Was I wrong? Options

[Ashley_Brook]

My boyfriend and I had sex yesterday afternoon and he got off early and I didn't get off at all. After he got off, we stopped and he told me he owed me one for that later. I giggled and said ok and then we had some other stuff to do. Well later that night, he gets tired and we get in bed and he starts to fall asleep. I asked him, "You aren't going to sleep, are you?" Then he said, "I have to be at work in 6 hours." Then I said, "Hey you owed me one!" and he said, "Right now??? I'm tired and work a physically exhausting job." Then I just got kind of huffy and turned over and went to sleep. Then like 15 mins later, he starts touching me down there, and I said, "Hey you don't have to if you don't want to." Then he stopped and went to sleep.

Now this morning, as he was just getting ready for work....I didn't talk to him but he was kind of seeming pissed off and left without saying goodbye to me....and I'm just wondering if I was totally wrong in this situation or what.

[shoryuken]

u PIX...

[ToxicTaco]

^ ignore him.

[shoryuken]

Y da fukk u spammenn kattaalizt..

[ToxicTaco]

im not spamming. your just not helping.

[shoryuken]

uhh yee princc hallpinn..

u daa onee aintt halpinn bietchh..

[ToxicTaco]

im the bietchh?

[shoryuken]

yee..


BBIETTCHH..

[NoSex]

Sex ruins everything. But, no, seriously:
Apologize, verbally, and... with a sexual favor.
He'll get the message loud and clear. If he is still in a bad mood, then maybe he might owe you an apology himself. But, as of right now, I'm sorry to say, but you do appear to be in the wrong. Don't be so upset when the loving doesn't come exactly as you like it and exactly when you want it - it's never going to be perfect. Even further, your man might have certain fears of sexual inadequacy, you need to be supportive on all-fronts in this case. Because, for some men, pleasing a woman can be a very daunting task.

Be patient, and be considerate. But, honestly, you didn't dig yourself a hole or anything, just... apologize.

[Eww]

Sex ruins everything. But, no, seriously:
Apologize, verbally, and... with a sexual favor.
He'll get the message loud and clear. If he is still in a bad mood, then maybe he might owe you an apology himself. But, as of right now, I'm sorry to say, but you do appear to be in the wrong. Don't be so upset when the loving doesn't come exactly as you like it and exactly when you want it - it's never going to be perfect. Even further, your man might have certain fears of sexual inadequacy, you need to be supportive on all-fronts in this case. Because, for some men, pleasing a woman can be a very daunting task.

Be patient, and be considerate. But, honestly, you didn't dig yourself a hole or anything, just... apologize.

It's ironic hearing this from the person with the name "NoSex"
Hehe.

[mizzkewl06]

i dont think you're in the wrong. if he said he was tired & had to be at work "in 6 hours" why would he start touching you? he obviously was ready to go to sleep so why would he bother starting something he wasn't really into?
& it's not about "the loving" coming when & how you want it, it's about him contradicting himself & then being upset when he was in the wrong. i understand that he was tired but you pleased him and he should understand that you have needs&wants that need to be satified. you should bring it up and talk about it. you shouldn't stay mad at each other, it's not worth it. this could all just be a misunderstanding.

[NoSex]

i dont think you're in the wrong. if he said he was tired & had to be at work "in 6 hours" why would he start touching you? he obviously was ready to go to sleep so why would he bother starting something he wasn't really into?

He began touching her because she demonstrated displeasure with his position. If he was tired and had priorities in the morning, she shouldn't have made it so obvious that she was upset. This creates a sense of guilt, wrong-doing, and tension - and, none of that is healthy, especially given the context of the situation. Because he clearly likes this girl, he decided, because she was so upset, to try to please her. It wasn't a contradiction, it was a compromise and a gesture of apology/love. To chastise him for trying to please his girlfriend is lunacy - and, that's how he felt when she responded negatively to his advances.

Needs and wants can wait, anything else is just pure selfishness (and isn't conductive to a healthy relationship). Work, however, will not wait. So, I'm sorry, again, but the OP was "in the wrong."

[shoryuken]

... u ginnaa turnnn PEDOOFILLEE...