I can't hide it from her, i made a promise... Options

[flipboa185]

Idk....we've tried so hard to keep our relationship...through the tiems where ppl were all up on our faces sayin it wouldn't work and how I was goign to play her...how ppl didn't trust me....she had to force her self not to listen to that cus she knew it wasn't true...and i knew i wasn't going to do that....but even my clsoet friend seems to be losing faith in us.....this long distance relationship....we onyl see each otha a few times.....nd now i feel bad....she was jealous how all these girls were at my party....and how she couldn't come...since she was leaving for jamaica for a week...one girl at the party i was acting all flirty round.....nd i know i have to tell her before someone else does...

this is what my friend said to this..."hmm...maybe this long distance relation ship with xia isnt working well for you, cause you cant be that way whenever you want in a long distance relationship, like you can only see them at a certain time and cuddle and whatever at that time, meanwhile in a close(distance wise) relationship you can just see the person and hang out and cuddle and do whatever easier then it is with xia, or any long distnce relationship"

idk what to do.....i can't let her go...our efforts would of been all in vain... i love her too much....but would she let me go once i tell her what happened?....she done enuff to love me and tolerate what others say....but i'm not sure if she would be able to do so thsi time.....

[flipboa185]

the friend who said that...is also someone who likes me alot.....that's something that my g/f worries bout....but i know nothin is going to happen....i love my shawty to eva play her like that....but is there ne thing else to do to help my g/f stop worrying bout it...all i could say was trust my words that i wouldnt' play ehr....

[v0lc0mbAbE13]

you're really in a tough situation. that's very sweet that you're keeping your promise of not cheating on her... but what exactly happened with that girl you were flirting with? did you just flirt with her, or do other stuff? If you did more than flirt with her you should, of course, tell your gf. I mean, if my bf told me that he cheated on me w/ another girl, of course I would be hurt... but not a lot of guys are manly enough to tell the truth... so I'd admire him for that... and probably stay with him. there's not a lot of other things I can tell you to do to convince her you're not cheating on her... but it seems like you're doing a pretty good job. good luck!! <33

[ppl_love_me]

well, I can't help u make sure she won't worry, but I kno how u can keep ur relationship goin!

U just have to take pics of ur self doing ordonary things, and special things on special occations, and send em to her. It'll remind her of what funn u to have being together. and u should give her something special to u. like a necklace or a trophy. It'll make her feel like u value her more than u do and object, and she'll kno that as long as she has it, u love her.

Thats all I kno. hope u two work it out ok!

[xtremeliquid]

I think that you should just break up until you get to meet each other more often.

[illmizzkim]

Well there are a lot of conditions.
Like first of all, are you emotionally/mentally mature enough to handle a long distance relationship?
Even my most mature cousins couldn't handle it.
But then again, you're still probably very young and people will come into your life that you'll find special again.
How much is the distance? Do you really love her? Does she truly love you?

I personally think you should just wait until both of you mature a little, and if it was meant to be, then it was meant to be.. but long distance relationships are hard.

[ThePrincessofTKD]

Well there are a lot of conditions.
Like first of all, are you emotionally/mentally mature enough to handle a long distance relationship?
Even my most mature cousins couldn't handle it.
But then again, you're still probably very young and people will come into your life that you'll find special again.
How much is the distance? Do you really love her? Does she truly love you?

I personally think you should just wait until both of you mature a little, and if it was meant to be, then it was meant to be.. but long distance relationships are hard.

^^ that`s a smart girl right there.

i totally agree with her. it all depends on the balance of love.

[liddleT]

mi situation with mi boyfriend is kinda similar to this , i too am in a long distance relationship because mi boyfriend moved to california , mind u i live in JERSEY..so we'r basicalli at opposite ends of the d*mn country , but we've been together for almost a yr n a half n yea we both get worried bc alot a grls like him n bc he thinks alot of guys like me .. we fight sometimes n i guess u could say they're worse bc we'r so far apart , but u jus gotta have faith that this relationship is worth the wait to see ur girlfriend and its worth al the aggrivation u jus gotta show her that ur not gonna mess around with her n that u truly onli want her .. hope i helped

[fullmusicedmajor]

It'll pay off.

[x shootingstar x]

don't hang around with so many guys and tolerate yourself to stop flirting in anyway with any girl. I would have dumped you by now because I know that I am not strong enough to keep this relationship and plus the fact that he invited all these girls to his party. I advise you to tell her. It'll sure hurt her.. but if I was her, i rather know the truth. Be considerate. God, I hate this. I'm having tears in my eye just thinking about it. f**k.

[enyceXaddiction]

ive had a long distance relationship. it was worst though cause we didnt get to see each other at ALL.

[Xprezsion]

Long distant relationships are always hard to keep. Well I do agree that you should tell her before she hears rumors, because it would sound better from you, because she will know that you are honest with her. I guess to try to keep your relationship, don't put yourself in situations that would tempt you to "flirt" or perhaps "cheat" on her. Goodluck.

[ladystarr]

i was in a situation like this before, but breaking off my long distance relationship was one of the smartest decisions I've made 'cuz I found someone else I truly belong to. I loved my ex, but it was hard only seeing each other a couple times a month and talking on the phone/online was getting bOoOring.

What I had in front of me was soooo much better. I'm a very faithful person and I never cheated on anyone, but I admit I was very flirty when I still had a long distance relationship. I know that sounds contradicting, but I never cheated (kissed, gotten sexual, held hands...whatever u think is cheating). I always hung out with guys and liked the attention I got since my bf lived far away.

What I'm trying to say is that...u'll find someone that lives in the same city or whatever...maybe its one of ur cool girl buddies or whoever. For me I ended up dating one of those guys that I always hung out with and its soooo much better than my old long distance relationship.

I suggest not putting up with a long distance relationship 'cuz u'll probably break up. I put up with mine for almost 2 years too... Anyway, I know she'll be heartbroken, but it'll be good for her too...she might find someone that lives near her that makes her really happy. Just think of this of a good learning experience. GOODLUCK with everything!

[_sarcastic_]

i agree it is hard to keep a long distance relationship strong, i'm in one and it takes ALOT of trust and communication, and yeah you should really tell her what you did, before she hears it from someone else, and who knows the news might change and she'll hear a totally different story and that might cause more trouble if you know what i mean