Emotional / Physical, which one sucks more Options

[roxyy]

Ok so cheating in general sucks, but which one do you think hurts more emotional or physical cheating?

im kinda leaning on the emotional side but then again idk. i think in some ways it can be pretty even.

[dispn0ygonekrazy]

wtf? never heard of emotional or physical cheating.

[karmakiller]

^ I think they mean that if the person you're with ends up emotional closer with someone else, like talking and e-mail and such, verses someone who goes and hooks up with someone else.

Honestly, if they have an emotional connection with someone, there is bound to be a physical connection too.

[dispn0ygonekrazy]

ohh ok that makes some sense. depends then id say emotionally wouldnt be as crucial if you were to physically cheat. if the cheater were to kiss someone else and the person finds out, wouldn't it hurt more? actions speak louder than words.

[iDecay]

Actions do speak louder than words... But these aren't words, they're emotions. I'd be more crushed if I got cheated on and the relationship was emotional. (Not counting if it was emotional and physical) Physical cheating can be done when you're drunk. You can't do that with emotions.

[dispn0ygonekrazy]

words connect to the emotions as dee said, if were talking about talking or reading an email, you hear and words words you can't say that isn't connected through emotions. if the person verbally told you "I'm cheating on you and you're nothing but a slut" hearing those words would make you feel sad. and by Actions being the physical part if you were to watch your man physically cheating on you, kissing,or having sex it would hurt more rather than them saying it to you. But all in all it's connected to an emotional feeling in the end.

[sweetest-emotion]

definitely emotional.
physical is just a hook up. it's nothing more.

but with pyhsical cheating, it's a hook up but with the feelings. like the other person hooked up with someone else, because the love them more than you. ouch.
i can forgive pyhsical cheating but emotional...never.

[Insurmountable]

UH Both. If your significant other is emotionally closer to someone, then they are probably a bit physically close too. At first glance, I would say physical. I mean think of having a boyfriend for a really long time and then come to find out he had sex with some other girl. Now if he is emotionally closer to someone, it hits you more if you look more in to the situation.

[aybaybay007]

i used to be such a jealouse girlfriend. my boyfriend was always messaging and texting other girls. and he'd hide them from me so i knew they were not very G rated texts or messages. and then he ended up cheating with me physically with one of his internet girls. and it was not fun.
i think that physical cheating is worse tho. they both suck ass

[aaayotiffany]

i think emotionally. i've gone through problems with this guy and they've all hurt me emotionally. any cheating is bad, but emotionally is worse because a lot of couples feel closer emotionally than physically.

[karmakiller]

words connect to the emotions as dee said, if were talking about talking or reading an email, you hear and words words you can't say that isn't connected through emotions. if the person verbally told you "I'm cheating on you and you're nothing but a slut" hearing those words would make you feel sad. and by Actions being the physical part if you were to watch your man physically cheating on you, kissing,or having sex it would hurt more rather than them saying it to you. But all in all it's connected to an emotional feeling in the end.

Well, the both stir up emotions. If the person you're seeing gets drunk at a party and gets physically close to someone it's bound to stir up about the same amount of emotions as if you found out they were talking to and getting emotionally close with someone else.

[Sprague]

Emotional.

I was watching Most Evil one day, and they conducted a study testing men and women and how they reacted with finding out their significant other cheated on them. They did an "emotional" and "physical" variations of the test, and it said the men responded more to physical cheating (i.e. having sex with another man) and woman responded more to the emotional cheating (i.e. your significant other being in love with someone else).

It was pretty interesting, actually. =P

[marzipan]

Ultimately, it's an emotional thing.
If you catch your boyfriend physically cheating on you, your pain is still an emotion.
And, well, the reason you're in pain is because you're in love with the person. That's an emotion.



But like Dee said, it'll hurt either way because both stir up your emotions.

[defecate]

to me, cheating is cheating. lol even if he's thinking about another girl in his head without having doing anything physical, it will still hurt me to think that he's thinking about another person.

[libertie]

This may sound ridiculous, but I think I would be more pissed about physical cheating. It's the biggest slap in the face that someone you care about did something so irresponsible knowing it would hurt you. Sure, it was just a one time thing and it didn't mean anything, but if that's true, why do it in the first place? You have total control over the situation - don't get totally wasted, don't give in to temptation, basically just don't be a douchebag, right? This is where I realize I'm dating an immature bastard who doesn't know how to handle himself properly, and I don't want anything to do with him.

Emotional cheating is different. If a person is truly devoted to you and loves you, they would never even consider going off and getting attached to another person. When this does happen, it happens by accident in that they don't expect to suddenly develop feelings for this other person, but it's a clear sign that they don't care for you the way you thought they did (and maybe even they thought they did). It hurts like hell to love someone and then suddenly find out they don't feel the same way; however, it gives closure. You know for sure now that it can never work out with this person because they don't love you the way they should. I would say this hurts more, but both are definitely deal-breakers for me.

[JokeInsideJoke]

Honestly, if they have an emotional connection with someone, there is bound to be a physical connection too.

true dat

i think that emotional and physical cheating are both equally bad. but i guess it depends on the person who is getting cheated on

[DoubleJ]

Actions do speak louder than words... But these aren't words, they're emotions. I'd be more crushed if I got cheated on and the relationship was emotional. (Not counting if it was emotional and physical) Physical cheating can be done when you're drunk. You can't do that with emotions.

Extremely well said Tina. Emotional cheating is definitely more difficult to deal with. What you and your spouse have emotionally, is not comparable, so when they become attached to someone else emotionally, it is a definite heart breaker.

[Melissa]

Physical.

If somebody cheated on you physically, it's like a slap in the face. Was your emotional connection not enough to keep him tfaithful? Are you not satisfying him? Obviously his commitment to you wasn't as strong as you thought it was. So if somebody has the balls to go and sleep with somebody else while we're ogether, then something is obviously wrong with the relationship.

Emotional cheating I can understand, as painful as it might be. Emotions aren't really something that someone can control. And the very fact that it's purely emotional and hasn't manifested in a physical relationship with that someone else says a lot. I'd just prefer it if whoever I was with decided to be upfront with me about it rather than let their emotions fester into something that might become ugly, because the more time that passes, the more invested I am in our relationship, and if he's not fully there, that's going to be a problem.

And another thing about physical cheating - don't give me that bullshit alcohol excuse. I've been there, done that, and completely understand. Your inhibitions are all gone and you may do something stupid that you regret, but what alcohol does is amplify something that you're already feeling, thinking, etc. So if a guy goes to a bar, gets drunk, and sleeps with someone else, that tendency was probably already there and it's the alcohol that set it free. That means that obviously, his connection with you (me) isn't strong enough to suppress his sexual desires for somebody else, so f**k him and let him f**k whoever he wants, because our relationship is over.

[DoubleJ]

^On that note, I can totally see your point, and I think that they are equally just as bad for different reasons. If someone put a gun to my head though, I would have to say emotional, just because I have seen what it can do to people first hand.

[Melissa]

^On that note, I can totally see your point, and I think that they are equally just as bad for different reasons. If someone put a gun to my head though, I would have to say emotional, just because I have seen what it can do to people first hand.

Yeah. I guess I just haven't gotten to that point of emotional attachment where it takes me more than a week to get over someone after letting them go.

[DoubleJ]

If I were ever in a relationship, it would take me about a few hours to get over them.

[mizzkewl06]

i think both go hand in hand... if you're cheating emotionally you're bound to cheat physically and if you're physically cheating chances are there aren't any emotions left towards your mate. both are very hurtful but i think emotional is the worst.

[dispn0ygonekrazy]

they all hurt

[LoveToMySilas]

I think I'd be more hurt if it were emotional cheating because physical cheating doesn't necessarily have to mean they like the person. They could've gotten really messed up one night and had unprotected sex with someone in their dorm room.

[libertie]

Physical.

If somebody cheated on you physically, it's like a slap in the face. Was your emotional connection not enough to keep him tfaithful? Are you not satisfying him? Obviously his commitment to you wasn't as strong as you thought it was. So if somebody has the balls to go and sleep with somebody else while we're ogether, then something is obviously wrong with the relationship.

Emotional cheating I can understand, as painful as it might be. Emotions aren't really something that someone can control. And the very fact that it's purely emotional and hasn't manifested in a physical relationship with that someone else says a lot. I'd just prefer it if whoever I was with decided to be upfront with me about it rather than let their emotions fester into something that might become ugly, because the more time that passes, the more invested I am in our relationship, and if he's not fully there, that's going to be a problem.

And another thing about physical cheating - don't give me that bullshit alcohol excuse. I've been there, done that, and completely understand. Your inhibitions are all gone and you may do something stupid that you regret, but what alcohol does is amplify something that you're already feeling, thinking, etc. So if a guy goes to a bar, gets drunk, and sleeps with someone else, that tendency was probably already there and it's the alcohol that set it free. That means that obviously, his connection with you (me) isn't strong enough to suppress his sexual desires for somebody else, so f**k him and let him f**k whoever he wants, because our relationship is over.

Pretty much the thoughts (at least what I was trying to convey) from my post exactly except worded better. :3

The alcohol thing, if you put yourself in a testy situation and let yourself get that shitfaced drunk, I don't care what your excuse is, you were being stupid and are fully responsible for your actions. It's still careless and it still hurts just as much.

[AimeeLynn]

Emotional

Since a hook up is nothing compared to loving someone else

[IamRad]

Im kind of leaning more towards emotional, just because if you know someone is cheating on u that way, it makes you feel like you arent worth their time anymore. But physical cheating hurts too, cause try picturing that :/

[espressive]

i would be more pissed if somebody physically cheated on me, but i think the one that would hurt me the most would be emotional cheating. A physical cheating occurs in a given situation, a given moment of charged hormones and irresponsibility - which may mean absolutely nothing as far as a future relationship is concerned. An emotional cheating occurs over multiple encounters, in which actual feelings develop for another person that may develop into a future relationship (something i would have to endure & it hurts the most to see your guy/girl with somebody else).

This may sound ridiculous, but I think I would be more pissed about physical cheating. It's the biggest slap in the face that someone you care about did something so irresponsible knowing it would hurt you. Sure, it was just a one time thing and it didn't mean anything, but if that's true, why do it in the first place? You have total control over the situation - don't get totally wasted, don't give in to temptation, basically just don't be a douchebag, right? This is where I realize I'm dating an immature bastard who doesn't know how to handle himself properly, and I don't want anything to do with him.

Emotional cheating is different. If a person is truly devoted to you and loves you, they would never even consider going off and getting attached to another person. When this does happen, it happens by accident in that they don't expect to suddenly develop feelings for this other person, but it's a clear sign that they don't care for you the way you thought they did (and maybe even they thought they did). It hurts like hell to love someone and then suddenly find out they don't feel the same way; however, it gives closure. You know for sure now that it can never work out with this person because they don't love you the way they should. I would say this hurts more, but both are definitely deal-breakers for me.

amen to that! those are good words.

the one thing i'd like to share my opinion about is that emotional cheating is not accidental. some people say that 'you can't help who you love', but i dont think that is necessarily true in a cheating situation. i honestly don't think that you can develop feelings for somebody else by just staring at him/her from across the room (unless they are feelings of lust, where a physical cheating may occur). in order for an emotional attraction to occur, the two HAD to be conversing or hanging out; an emotional attraction is all about getting to know and liking the person, which is a gradual process. lust can occur in a second, but love occurs over time. don't you think that at some point in time, the emotional cheater would realize that perhaps hanging out with that other girl/guy isn't such a good idea if emotions are churning? by saying emotional cheating is accidental, it means that it can't be prevented when in fact it can be. there was the choice to continue seeing the other person despite the rising emotions or to perhaps limit the contact with the other person. the cheater chose to keep seeing the other person and let the emotional attraction grow to the point where it overpowered his/her emotional attraction to you.

and for me, that hurts worst than a physical cheating, where there is a moment of irresponsibility as opposed to an emotional cheating, where there are multiple occurences of irresponsibility that foster actual feelings.

[Butterflyphoenix]

definitely emotional cheating would be more painful.

[dannyordinary]

emotional, because there can be no feeling when it's physical .
but they both suck anyways, so

[KissMe2408]

I think probably the most painful is emotional cheating. Having the one person you love, fall in love with someone else.

[xxstarpower]

Emotional definately worse.

Emotional pain sometimes can become physical pain, it's that powerful. But if your significant other fell in love with someone else, I mean really, what are you going to do? He'll be thinking of her all the time, but one night stands are different. Either way both is dead awful.

[imnoxonesmemory]

depends whether the physical cheating happened through the others being drunk or not. if it was a cheating relationship that's pretty bad tbh. but i think being emotionally cheated on is worse.