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 Jul 20 2008, 10:51 PM
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 Yea Yea.  Group: Member Posts: 837 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 79,366  |
hi. so my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 8.5 months now and since we live close we spend as many days possible together. earlier in the summer i went away for 11 days straight and missed him insanely. i was at all girls government type conference and just wanted to go home and be with him all the time. i survived and have spent the last two weeks with him but now i'm going away to a camp for 4 weeks. this is also the first time i'm really going away for a long time in general.. i mean i'll miss my family but i'm really worried about missing him and him missing me. i know it's sounds so crazy because other relationships work with distance but if any of you know from experience.. how do you handle it? i'll have my laptop with me and i'll obviously talk to him on the phone but i also want to make sure i enjoy myself, meet people and have fun. i want to find an equal balance between being there and still holding on to him. i don't know. any advice/suggestions? thanks ;]
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Jul 21 2008, 06:18 AM
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try and set a time. so for example from 9-11pm each night, its you and your boyfriends time. other times, you can be with your camp mates. when you have free time, spend half of it with your new friends and half with your boyfriend.
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Jul 23 2008, 05:29 PM
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this seems almost like an obsession. you cant have your world revolving around him their are times (like your camp) that you wont see him for a long time and you will just have to trust him that he will be their for you when you come back to see him. You treat him like he's a kid by saying that you are worried about him missing you, guys are strong im pretty sure he will be fine by himself a couple of weeks and its not forever.
i agree with doughnut, just have your time for him and then the rest of your time for yourself and meeting new people. you need to learn how to do things by yourself and be focused and not think about him every minute. Good luck and dont worry you will see him soon enough  .
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Jul 23 2008, 05:34 PM
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if you really love your boyfriend, it's okay to miss him but i wanting to CONSTANTLY be with him is a tad bit obsessive. he can send you letters/postcards {real air mail) or email works too. if you have a webcam you guys can see each other. |
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Jul 23 2008, 05:39 PM
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It will be fine. As long as you both stay faithful to eachother everything will work out great.
I was living with my ex for well over 2 years when I just had to move out. It was hard at first to learn to sleep alone, wake up alone, and do things we usually did together by myself. We were still dating but I missed him terribly. We ended up breaking up, though, so maybe that's a bad example. |
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Jul 27 2008, 10:31 PM
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Yea Yea. Group: Member Posts: 837 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 79,366 |
i guess i made it sound a little more intense than it is.. i'm not obsessed with him.. it's just the first time being away for a long time so that's all i was asking about.. idk
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Jul 28 2008, 10:11 PM
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i am not saying he's going to cheat on you, but since you guys have been spending almost every secs together he's probably glad you are going away for 4 weeks so he can have some time out and maybe check out some hot chicks.. but once you're back he will act like he's back to normal..
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