HELP! suggestions anyone?, friends! Options

[janerz14]

so one of my bestfriends is getting kicked out of her parents house, and im trying to convince my mother if she can move in with us. and i need help with suggestions of how to make the story believable and persuade her in a way to let her move in.

my mom keeps asking why? this and that. itz prolly because shes subborn and etc. but in the end she said she'll think about it.

so sometime next week im going to bring my bestfriend and my mom and talk about this. but we need a story.

help anyone? powers of persuasion?

[manny-the-dino]

well why did your friend get kicked out? what did she do?

[DoubleJ]

Yeah find out why she got kicked out, and tell the truth. One thing about situations such as these, is that the truth will ALWAYS come out. Lying, is just going to make things worse....TRUST ME!

[janerz14]

well the reason why is cuz her parents saw all of our partying pictures of us and drinkin and nakedness running around. and her parents are the traditional filipinos, strict ass hell. and now its like there somewhat disowing her and there not talkin to her at all and she cant go out and etc. and she cant stand it and is going to go insane and be miserable and the more that she stays ther, i know shes going to kill herself.

and since im her bestfriend, i cannot tell my mother this because she knows im a good kid. and yeaah thats why i cannot tell her the truth.

so therefor, i have to lie inorder to let her stay at my house.

and thinkkin of ways to thinkin up a really good story.

[manny-the-dino]

are her parents kicking her out or is she just going to leave? you kind of made it sound like she wants to leave the house. i think telling the truth will be better, too. i really don't think it's a good idea for you to lie because if your mom finds out you've been lying to her, you'll be in even more trouble. but i guess you can just tell your mom that your friend is having some problems with her parents & she needs her space away from them for a while. that technically won't be lying.. but i say the truth is always better.

[queen]

how old are you? own up to the shit you do. tell your mom your friend's a ho and her parents don't want her no'mo'=

or she could suck it up, stay at home, and let things get better. of course her parents wouldn't talk to her; they're pissed their kid's acting like a little slut, but if her parents haven't physically thrown her out of the house yet, it means they care enough to keep her home. tell her to either accept her punishment or get a job and move out on her own.

[StubbornFemme]

you could just tell your mom/parents that your friend just needs some time away from her house and her parents for just a little while ...just so that things get cooled down ..iunno?

[Kay-]

Tell her to imagine her self as a teenager that has no place to go, no place to live.

[Gigi]

^ My mom would totally not buy that. She would say something like "Well, maybe she shouldn't be such a skanky bitch to her parents and they might take her back. She's not my problem."

Dunno about your mom though.

[f00LisH_h3aRt63]

yeah is she getting kicked out, or does she want to leave?
there's a huge difference.
if she's getting kicked out then i can see why you'd want her to live with you guys.
but, if she wants to leave then i'd suggest for her to work it out with her parents.
i was in a similar situation with my parents when i was 18.
they found pictures, alcohol and weed in my room.
i was eighteen, never had a curfew and never been grounded.
then, i wasnt able to go anywhere. the trust from my parents was gone.
more like they were disappointed. but, leaving the house because i couldnt take the fact that my parents weren't talking to me or i was imprisoned would've been the easy way out.


i think if you want your friend to be able to live with you, you're gonna have to tell your mom the truth. only because whether you tell the truth or not, one day it will come out. then you'll be in a situation with your mom. don't make up a story. thats my advice from many, many experiences of the truth coming out.

[MissFits]

Sounds to me like she's grounded for doing things she knows she shouldn't do.

I don't think your mom will be down if she hasn't already said yes. I also don't think you should lie to her, that would do nothing but exacerbate the situation.

[Owari]

Yes, I think telling the truth is the right thing to do. But if your friends knows that her parent was strict from the beginning, she shouldn't have picture of you guys drinking(unless it's coke) or running around naked(that is weird), I mean I think most family will be mad if they see those type of picture. But these days, some parent don't understand their kids much. Good Luck.

[janerz14]

[ she's 20, im 19 ]

well im going to semi tell her the truth, make the whole conversation a positive thing, along the lines of that she's going to be my responsibility and its going to be benifical because she'll have a car and we work together, and im pretty much with her most of the entire time. and that we will abide by there rules, listen to everything my mother says. even ask her if we can go hang out. etc, all these things.
also saying that this is only a temporary situation, not actually moving in, but just a place to stay for 3months, help her get on her two feet, etc. and that she honestly has no place to go. [ really she doesnt ]

but shes going to end up asking why did she get ''thrown out/kicked out''.
i should prolly say that they ended up not getting along really well, and that its been like this for months.

because if i tell the actual, actual truth, im going to be in deep shit too. and im not letting that happen.

so what do you guys think??

[Melie]

ok, if you guys are at the age where you can move out of your parents' house then why not get a place of your own and you two become roommates? if you don't want the drama and you don't want your folks to know, then get your own pad.