if you were cheated on would you be able to forgive Options

[ThePrettyGirlIAm]

i mean honestly if you were cheated on could you forgive your mate? i know i couldn't , i mean afterall that woudn't happen me being as pretty as i am. you should all be jealous.

[Tomates]

ive been cheated on before
(or so i think)
i couldnt forgive him.
but i did because i was younge and naive and still liked him

[MiSSP]

It depends on the situation. Me and my man have been threw a lot so if it was just him f**king her because
'it just happened' then of course im going to be mad/upset at him but i wouldn't leave him. Theres a difference if its just a f**k and if he's actually lying to me to go basically have another relationship with another girl thats really what I consider cheating, expressing your feelings to someone who isn't your significant other and lying to you to go spend time with someone else and expressing/sharing his love with her.

[DoubleJ]

I would never take a girl back if she cheated:

A. That means that I am not doing something right
B. That means that she is a silly hoe
C. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.

[mizzkewl06]

^ agreed. except about a boy. i've been cheated on twice. the first time i didn't find out until after we broke up and we haven't spoken since. the second time i knew it all along but i didn't care... we broke up & we don't speak to each other. i forgive both of them but i would definately not take a cheater back. if they did it once, what makes me think they won't do it again?

[yivan]

i mean honestly if you were cheated on could you forgive your mate? i know i couldn't , i mean afterall that woudn't happen me being as pretty as i am. you should all be jealous.

"Pretty" people still get cheated on, take celebrities for example.

But I dontthink I could trust a person anymore after being cheated on. Then the relationship would be in ruins and then it would end.

[Tomates]

i mean afterall that woudn't happen me being as pretty as i am. you should all be jealous.

Someone has a bit of an oversized ego

[Melie]

i've been cheated on and i forgave but forgetting is always the hard part. i still sometimes think about it from time to time.

but everyone is human because i've cheated before.

WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND!!!!

[Butterflyphoenix]

I don't think I would be able to forgive, I'm pretty stubborn. Though, if i really did love my mate then I think I would be able to forgive.

[karmakiller]

Right now, no. There's plenty of other people out there that will make you a hell of a lot happier. And they have broken your trust, and without trust in your relationship it's probably not going to last wrong. Even if they aren't doing something, you will probably end up bringing it up even if you claim you are over it.

If it's a situation that involves marriage and children, there might be a chance of working things out. But if it were me, I'd move on.

[Annabean]

Probably not right away, but eventually. i mean it's done; why hold on to it? right? but sometimes, just sometimes i hold on a little longer just to play with them and hurt them like they hurt me.

[aaayotiffany]

i mean honestly if you were cheated on could you forgive your mate? i know i couldn't , i mean afterall that woudn't happen me being as pretty as i am. you should all be jealous.

cocky much?

Probably not right away, but eventually. i mean it's done; why hold on to it? right?

true.

and no, i would not take someone back if they cheated on me. i hate seeing it happen to friends and they'll consider taking them back because the guys/girls can "sweet-talk" themselves out of trouble. its so stupid. no one should have to deal with that. if someone wants to do stuff with someone else, they're obviously doubting their relationship. and in that case, that could only lead to more trouble.

[Archana]

it depends what kind of cheating. a one night stand thing or if it's a full relationship.

either way - no :(

[towntown2]

I think with time I'll be able to forgive.
Cheating's a deal breaker for me, so I won't continue the relationship.
The forgetting part will take longer.

[MissFits]

When I was younger in a less serious relationship, probably.
But, I love my boyfriend. Part of being in love is trust. If he betrayed my trust like that I don't think I could ever forgive him.
I would probably try, because I am a very forgiving person, but I think the relationship would be doomed the second I found out.

[ThePrettyGirlIAm]

i'm cocky? i have a ego? no you have it confused. i have a high self esteem, you should all think you're pretty, that is if you don't have a low self esteem.

[xoxo_proud]

If it was a fling I wouldn't forgive him. But if I was in love I might try and work it out.

[Tomates]

i'm cocky? i have a ego? no you have it confused. i have a high self esteem, you should all think you're pretty, that is if you don't have a low self esteem.

Theres a difference between having a high self esteem and being cocky.
You are cocky.

I dont have a high self esteem
but i deffinatly dont have a low self esteem

but i wouldnt go around saying "i mean afterall that woudn't happen me being as pretty as i am. you should all be jealous"

[MissFits]

If it was a fling I wouldn't forgive him. But if I was in love I might try and work it out.

That seems kind of ass backwards to me.

[ilauqh]

i don't think i'd be able to forgive him very well but i know i wouldn't be able to break up with him.

[silent-rebirth]

I would be able to forgive. Better to forgive and forget then to remember it and have emotions take over.

[manny-the-dino]

I would forgive him eventually but I don't think I would take him back.

[ThePrettyGirlIAm]

Theres a difference between having a high self esteem and being cocky.
You are cocky.

I dont have a high self esteem
but i deffinatly dont have a low self esteem

but i wouldnt go around saying "i mean afterall that woudn't happen me being as pretty as i am. you should all be jealous"

i can't help it that i'm pretty , i mean if i could change being pretty for you i still wouldn't. just kidding

[xMayleex]

Personally I think it depends on the situation. Say it was a guy I was seeing for a few weeks and I wasn't exactly feeling deep feelings I would probably be able to be like .. okay whatever. We'd probably end up finishing but I don't think it would hurt as much but I still doubt we'd be friends. But if it was someone like my boyfriend who I've been seeing for almost two years, I think I'd be so broken that I wouldn't want to believe it. Obviously I wouldn't be able to forgive that ever though if it was someone who I didn't love then I'd probably be okay with it over time.

[SimplicityGirl]

Well depends...but likely not. It's a huge blow to the relationship--a loss of trust.

[xhidethedetails]

Depends how attatched I am to the person.
But yes I have been cheated on and I was willing to forgive him but he ended up dumping me anyway.

[espressive]

would i forgive him? yes.
would i take him back? no.

i believe that if you hold a grudge against somebody, you'll still giving that person control over your life. the grudge will produce feelings of jealousy, hate, envy, etc. but the worst part of a grudge is that you're only hurting yourself - the other person doesn't feel the pain you feel. so you're just holding yourself back by holding that grudge and that unresolved grudge will eventually carry on to future relationships/situations because it's like bottled anger; you have to release it eventually (but perhaps it'll be misplaced). so i would and i did forgive him; i wouldn't forget, but i'd forgive. but it's easier said than done. admittingly, i went through a day of anger/frustration before i calmed down. but i realized pretty soon that i haven't truly 'moved on' if i couldn't find it in myself to forgive him. forgive & learn.

i also believe that what is done once can be done again, so that would be the end of it. you hurt me once, i'm not going to let you hurt me twice. and frankly, i deserve somebody better, somebody who is loyal and only needs me. plus trust is a very important part in any relationship, and you just shattered my trust for you by cheating. i can't be in a relationship with somebody i don't trust. and there was obviously something not right for the cheating to occur in the first place, so my take is that perhaps it's better to just move on.

But yes I have been cheated on and I was willing to forgive him but he ended up dumping me anyway.

he doesn't deserve you. you'll find somebody better, m'dear =]

[Tomates]

Well, i think i already posted here before but i saw the comment above me and it got to thinking more.

I believe i was cheated on. Not sure the exact details because i dont want to ask.

I have forgiven him though and till this day we are really good friends.
So im glad we are friends again, still i wonder what happened that day that our relationship changed but i dont feel the need to ask him.

[espressive]

I believe i was cheated on. Not sure the exact details because i dont want to ask.

I have forgiven him though and till this day we are really good friends.
So im glad we are friends again, still i wonder what happened that day that our relationship changed but i dont feel the need to ask him.

i think the worst is not knowing. like some people would rather not know about the details or whatever (out of sight, out of mind?), but i'd rather know. personally, it stops me from running around in circles inside my head. i mean, it still hurts to hear the other person say it even if you already kinda figured the details out, but at the same time, it provides a sense of closure for me. like shit happens, okay, done, move on.

and i am really glad that you guys are really good friends & you were able to forgive him! that is very mature =]

[sharerol]

I'd most likely be able to forgive him. I'm generally a forgiving person who doesn't like having drama with people. I'd forgive but I would never forget. And i wouldn't stay with him either.

[DoubleJ]

If a girl cheated on me, then she is out the door no questions about it.

[candy55]

It doesn't matter the reason if your girlfriend or boyfriend cheated on you, you have to forgive that person, because just God can judge them, so just forgive them and don’t treat them bad, I did that and the guy keeps looking for me everywhere, asking himself why he did that to me, he just want to come back with me and I don’t want to because I’m not going to be with him after that, not because I hate him or something like that, but just because he has to learn that people feels bad when someone cheat on them.

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[Blyat]

it depends, if it was like a loger term cheat, i would never forgive him
or even a one night stand (sex) i wouldn't forgive him too

but if it was like a kiss, i would make him feel guilty and id have my eye on him,
esepcially i would think im not good enough for him

,unless if he cheated on me for a guy, i dont think i would be mad

[SuckDickNSaveLiv...]

Sorries just wouldn't do it, my heart would be obliterated to travel through , its like moving mountainsssssssssss

[AimeeLynn]

^ just leave me
just leave me be!

I'll piss his ass off.
but if i ever forgive him then i would never really entirely trust him anymore

[fameONE]

I've done the second chances thing before. I'm through with that shit. I'm cold blooded these days.

[coconutter]

I would, but it would be really hard to trust him.

I don't know how it'd work out, honestly.

[MimiXDawn]

I've been cheated on two and a half times.

I forgave one of them.
The other one I didn't talk to for about three months and then he appologized to me, after that our friends forced us to talk to each other because they felt it to awkward to be arround us.

The half guy I loath to be around
(half being he tried to cheat on me with a friend of my mine who stopped him.)

[chaotiqthought]

I've been cheated on. A couple times. It would never have worked out anyways.

But the time it mattered the most, was when my current boyfriend cheated on me. Twice, and with his ex girlfriend(who had previously shattered his heart). He kissed her the first time, and he told me about it, without me asking him about it. The second time was about a month later. His Ex pushed herself on to him in a moment of weakness for him, and they had sex. His best friends had gone from the house to get soda or something or other so neither one of them knew. Days later my boyfriend confessed to me, crying his eyes out, repeating the phrases "I hate myself so much" and "I don't deserve you" several times over. Despite him cheating, and despite my hurting, I calmly asked him to tell me what happened. He did. About ten minutes after that, he told me he had something else to tell me. Me, being the pessimistic person I am, thought it was something else, equally horrible. He said to me, "I haven't been able to tell you this, because I haven't felt I deserved to since I was keeping that from you, but Gina, I love you." That was the first time he told me he loved me, and ever since then, he has worked his hardest to regain my trust. He refuses to talk to his ex now, and we love each other sincerely. We haven't had a problem since.

So, yes. I believe that under certain circumstances, it is indeed forgivable.