horrible dad Options

[PlasticPiolet]

Alot people have told me i have all these things girls wants that they don't, and i have a loving father who care for me alots blah blah blah. i know my dad so well! everytime i was trying to talk to him about having a boyfriend he scream and shout at me! and later on when he founds out i was going out with someone, he screams at me more! he said i am only allowed a boyfriend when i am eighteen, and i am only allow to go out with guys that goes to university. well, it's not like he's going to choose who i marry to right?

So, now that i am nearly 18, i have a boyfriend.. and my parent's has left to live in aussie on tuesday, but they pretty much expect me to go on msn every night so they can talk to me, i totally understand what they're thinking. but what i don't understand is, why can't i be like a normal 17 year olds kid that allows to hangs with the mates at night time? it's not like i am doing anything wrong like taking drugs or smoking and things like that.

I've live my whole life wondering why is it so horrible? sometimes he's nice sometimes he's just, woah, horrible! and a few minutes ago he just told me from now on, he doesn't want to know me anymore, and my mum is crying :/ which is so awful cause i love her so much! she understands the most.. i heard him saying to my mum "don't try to beg me to talk to her, i don't want to f**king know her anymore just f**k off! you can cry all you want but don't beg me and if you do i will f**king beat the shit out of you" horrible isn't it? i have a loving family nobody in my family ever beats anyone up, i was just so surprise he can even say that! sometimes i don't want to live life anymore, it's not worth it at all!

It's like, he wants me to live up to his expectation, for example: go to school, go to the best university in town, find a good job, find a boyfriend who goes to university. i know that every parents wish to have a perfect child. but i just can't try to be someone who i am not! and i have no brothers or sisters, everytime i try to talk to them/him, all he does is yell at me

horrible life

[queen]

i don't understand what's so horrible.

It's like, he wants me to live up to his expectation, for example: go to school, go to the best university in town, find a good job, find a boyfriend who goes to university. i know that every parents wish to have a perfect child. but i just can't try to be someone who i am not! and i have no brothers or sisters, everytime i try to talk to them/him, all he does is yell at me

horrible life

ok, that seriously made me laugh. god forbid parents actually do their jobs. that'd be crazy.

[PlasticPiolet]

well, i don't like school so obviously you can't force someone to go to school if all they do is just getting not achieved! and the boyfriend don't always have to be the one who goes to uni!

[heyo-captain-jac...]

Are you sure you're 17? You have to realize that school is a necessity if you ever want to make it anywhere in life.

[PlasticPiolet]

true, but what's the point of going to school if i don't past? and my boyfriend dropped out of 6th form/ year 12 in high school he's now have his own business and he's the boss!

[heyo-captain-jac...]

Einstein dropped out too, but not everybody ends up like him. The numbers are there, 99% of all dropouts flip hamburgers or dig ditches.

[Rachel]

Einstein dropped out too, but not everybody ends up like him. The numbers are there, 99% of all dropouts flip hamburgers or dig ditches.

Oh please, you just pulled that out of your ass.


Neither of my parents went to college and are both very successful. My sister dropped out of college and went to massage school and is also pretty damn successful. If you don't go to college, you need to have a plan and choose a career that doesn't necessarily require a degree. Also, why don't you consider taking classes online or going into a field where there is trade schools or something (like going to culinary school)?

Don't ever feel like it's necessary to pay thousands of dollars for a degree that might not even be worth it for what you're trying to do. Some people just aren't meant for college.

[Kay-]

Simple. He's your father.

[dustbunny]

college/university =/= guaranteed great career or job. tons of other factors come into play for determining the success of a person. your father with the dating after 18? he's most likely just looking out for you, most parents don't allow their children to date for generally good reasons but always fail to explain them to their children; that's why the majority of teens have issues with dating restrictions. because they don't understand why their parents say no to dating they feel as if the rule is stupid and obviously invalid since there's no real good reason for it. the reasons exist and I'm sure your dad is just looking out for you.

on the other hand, your father does not seem like a guy with the best temperament in town but he obviously cares enough about you to want to talk to you everynight on msn or whatever. I hope you talk to your dad about this one day because obviously if your current track in life isn't working out, something has to change. If you're ever going to talk about finding a job that's more suitable to your desires or taking classes at a local college, do NOT bring up your boyfriend. Don't use him as an example because it will only further infuriate your dad. you have to let him know why your current situation isn't working: whether it's academically the courses are too advanced or you're uninterested in the subject or whatever, you know the reasons. whatever you do, special examples do not count. yeah bill gates dropped out of harvard and made it big, yeah people win the lottery all the time; is that reason enough to spend all your life savings on the lottery? no. there are special cases out there but you can't use them as your model. you need to let your dad know what sort of changes you need because of what isn't working out now.

[katebaybayy]

I say just forget about it. Hes youre Dad and youre still a minor so you have to do what he says. Unless hes not your legal guardian, you have to go to school unless he lets you drop out but i doubt, by hearing what youve said, that he will.
so just wait until youre 18 and then see what hes like.

im 17 and my parents love my bf. we started going out when i was 15 and they didnt like it at first but they got to know him better and they calmed down.

itll all work itself out. and not everyone has amazing, loving parents. some parents are jerks. duh

[fagget]

Boo hoo, I can't have a boyfriend and my dad wants me to date an intellectual, and get this: HE WANTS ME TO HAVE A GOOD JOB! :C RIDICULOUS!
I'm such a rebel to the point where my supposedly loving father has to get physical.

I hate life.

[Owari]

Well, I actually think it's a normal life. I'm in the same situation (I think a lot of people is as well) but I don't really care/think much about it. Parent wanting you to do better and have high expectation is a good parent but just lack of something mostly "Understanding" of their children. Just try to think positive.

[KryMeARiver]

You probably don't hate your father, you just hate living with him.

Either grow up and get the f**k out of your house, or shut up.

[karmakiller]

You say that he wants you to get a boyfriend who goes to the university, yet he yells at you when you date?

I think there comes a time in everyone's life when they kind of grow apart from their parents (rebellion, eh?). ALL parent(s) have expectations for their kids. They set the bar high. Usually, it's because they want their child to succeed and do better than they did. In a sense, you ARE lucky that you have parents who are willing to push you and willing to support your ideas and aspirations.

[AnnahhbeL]

You think thats bad? When I was your age, I wasn't even ALLOWED near boys or even talk about them. That's how strict my parents were.

[KryMeARiver]

You think thats bad? When I was your age, I wasn't even ALLOWED near boys or even talk about them. That's how strict my parents were.

You were lucky. We lived for three months in a paper bag in a septic tank. We used to have to get up at six in the morning, clean the paper bag, eat a crust of stale bread, go to work down the mill, fourteen hours a day, week-in, week-out, for sixpence a week, and when we got home our Dad would thrash us to sleep with his belt.

[mipadi]

Einstein dropped out too, but not everybody ends up like him.

Einstein went back and finished school. He held a degree in physics.

And yes, Einstein did drop out of high school -- but he dropped out of high school to attend college early. So he's maybe not the best example to use.

[heyo-captain-jac...]

Einstein was just one I pulled off the top of my head. But thats not the point. For the most part, dropouts are f**ked.

[mipadi]

Einstein was just one I pulled off the top of my head. But thats not the point. For the most part, dropouts are f**ked.

The funny thing about biographical anecdotes and statistics is that you can't really just pull them off the top of your head; they have to be true to make any real sense.

[heyo-captain-jac...]

Don't go with a half thought out bit of history. Go with the point I made.

[Joanne]

Of which you, once again, pretty much pulled out of your ass?

[heyo-captain-jac...]

Of which you, once again, pretty much pulled out of your ass?

No. Name a person you know personally that dropped out of high school, never went to college, and is any more than middle class.

[Joanne]

H.G. Wells, Jim Clark, Jimmy Dean, Julie Andrews (actress, I know, but she's way higher than middle class),..

[heyo-captain-jac...]

And you know them all? Famous is luck.

[Sandraaa]

LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! This has got to be a joke. I feel sincerely bad that you aren't happy right now. But if I had a dad like that, I'D BE THE HAPPIEST KID ON EARTH!

My dad doesn't give a SHIT about me. He tried to kill me with a KNIFE, I ran and had to call the cops. The cops have been to our house 3 times in 2 years. My dad DOESN'T want to pay for my education. He kicked me out of OUR home. He takes drugs. The list goes on and on and on. Right now, I'm fending for myself. I've got 20 EUR to live till the 15th of July.

I'm f**king certain that there are worse situations.

Your dad loves you. And I'm sure you're not telling the whole story. I'm sure you're rebellious.

[marzipan]

I think what you really need to do is just get over it.
Do you know how lucky you are to have a parent like that who wants the best for you? He wants you to have a good education and be able to make a living for yourself. And you're whining about it?
You say that people tell you this all the time and "blah blah blah," but I really think you need to open your ears and actually try to be reasonable.
And I agree with Sandra; I get the feeling you're not telling something.

[Amaranthus]

LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! This has got to be a joke. I feel sincerely bad that you aren't happy right now. But if I had a dad like that, I'D BE THE HAPPIEST KID ON EARTH!

My dad doesn't give a SHIT about me. He tried to kill me with a KNIFE, I ran and had to call the cops. The cops have been to our house 3 times in 2 years. My dad DOESN'T want to pay for my education. He kicked me out of OUR home. He takes drugs. The list goes on and on and on. Right now, I'm fending for myself. I've got 20 EUR to live till the 15th of July.

I'm f**king certain that there are worse situations.

Your dad loves you. And I'm sure you're not telling the whole story. I'm sure you're rebellious.

Tell it sistah!