jairus needs help?, there might be a mistake... Options

[ReggieM]

Ok i guess theres th this girl i like or have my eye for a couple of months, and we hung out well actually she bought me dinner for a favor i did for her in the past. And that night went really good. But we havnt really had other chances to hang out.

She also has a winggirl or friend thats mutual to us and i always invite her too places with the girl because it eases the tension.

Im just wondering what else can i do.

1.im not going to confess i like her...
2.Her friend is out of the city at college
3.She doesnt drive or nothing/no aim myspace facebook.

i could prolly figure this out myself but MAYBE someone has a miracle idea.talking on the phone is a option but pointless dont ya think.

[Tung]

well wtf do you want with her, if you're not going to tell you how you feel. that's the only way i see it. grow some balls jairus and tell her.

[*absinthe*]

LOL, Tung.

Text her..things?

[tokyo-rose]

Why would talking on the phone be pointless? At least it's a way to communicate and talk privately.

I ditto Tung, more or less. You can't not confess if you want to date her.

[ReggieM]

wow i thought you should know tung. Its a no-no to tell a girl that you like her, unless you're positive they like you back.

she doesnt have text either. shes not poor though lol...

im suppose to confess that i want to date her? and how would i say that?

[Tung]

well i know how it is to not give leverage to the girl. and if you tell her you like her, it shows weakness. and i know i use to be like not wanting to ask someone to date me, unless i KNOW FOR SURE the liked me back, cuz i'm scared of rejection.

but you know, you'll never know unless you initiate.

[ReggieM]

True, but back when i stopped being a wuss i told myself to never say to a girl ever unless she told me first.

Maybe show her but never tell, i have other ways to let her know i just need the fcking oppurtunitys and chances.

[sixfive]

Do you think she likes you? If so just start hanging out more often. Talk on the phone if you want, or at least get her number and start calling her to see if she wants to hang out, etc. Ask if she wants to go see the latest and greatest movie, or if she wants to go to a theme park. If she interprets it as you being a friend, you'll know. If she says yes and decides she likes you, you'll know. Just start being around her more often. Also, take her out and don't let her pay. Just be like, "This one's on me" and wink.

[ReggieM]

wow steven helped more than anyone

everyone else gets a

[dustbunny]

steven pretty much said it all. if you're waiting to figure out her feelings, you're not going to find out by just sitting on your ass and waiting for some message to fall onto your lap. you're going to have to use your uh, skills of human interaction? to find out.

girls usually won't just go "OMG I LIKE YOU" unless they know the other person likes them too; the way it used to work was Person A has flirty cute talk about "zomg who do you like" with Person B, Person A/B goes omg not telling teehee, Person B/A goes TELL MEEE..etcetc

basically, do not do. instead, do the hang out thing: time = relationship progression.

signs of goodness (still depends on each individual girl, but somewhat of a guideline):

a bit of holding back/hesitation - a little nervousness in speech or actions is a good thing, it shows the girl is a bit shy around you. if she's totally upfront and comfortable around you right off the bat it could either mean she's PERFECTLY WONDERFUL around you, or just..really consider you as a "friend" / "girlfriend".

does not ask if her other friends can tag along during playdates. 1-1 anything is good, 1 girl and 4 bffs and 1 boy is not good.

does not take 4 days to return a text or call

makes somewhat of an effort in dressing to impress (reminder: still depends on girl, but applicable to many)

doesn't just talk about her own life problems which consist of girl/girl drama and girl/boy drama. if she asks about your life, or just is genuinely curious about anything to do with you, good.



eh, only stuff that came to mind at the moment.

[ReggieM]

way too tired. but the last one, girls who are trying to be friendly ask about YOU and i understand they talk about themselves too but i think thats irrelevant.


my whole freakin problem is theres no chances to hang out that was my intial question. alot of this is common sense to someone like me.maybe it should be worded better but its not a generic "how do i tell if she likes me"

ill explain tomo.

[dustbunny]

don't know if i quite understand what you're saying, but basically I was trying to give an example of something that screams THE FRIEND ZONE.

many girls talk about their petty girl problems/petty relationship problems to guys they consider friends.



/edit.

okay well if you can't hang out then it's all about the phone.


that is of course unless you want to take the archaic route and write letters. nothing's going to happen unless you guys communicate.

[ReggieM]

FRIEND ZONE.

yea i understand all that stuff. Thats what being all nice and wussy gets you too.

Im just saying that are communication is SO limited theres hardly anytime to communicate

Don't do it. Let it linger.

good advice

'why hasn't this man told me anything yet?'

very good, you should make a topic about all this stuff.


I understand all the fundementals guys but im at stage one. ONE DATE.I cant really contact her besides the phone. And talking on the phone for long periods of time for me is another NO-NO. Because it creates all sorts of problems that you couldnt fix if you were face to face. Like not funny jokes lol.

MY REAL QUESTION: how can i make her go out with me somewhere.

i know all that WILL work i just need the second meeting.

[ReggieM]

she finally signed on to aim, and im gunna ask her to go to lunch tomo. we had a good talk no homo. hopefully no bs excuses...

[*Girthy*]

whip yo dick out

[ReggieM]

My text:We should definately hang out, its been way too long. I think i might start cheating on you.

Her:Sorry for the late reply i lost my phone(bs lol) we SHOULD do something when are you free?

i actually never needed help.TAKE NOTES.

[ReggieM]

=)

[animalinside]

pssh, who spends money on girls anymore...only people ill buy things for from time to time is a "friend" from time to time or a girlfriend.

Too many fish in the sea for anyone else to get a slice of my bread.

[ReggieM]

i agree doggie!