How soon is too soon?, your love dies, how long should you wait. |
 Jul 31 2008, 04:51 AM
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I've recently lost the most important person in my life. Edit:He was killed in a car accident about a month ago. We were together for almost a year and a half [two days shy]. We talked about getting married. We'd looked at rings and had one picked out, all he needed was money. We were perfect.
How long would you say is not long enough to wait to find someone else? In my opinion it really depends on how long you were with the person and just how well you got along. Really it's a personal decision, I'm just curious how long people would wait. |
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Jul 31 2008, 05:03 AM
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 /人◕‿‿◕人\ Group: Official Member Posts: 8,283 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 602,927 |
I don't think I could ever find anybody else. It just wouldn't be the same.
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Jul 31 2008, 05:05 AM
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that's exactly how i feel right now. how would anyone measure up?
but, i'm still young so i'm trying not to give up hope. |
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Jul 31 2008, 08:51 AM
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chaamonn chammon
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Jul 31 2008, 08:57 AM
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^^?
how is that funny? he had bills to pay. and we decided to wait until he had them straightened out. glad you find it humorous. |
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Jul 31 2008, 09:12 AM
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oo dat bunchaa $
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Jul 31 2008, 09:16 AM
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anyways well I have no idea how to cope with this lose but
-ice cream is your friend -stay at home watch a couple of scary movies ( not romantic) -when your ready go out with your friends -think about the negatives about him |
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Jul 31 2008, 09:45 AM
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 <(^_^<) DANCE!(>^_^)> Group: Official Member Posts: 1,304 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 586,621 |
you can't really set the amount of time in how long you wait to move on. some people can bounce right back and in less than a month be in a new relationship while others take a few months, even a year to try to start seeing other people. i, for example, have been in a situation where i was with someone for over 2 years and we broke up and within 2 months i was in a different relationship (the one i'm in now). it turned out better than i had ever hoped, but that doesn't mean i didn't care about my ex. then again i was also in a situation where i was in a relationship for just 6 months and it took me a while to get over it. it all really depends on you, the situation you're in, and how/why things ended.
& like aimee said "ice cream is your friend" in this kind of situation! good luck with everything & keep your head up, things happen for a reason. 
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Jul 31 2008, 10:17 AM
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I agree, it's up to the person and when you find someone else. Was just curious on others' opinions.
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Jul 31 2008, 10:23 AM
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lool..
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Jul 31 2008, 10:34 AM
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why yould i pay for my engagement ring?
yes i actually paid for him to drive to cali. because he hadnt gotten paid yet. |
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Jul 31 2008, 10:36 AM
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foo shoo
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Jul 31 2008, 10:39 AM
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paying for him to drive to cali because he had to be there by a certain date or he'd be considered AWL in my opinion does count.
espacially when i'm only 17 and 400 dollars is a hell of alot to have to pay. and i've bought him plenty. |
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Jul 31 2008, 10:40 AM
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watt da boii aaggee
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Jul 31 2008, 10:45 AM
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do what?
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Jul 31 2008, 10:47 AM
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ohh yee...
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Jul 31 2008, 10:49 AM
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he was 19.
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Jul 31 2008, 10:57 AM
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oo foo reell...
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Jul 31 2008, 11:02 AM
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seems as though i have struck a nerve.
i'm not going to respond to what you've said. i'm leaving it at this. have a nice day ^-^ |
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Jul 31 2008, 11:06 AM
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gl..
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Jul 31 2008, 11:09 AM
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because he needed help and it was better than him asking his father who is about to lose his house. it's called love. he was going to pay me back anyways.
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Jul 31 2008, 11:13 AM
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woo wee..
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Jul 31 2008, 11:17 AM
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he did have a job. he was in the navy. he had just finished shcool and that's why he was on his way to cali. he had just gotten his first post. that's why i said we were waiting until he straightened out his bills to do anything.
if you dont know the situation don't comment on it. |
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Jul 31 2008, 11:21 AM
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chaamon.. chamoon..
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Jul 31 2008, 11:24 AM
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-_- i paid for him to go to california so that he could go to his command post and work.
when did i ever say anything about children? also, i'm not bitching. i was asking for peoples opinions. and he wont be driving anywhere. he's dead. pay attention. |
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Jul 31 2008, 11:27 AM
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ohh fuu shuu..
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Jul 31 2008, 11:30 AM
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all he has is his father.
but i don't know why i'm trying to explain it to you. you wont get it. stereotypes. just because i live in the us doesnt mean i'm going to get pregnant before i graduate hight school. you don't know me. or the situation. so why are you still talking? |
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Jul 31 2008, 11:33 AM
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QUOTE(dhxdezigns @ Jul 31 2008, 12:30 PM)  all he has is his father. but i don't know why i'm trying to explain it to you. you wont get it. stereotypes. just because i live in the us doesnt mean i'm going to get pregnant before i graduate hight school. you don't know me. or the situation. so why are you still talking? ok.. now princc feeell baadd fuu da boi.. *princ rub dhxdezi head.... walkk outt thrad..* 
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Jul 31 2008, 11:34 AM
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QUOTE(dhxdezigns @ Jul 31 2008, 09:24 AM) -_- i paid for him to go to california so that he could go to his command post and work. when did i ever say anything about children? also, i'm not bitching. i was asking for peoples opinions. and he wont be driving anywhere. he's dead. pay attention. [[interrupts]] He's dead?...I must be reading something wrong...cuz that lost me... |
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Jul 31 2008, 11:36 AM
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ok, if you read the name of the thread. the description says..
"your love dies, how long should you wait." yes, he is dead. he was on his way to cali when his car went off the road, down 100 feet, and caught on fire. |
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Jul 31 2008, 11:39 AM
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QUOTE(dhxdezigns @ Jul 31 2008, 12:36 PM) ok, if you read the name of the thread. the description says.. "your love dies, how long should you wait." yes, he is dead. he was on his way to cali when his car went off the road, down 100 feet, and caught on fire. WTF... u nevaa saii dat in u postt..  
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Jul 31 2008, 11:40 AM
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. ish Happens . Group: Member Posts: 244 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 665,362 |
well see i thought that you meant emotionally.
smh...nevermind...ok...I understand now... QUOTE WTF... u nevaa saii dat in u postt.. blink.gif _unsure.gif ^^I know... |
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Jul 31 2008, 11:40 AM
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sorry i'll edit the post o_o guess i wasn't clear.
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Jul 31 2008, 11:46 AM
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QUOTE(dhxdezigns @ Jul 31 2008, 05:51 AM) I've recently lost the most important person in my life. Edit:He was killed in a car accident about a month ago. We were together for almost a year and a half [two days shy]. We talked about getting married. We'd looked at rings and had one picked out, all he needed was money. We were perfect. How long would you say is not long enough to wait to find someone else? In my opinion it really depends on how long you were with the person and just how well you got along. Really it's a personal decision, I'm just curious how long people would wait. wen u readdi.. |
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Jul 31 2008, 12:38 PM
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 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
I'm a big believer in when the time is right, your heart will let your head know.
Mizzkewl06 is right. There's no specific time period for someone who is grieving before they can date again. |
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Jul 31 2008, 06:56 PM
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There is no rule book to life. You'll just know.
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Aug 3 2008, 12:58 PM
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you can always take time
a lot of times people are confused about having a new boyfriend/girlfriend because they are afraid that they are "replacing" your lost love which is never true take your time and when you find that person where you have thoughts of living with them forever your know you have the right person i bet your boyfriend would rather have you happy then be lonly |
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Aug 3 2008, 01:09 PM
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wow i cant imagine what your going through and it must be hard.
Thats something that could take a while to recover from which is ok. You will figure out if your ready or not to move on and if it takes a long time thats fine. and i agree with robbotic this is deffinatly not something you can cure with ice cream. and what a pathetic answer that was too. Just take your time. and again im so sorry for your loss. |
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Aug 3 2008, 01:54 PM
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the earlier posters may not have understood that i was trying to say he is dead. i don't think i had made myself clear therefore i made and edit. they may have thought i was just saying that we broke up or something.
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