Starting to question my sexuality, seriously now. Options

[fadingcolorsx]

So, I was talking to a good friend of mine today, and she told me how she "thinks" she's bi. But turns out, it was just another phase. But ever since this morning, she's got me thinking. Like, I've questioned my sexuality before, but never this much. Now, it seems like the more I try to tell myself that I'm straight, I tend to fall more towards bi.

What do I do?

..If there's anything I can do.

Also, if it does turn out to be like that, how should I tell my mom? She's one super "Eats everything the church teaches" scripture eater. And if I tell her, I can expect to be in hell for the rest of my life.

[Kay-]

Tell her and if she freaks out, ask her if she loves you cuz if she did, it wouldn't matter.

[tokyo-rose]

There's nothing you can do. Realizing homosexuality or bisexuality is something that happens naturally; you shouldn't try to stop it. It's part of who you are.

[rockable]

haha.. i get this sometimes. When I look at a picture of a woman and I think how pretty she is, and how I wish I had her tits, I get really worried that Im Bi or something. Lol. I dont think i am anyway. xD

Anyway.. Even if you are, there is nothing you can do to help it. Its your life.. your mum cant tell you what you should feel. No matter how much of a religious person she is.

Plus, shes your mum, she should be there to help and guide you, not jump down your throat because you feel differently about your sexuality!

[IzzyGrace]

^^^I agree.

Except, I'm 13 :| I question mine at times. Isn't this supposed to be a phase?

[madilove]

What do I do?

..If there's anything I can do.

Being gay or bi isn't a disease, there is no cure for it
It's not a bad thing either

Also, if it does turn out to be like that, how should I tell my mom? She's one super "Eats everything the church teaches" scripture eater. And if I tell her, I can expect to be in hell for the rest of my life.

No matter if you're gay straight, bi, purple, skinny, fat, preppy, sad, happy, depressed, or polka dotted, your mom should accept you.
There is no reason for a mother to be upset with what her child is. I mean, she had a hand in raising you, so if she can't accept who you are, maybe you should throw that out there... that her guidence helped mold you into who you are.

I say try what you need to to figure out what you like, who you like, ect. and good luck with figuring this out!

Isn't this supposed to be a phase?

As for you, no it isn't always a phase. For some people it can be, but there are people who go through their whole life questioning their sexuality.

I think, for the most part, the people who question it their whol lives are the ones who didn't get to explore it in their younger years

[demolished]

whether your mom SHOULD accept it or NOT, do not bother telling her anything

again, you state that "you have to every thing that churches teaches you"

therefore, do not attempt to take risk just because mom should accept their child. this case does not apply to every family otherwise we wouldn't be hearing stories of parents abandoned their child due to their sexuality.

my advice is to hide it from your parent. it's not worth the fuss because generally, parents would be too shock.

[anoniez]

I wouldn't worry about it. It's completely normal for young women to be curious and experiment with bisexuality. Do you see yourself as being able to have a relationship with a woman later on in life? Or do you see yourself married to a man? If the latter, it may just be a phase that a lot of girls go through.

I haven't told my mom yet and honestly I'm not planning to, it's none of her business and she wouldn't understand. I get the feeling she wouldn't know how to handle it and I wouldn't want to subject her or me to that awkwardness when I'm really the same person anyway.





One good way I know of to tell which gender you're attracted to: When you walk into a room, who do you notice first? The boys, or the girls? (or both?) :)

[dosomethin888]

Please note that this is just my opinion..

I dont believe that there is such a thing as being gay or bisexual. I believe that if you think you are, your just confused. The media promotes homosexuality and really its like under 5% of the world is gay or bisexual.

Your mother may "eat everything the church teaches" and if you do tell her that you are bi, she may say its a sin. And thats exactly what it is.

So, If I were you, no matter how many people try to "peer pressure" you into being into your same sex.. you need to find out what really is missing in your life and how you need to fix it.

[Tung]

wow what a waste for all the guys out there. so much potential and you're throwing it away for chicks.

[SuckDickNSaveLiv...]

wow what a waste for all the guys out there. so much potential and you're throwing it away for chicks.

Well if she Bi its still square game, of course I would not wife a bi girl because she always going to want to see other girls.

[ofconfidence]

i've questioned my sexuality before but i'm pretty sure it's just a phase.

or i scared myself out of it.
my mom would always tell me she had no problem if i ever turned out to be a lesbian but one of my friends i bi and my mom teases saying 'that girl doesnt even know who she likes.'

that bothers me a lot.

work through it, if you've never really had any experience with the same sex, then i suppose you cant be certain.