how do keep yourself from getting emotionally attached? |
 Apr 27 2008, 03:07 PM
Post
#1
|
|
|
Senior Member  Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863  |
I was wondering how u keep yourself from getting emotionally attached to your gf/bf?
|
|
|
|
 |
Replies
(1 - 36)
|
Apr 27 2008, 03:10 PM
Post
#2
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
I don't 'keep' myself from getting attached, I was born like that. In your case (of which I have no idea), how about dating other people?
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 03:13 PM
Post
#3
|
|
 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Uhh... I thought that was kinda the point of having girlfriend or boyfriend...
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 03:22 PM
Post
#4
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
im saying prevent yourself from getting emotionally attached in order to keep yourself from getting hurt and things like that.
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 03:27 PM
Post
#5
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 138 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 489,625 |
well if you're trying to deep yourself from getting hurt, then there isn't really a point of a relationship you know? [not being mean] but relationships are based on trust and if you don't trust your bf/gf and think they'll hurt you then maybe you shouldn't be together and get to know eachother better
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 03:31 PM
Post
#6
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
yeah i understand. I was just curious because I was talking to my ex-girlfriend and I asked her after our 6 month relationship how she got over me in like less than a month...and she said that she kept herself from getting emotionally attached and that she said that she does that with all her boyfriends. HOWEVER, that is not true because I know she got hurt whenever I did something behind her back.
I'm just so very confused |
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 04:28 PM
Post
#7
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 57 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 308,869 |
QUOTE well if you're trying to deep yourself from getting hurt, then there isn't really a point of a relationship you know? [not being mean] but relationships are based on trust and if you don't trust your bf/gf and think they'll hurt you then maybe you shouldn't be together and get to know eachother better i agree completely. the whole idea of being in a relationship is having someone you are emotionally attached to. you trust that they like you and vice versa. anything without those feelings is not really a relationship as such. your ex-girlfriend can't be getting much out of her relationships in my opinion. if shes not getting love and trust and emotional fulfillment, what is she getting from a relationship? |
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 04:42 PM
Post
#8
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
I think when she said "not emotionally attached" she wasn't correct because I know she trusted me because I did some things to hurt her a couple times which implies trust.
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 04:46 PM
Post
#9
|
|
 Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
Then your girlfriend has a serious trust issue and because of what you've done to her in the past, she's keeping her distance now.
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 04:54 PM
Post
#10
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
This emotionally unattached thing isn't just with me it's been with past people as well..I just don't understand this idiotic girl.
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 04:57 PM
Post
#11
|
|
|
Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
She's probably just protecting herself. Calling her an 'idiotic girl' isn't the way forward to developing an understanding and accepting relationship. She's been hurt in the past, she's obviously scared of committing to someone else now; and going by your attitude there's not really a why in it.
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 05:03 PM
Post
#12
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
I think that is the reason...hmmm, i dunno y i never thought about that.
Thanks S-Majere |
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 05:08 PM
Post
#13
|
|
|
Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
Ah, you've got to think about these things from a sentimental POV. Girls are sensitive creatures, so be patient and understanding.
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 05:10 PM
Post
#14
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
there is nothing to be patient for anymore :O cuz we broke up about 2 weeks ago..I am just trying to put all the pieces of the puzzle together lol
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 05:11 PM
Post
#15
|
|
|
Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
OIC, well use that nugget for future reference, huh?
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 05:15 PM
Post
#16
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
yup haha. Also, it's just been really bothering me these past couple of weeks and I really wanted to know what the heck was going on lol
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 05:17 PM
Post
#17
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
Are you Armenian?
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 27 2008, 05:43 PM
Post
#18
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
yes lol. Why?
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 28 2008, 11:10 AM
Post
#19
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
Because of the 'ian' at the end of your name. LOL!
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 29 2008, 11:12 PM
Post
#20
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
:P
|
|
|
|
|
Apr 29 2008, 11:15 PM
Post
#21
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 734 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 278,251 |
I can't.. the longer I'm with the person the more attached I get. That's just how I am. I'm like that with other people besides a BF too.
|
|
|
|
|
May 1 2008, 12:41 AM
Post
#22
|
|
 The Illustrious Mari C. Group: Member Posts: 586 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 26,671 |
I don't; if I didn't want to be attatched emotionally then we wouldn't be dating esp. with him being in the navy...I'm in love with him so I'm definitely attatched
|
|
|
|
|
May 1 2008, 12:52 AM
Post
#23
|
|
 sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
Don't talk to him/her.
Do you intend on having any emotional intimacy at all? |
|
|
|
|
May 1 2008, 04:19 AM
Post
#24
|
|
 Cornflakes :D Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,541 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 322,923 |
I would say to keep someone from being emotionally attached to someone is by not telling them how you really feel about things. Just give them a one liner about everything and not just giving them your full opinion. Then you keep a good distance so they do know some about you so you get to stay with them but yet keep yourself emotionally de-attached.
|
|
|
|
|
May 1 2008, 06:18 AM
Post
#25
|
|
 Why are we racing to be so old? Group: Member Posts: 46 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 645,077 |
I think if you're looking for a relationship where you aren't emotionally attached then you should probably look up the term "friends with bennefits"
|
|
|
|
|
May 1 2008, 09:21 PM
Post
#26
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
it's just that i'm sick of getting hurt...and im sick of being the one who cares so much...it just bothers me...i dunno
|
|
|
|
|
May 2 2008, 12:03 AM
Post
#27
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 138 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 489,625 |
It's good that you care :] And if you're sick of getting hurt.. You could stop dating for a while.
|
|
|
|
|
May 2 2008, 02:26 AM
Post
#28
|
|
|
Why are we racing to be so old? Group: Member Posts: 46 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 645,077 |
Part of being in a relationship is trusting them that they won't hurt you.
|
|
|
|
|
May 2 2008, 05:17 AM
Post
#29
|
|
 55KAMG's<3 Group: Member Posts: 232 Joined: Sep 2007 Member No: 577,506 |
become emotionally attached with an illegal substance.
coke is a good choice |
|
|
|
|
May 2 2008, 11:23 PM
Post
#30
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 786 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 488,341 |
That sounds kind of impossible to do.
I mean, many people that gets into relationships even if they don't like each other at first will start to later on. Unless your a cold hearted person then I think it'll work. Or you can try to make yourself think that you don't care about them. |
|
|
|
|
May 7 2008, 08:48 PM
Post
#31
|
|
 We're Over 9,000!!!1! Group: Human Posts: 307 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 352,435 |
KEEP YOURSELF BUSY with other things, with other people, with friends, school, work, whatever.
don't distance yourself, but establish space for YOURSELF and remember your friends. if you hang out with them everyday...it will set you up for some hard times when you guys start fighting or something. |
|
|
|
|
Aug 31 2008, 12:03 AM
Post
#32
|
|
|
Newbie Group: Member Posts: 3 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 592,664 |
QUOTE(karmakiller @ Apr 27 2008, 03:13 PM)  Uhh... I thought that was kinda the point of having girlfriend or boyfriend... LOL .. word. |
|
|
|
|
Aug 31 2008, 08:24 AM
Post
#33
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 180 Joined: Aug 2008 Member No: 681,057 |
Be a player. Ur out there for either the d*ck or p*ssy. No attachments what so ever. Tell anyone your going to be with that your basically there for one thing and one thing only, no harsh feelings. Or if i'm just a perv and you had no sexual intentions at all....
then don't date anyone for a while. Be single and happy with yourself. After you find that you can be happy by yourself, when it comes to another break up it won't be so difficult. cause its honestly hard to not fall for a person. If your attracted to them and they make u feel the way you feel, you cant do anything about it. |
|
|
|
|
Aug 31 2008, 08:47 AM
Post
#34
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,665 Joined: Aug 2008 Member No: 676,364 |
QUOTE(Edwinbarkhordarian @ May 1 2008, 06:21 PM) it's just that i'm sick of getting hurt...and im sick of being the one who cares so much...it just bothers me...i dunno THEN TAKE IN CHARGE. Watch this - here / this help. PS, beyonce explains it soo much. ;) |
|
|
|
|
Aug 31 2008, 08:24 PM
Post
#35
|
|
 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
There's no fixed formula for this.
Personally, I flirt and date without getting emotionally attached because I know that I won't find my Mr. Right in high school. Being honest about your objectives before entering a relationship can also help. |
|
|
|
|
Aug 31 2008, 08:46 PM
Post
#36
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 1,028 Joined: Sep 2007 Member No: 579,129 |
I look for things that I dislike. If I think I like someone, but then I know deep down I really don't and I'm just being stupid, I just look for pimples on their face or bad habits they have. Then I think of the greasy pimples touching me. It seems to work.
|
|
|
|
|
Aug 31 2008, 10:10 PM
Post
#37
|
|
|
Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
QUOTE(TheFegNut @ Aug 31 2008, 06:46 PM) I look for things that I dislike. If I think I like someone, but then I know deep down I really don't and I'm just being stupid, I just look for pimples on their face or bad habits they have. Then I think of the greasy pimples touching me. It seems to work. If your person does not have pimples, find out which types of food makes them break out, and then offer lots of them to that person. Soon enough, pimples will emerge and you'll be disgusted. Emotionally unattached! |
|
|
|
 |
1 User(s) are reading this topic (1 Guests and 0 Anonymous Users)
0 Members: