Girlfriend cheated on me what should i do |
 May 3 2008, 11:28 PM
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ok so last weekend my girlfriend went to a party. the thing is she never drinks and that night i guess she chose to. I wasnt invited to this party because it was her and her brothers friends party. so she decided to drink and i guess what happened is that she made out with some other guy that night. people took pictures and now i look like a bitch cause i got cheated on and so many people know about it or have seen it. she told me the next day because she and i cannot lie to each other about things like that so she just flat out told me. she said she didnt mean to do it but and she didnt know she did it. i know that that isnt true. i know that she knew she did it. but what hurt me the most is that she did do it. the rest of the weekend i did very stupid shit. (i was a former drug abuser till i met her and i quit) she made me feel so bad that i went back to what i used to do to cope with problems. Technically i should be dead for what i did that weekend. So i talked to her and she says she loves me still and i still love her but i cant trust her anymore. i feel like what we had didnt mean anything at all and that i was nothing to her. im not sure what do do now. is there any opinions on how i should handle this because i want to leave her but then again i dont. please help
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May 4 2008, 12:26 AM
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sorry man.
QUOTE feel like what we had didnt mean anything at all and that i was nothing to her. Why? Arent you over-reacting over JUST one thing that just happens? QUOTE she said she didnt mean to do it but and she didnt know she did it. Does she constantly and always lied to you? how do you know she did it? i fear assumptions that leads to false relationship. QUOTE i still love her but i cant trust her anymore. so, are you implying that she's a flat-straight liar? if you truly knew she was lying and doesnt really care about you, why are you still in a relationship, man?  i hope you ARE not overeactive over one event that totally changes your views. Please explain the other things that she done wrong. Not only to clear your case, but it will help us, your fellow members, to clearly analyze the problem especially the weight of it. |
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May 4 2008, 01:08 AM
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 Death is a promise given to us at birth Group: Official Designer Posts: 4,757 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,459 |
take some time away from her to think about what you want out of the relationship.
if you want to stay, let her know that it might be a while for you to trust her again, and that things may be different than before. Sorry you have to go back to drug. |
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May 4 2008, 01:28 AM
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Senior Member Group: Posts: 8,274 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,001 |
go back to drugs?
what the hell. |
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May 4 2008, 02:04 AM
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Death is a promise given to us at birth Group: Official Designer Posts: 4,757 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,459 |
QUOTE(chicubs88 @ May 4 2008, 12:28 AM)  (i was a former drug abuser till i met her and i quit) she made me feel so bad that i went back to what i used to do to cope with problems. |
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May 4 2008, 02:24 AM
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 Sarcastic Mr. Know-It-All Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,089 Joined: Dec 2003 Member No: 29 |
Do the monster mash
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May 4 2008, 04:29 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 64 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 642,341 |
1)Yes, it was a betrayal of trust, but she was drunk and it was just a kiss. People do daft things when they're drunk and she obviously regrets it now. Why not give her a second chance? If its not the same, then by all means, accept that you've drifted appart.
2)Stay away from the drugs. She did something wrong and you take it out on yourself? |
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May 6 2008, 05:11 PM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
I think that everyone always deserves a second chance. I mean, we're all human and we all make mistakes. The point is that she was drunk at the time and she didn't mean to do it intentionally. Would you rather have her tell you about it outfront or find out from somebody else that she was keeping it from you? I mean, its only natural to feel like it'll be hard to trust her but you both love each other and I don't think you should let a little thing like that get in the way. As for the drug problem, don't go back to it. Its just something that shouldn't be in your life.
 There are other ways, bra.
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May 7 2008, 08:43 PM
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 Tasty. Group: Member Posts: 471 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,784 |
meh so she just drunkenly kissed the guy. so what it happens! that's a form of cheating but i think if she says she didn't mean it then she didn't.
she just kissed the guy and you're about to KILL yourself! GROW UP. GET HELP. you need to sit her down and have a serious convo. if it's obvious that she doesn't feel for you the way you do, then you need to get out now before you do something even more stupid. otherwise she'll just drive you to the end. |
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May 7 2008, 09:55 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
tell her to
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May 7 2008, 10:01 PM
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 yo yo yiggidy yo. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,606 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,591 |
hmm. take some time off to think about it, it won't help if you're still talking to her and keeping in touch with her. but also consider that she was drunk and be glad that it didn't go on any further. at least she was honest and told you up front because a lot of people won't mention it at all to their spouses.
if you really care about her, you can stay with her if you want but don't let her think that she can do it again and you'll still stay with her. people have that mentality that they'll always have that someone that they can go back to and i hate that. in my opinion, if someone cheated on me, i wouldn't get back with them, no matter who they are. but you should take some time off and think about all of this, you might forgive her and stay with her, but things might not be the same. you really need to think about this, especially if cheating is a big issue with you. |
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May 8 2008, 10:18 AM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
nextt da bietch... DUH...
 ... me luvv readdd alll da gurll adviceee hurr.. HAHAHAHAH!!
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May 8 2008, 12:15 PM
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*Influential Guitarist & Inspiring Writer* Group: Official Member Posts: 1,217 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,134 |
sniff some coke. and slap her with a trout
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May 8 2008, 12:42 PM
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 <(^_^<) DANCE!(>^_^)> Group: Official Member Posts: 1,304 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 586,621 |
if you don't trust her don't be with her. there's really no sense or point in being with someone you don't trust. all you're going to do is get hurt because in the back of your mind you'll always be questioning her. from personal experience i can tell you that being with someone whom you don't trust is just asking to get hurt. you'll always wonder about what they're doing and who they're doing it with. it's the worst. so you need to really give yourself some time to think about this.
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May 8 2008, 06:39 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 235 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,772 |
if you still love her, then be with her, but dont trust her as you usually do, trust her little by little... i know its hard to do, but my bf almost f**ked some girl in his state while hes with me... its hard to to trust him again as usual, but it will grow though.... if not then just break it off
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May 8 2008, 07:56 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 61 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 647,523 |
hook up w/ other girls!! dont do more drugs it just makes you feel worse (and look worse).
so forget her! if yall get back togeather again i promis you you guys would always fight and fight because you probably wont be able to get over it even if you tell yourself you are. just get rid of her and hook up with other nice girls |
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