2 2008, 03:11 PM
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To me it doesn't but to others it may.
My boyfriend is hardcore atheist and my parent's are hardcore Christians....yea it wasn't pretty. 
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Sep 2 2008, 05:43 PM
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 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
I ama devoted Christian, and yes, religion matters in my relationship.
Since I'm only in high school right now, I don't worry much about that. But in the long term, I do. The Bible, I believe, talks about the importance of having a Christ-centered relationship. A marriage that follows the word of God and applies them to real life. I hold that in the highest regards, so I would not be able to marry someone who is not of the same faith or who would not be willing to convert to the faith. |
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Sep 2 2008, 05:58 PM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
If I were a devoted Christian, then of course I'm sure it would matter to me. But because I'm not, it doesn't matter to me. As long as they respect what I believe, (because I will regardless) and don't try to convert me.
 Religion is the last thing I'm worried about. The only thing that worries me is if I want to marry a devote Christian, I'd have to be brought into the church...sigh.
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Sep 2 2008, 07:32 PM
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Lets Get Dead Group: Member Posts: 381 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 641,562 |
QUOTE(hi-C @ Sep 2 2008, 12:59 PM) And besides, most Catholics I know are lapsed, anyway, if not outright atheist/agnostic. But in this instance we're assuming both are devote Christians/Muslims/Catholics/etc etc. I'm just saying it can get messy, some religions just don't allow much leeway on the subject. |
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Sep 5 2008, 09:53 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 58 Joined: Jan 2008 Member No: 615,331 |
No Jews allowed.
I'm kidding of course. I actually dated a Jewish girl about a year ago. |
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Sep 5 2008, 09:54 PM
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 poison Group: Official Member Posts: 4,806 Joined: Mar 2008 Member No: 629,020 |
it doesnt matter to me. As long as you love each other then im sure something can be worked out.
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Sep 5 2008, 10:32 PM
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DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
LMAO I think your post caused the
"Beatiful MUSLIM SINGLES for Matrimony" ad to show up at the bottom. |
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Sep 6 2008, 08:48 AM
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It doesn't matter to me. I'm religious, but not hardcore. But if the person I was dating/thinking of dating tried to.. push his beliefs on me, that wouldn't be good. I'd want him to respect me and my beliefs, ya know?
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Sep 7 2008, 05:41 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
I don't care. just don't push that religious bullshit on me.
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Sep 7 2008, 10:26 PM
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fer me, it doesn't matter. but fer my parents, it matters ;X i don't know whyy, but they want me to marry somebody buddhist or something ;/ haha but i don't think it really matters. just don't mention it
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Sep 8 2008, 11:39 PM
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 never settle for less than what you deserve. Group: Member Posts: 485 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 328,920 |
psh, id wouldnt care. religion doesnt matter to me, it never played a huge part in the relationships ive been in.
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Sep 10 2008, 04:21 AM
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I don't think it would ever impact any of my relationships unless the guy tried to inflict his beliefs on me. I'm not religious, but I'm basing this on the fact that I'm really into the paranormal and new age things... that's like my religion, and my current boyfriend is a total skeptic and doesn't believe any of it. But we still get along fine and don't argue. We love each other so we respect each other's beliefs.
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Sep 10 2008, 02:56 PM
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Well, kinda matters to me cuz i dont think i'd date anyone who's Muslim or Jew.
Better not talk abt religious beliefs wen we're in a relationship cuz im out. |
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Sep 10 2008, 05:54 PM
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 Live long and prosper. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 5,525 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 478,024 |
It doesnt matter to men unless your faith condems womens rights.bisexuality.BDSM.eating meat. yadda yadda that kinda thing.
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Sep 11 2008, 06:27 PM
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rawr? Group: Official Member Posts: 2,705 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 285,858 |
i wouldn't really care, unless that person would make go and change my religion for them. a person you love or care about deeply should just let you be who you are. as for myself, i'm catholic and i wouldn't mind dating anyone thats not my religion or is.
like for example. my use to best friends dated each other. J (boy) and T (girl).. T is a very religious christian and J is morman. She always wanted him to change his religion and go to church with her every friday. now i didn't have to say anything but they asked me, and i said if you guys like each other so much. you should let you guys be who you are and not get interfered.. cause religion is something your raised in.. not for something you want that person to be.. |
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Sep 14 2008, 12:23 AM
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 say maydayism. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,447 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 26,344 |
Well usually people our age would be more open-minded and not really mind about different religions (or none at all) between you and your partner. But I think we need to consider that it's most likely the parents or other family members who are more devoted to their religion and do not want their kids to be with someone who wouldn't be converted to what they believe in.
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Sep 14 2008, 12:35 AM
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To be honest, I probably would mind. My boyfriend says that he's catholic, but he doesn't practice catholicism. If he did practice catholicism, we would not of made it 2 years.
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Sep 14 2008, 06:45 AM
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I would mind. I'm Catholic myself, but I don't agree with some things in the Church. It'd probably be hard to date someone with different religious beliefs. I'm into the whole abstinence thing, too, and it puts people off sometimes. But I don't care. Hopefully I'll find someone that respects my opinions.
But then again, I wouldn't mind venturing to other places to see what other religions are like. It'd be a learning experience for me. |
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Sep 14 2008, 04:48 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
religion matters to me. and I'm agnostic.
if you're hardcore anything, sorry, dnw. |
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Sep 14 2008, 04:49 PM
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i wouldnt care.
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Sep 14 2008, 06:13 PM
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 +_+Harajuku+_+ Group: Member Posts: 25 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 553,071 |
im catholic. it would be strange for me to date someone who is a different religion. because what would happened if we decided to get married? i guess we would have to turn to a backyard wedding or something
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Sep 14 2008, 09:45 PM
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 Sex, Blood, & RocknRoll Group: People Staff Posts: 5,305 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 596,480 |
It doesn't matter to me at all, If the other person was really hardcore with there religion and was trying to convert me and what not then yes It would matter a lot. But I would never count someone out based on religion alone.
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Sep 14 2008, 09:56 PM
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I'm Jc Group: Mentor Posts: 13,619 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,556 |
this is such bullshit to me to say things like if you love and care for someone you would accept them no matter what religion. no ok, if you loved and cared for someone you wouldn't want them to burn in hell for all eternity and would try to make sure that didn't happen to them. i mean i think those who try to convert others are completely annoying, but maybe it's better than the ones who think you are going to go to hell and are just fine with letting you be? i don't know...just something to think about.
i think people just want to sound like they are open minded and accepting when really it makes absolutely no sense if you're going to claim to really believe in it. |
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Sep 14 2008, 10:36 PM
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yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
which is why i would not date guys who're religious. sure, if they say they're christian/buddhist/whatever but don't do much about it, that's okay. if they're all about going to church on sundays and whatever, no.
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Sep 16 2008, 07:00 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
it would suck if my boyfriend wouldnt eat pork with me
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Sep 16 2008, 10:23 AM
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 here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
I do think so.
I'm in two religions (one more than the other) but I want to marry to a roman catholic, just to marry in a roman catholic church. |
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Sep 16 2008, 02:49 PM
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Lets Get Dead Group: Member Posts: 381 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 641,562 |
QUOTE(prittyh8machine @ Sep 14 2008, 04:13 PM) im catholic. it would be strange for me to date someone who is a different religion. because what would happened if we decided to get married? i guess we would have to turn to a backyard wedding or something What happens is you can either have the other person take Catholicism classes and get married in the Church, or do the back yard wedding/courthouse/whatever. If you don't get married in The Church it isn't recognized by The Church. Which is a problem if you're a devout Catholic. |
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Sep 18 2008, 04:16 AM
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say maydayism. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,447 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 26,344 |
QUOTE(doughnut @ Sep 16 2008, 10:00 PM) it would suck if my boyfriend wouldnt eat pork with me awww julia...  but i still think it's better to date someone with similar beliefs as you do. |
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Sep 18 2008, 04:28 AM
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 55KAMG's<3 Group: Member Posts: 232 Joined: Sep 2007 Member No: 577,506 |
religion is for the weak.
create your own morals. |
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Sep 18 2008, 04:57 AM
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Religion doesnt really matter to me ..
as long as i love the person im with :) |
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Sep 18 2008, 06:30 AM
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(′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
QUOTE(gelionie @ Sep 18 2008, 05:16 PM) awww julia... haha, or any other food they cant eat because of religion. cuz man, food is good. |
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