HELP!! WHY, I KINDA MESSED UP Options

[jerk112]

So I have a girlfriend we have been going out for about 3 weeks now well this weekend i had sex with another girl it just kinda happened i think i might be a sex addict if i don't like every 1-2 months at least i kinda like have to call a friend well anyway we did this and i didn't feel bad at all no remorse or guilt afterwards nothing still like it was just sex to me nothing else i don't like the girl i mean shes pretty but thats it and i was wondering if this is weird i didn't tell my girlfriend and probably not going to i just was wondering why i don't care ?? any suggestions also her birthday is coming up and i want to get her a hoodie but i don't know what size she is like 5'6 normal weight for a girl not fat but not anorexic skinny any ideas??

[transcendentalis...]

Wow. all right. Punctuation is good.

You need to reevaluate your relationship with your girlfriend. If you're having sex with someone else that you also don't particularly care for, and feel that nothing's wrong, then I'm not sure you're ready to be in a relationship at this moment in time.

As for the birthday deal, get your relationship straightened out before you buy her an actual gift...

I can't tell if you're kidding or not x_x

[tokyo-rose]

Yeah, you really should have just asked your girlfriend to sleep with you if you wanted sex that badly, although I don't think three weeks is long enough to be dating before sleeping with each other. And as for not feeling remorse, there's definitely something wrong there -- like a lack of commitment and loyalty to your girlfriend. I find it hard to believe you could do something like this without feeling at least a little bad about it. If you don't care, maybe you don't like your girlfriend enough to be dating her.

[jerk112]

Well I am 16 and I kinda think the reason why is because we have only been going out for about 3 weeks i like her but like i don't love her i mean if shed come out and dump me id be kinda upset but not really but isnt that normal when u first start out in a relationship you start out kinda together then grow stronger as time goes on ?? And there is no way shed have sex with me right now the farthest she will go is some foreplay.

[tokyo-rose]

Still, you shouldn't have gone and slept with that other girl. I think you should tell your girlfriend what you did soon instead of waiting till after her birthday to do it. The longer you put it off, the worse it will look when you finally tell her. You need to come clean about this.

[transcendentalis...]

I think you're just raging with way too many hormones right now. Put things on pause for now and think about what a relationship really means (and it's not all sex).

[jerk112]

I mean you think it would bad if i just kinda didn't say anything at all i mean never Like gurenteed shed never talk to me again ever and in 2 months or so im sure we will be havening sex at least she seems to think so

[transcendentalis...]

Are you noticing how all your posts somehow mention sex?
This is madly immature.

It's not all about sexual gratification. You're supposed to grow up someday, and figure out how real relationships - including friendships - work. Why do you like this chick in the first place anyway?

[jerk112]

Welll why i Like her Well when im with her i have tons of fun like we are always laughing and haveing a good time no matter what She has these beautiful green eyes that when u look into you get lost in your thoughts When she has her arms around me i feel like on top of the world and when im holding her close or shes laying on me watching a movie it feels like nothing wrong could happend and all around she makes me happy

[tokyo-rose]

Okay, well it's good that you can appreciate those aspects of your relationship. Is sex really that important to you? The way your relationship is now, it seems like it's developing well. If you really like and care about this girl, you can wait longer till she'll sleep with you... Although, as Ruth said, a relationship isn't all about just that.

[jerk112]

Yea i Know i Can thanks for all the Help GUYS an GIRLS you've enlightened me

[Just_Dream]

That's just shady that you're not even telling her that you've slept with someone else. I mean, there is a possibility that she might someday meet one of the girls you've slept with and you'll be busted pretty bad.


Think about it -- how would you like it if she slept with another guy behind your back, and she told you? Wouldn't you be pissed? If you aren't, then maybe you don't care enough about her. If you really wanted sex that bad AND this girl means so much to you (as you've mentioned all that romantic cheesy stuff in a previous post, lol), you should wait.


... You're only 16? Woah.

[jerk112]

Well yea i would be mad if she told but i guess if she didn't tell me i would never no so i couldn't be mad ( even if they do meet the girl i did that with said she wouldn't say anything cause she doesn't wanna get her ass beat by my girlfriend ) but yea its kinda shady I guess Maybe in A few months i look back at how stupid i was for doing that but who knows

[datass]

wow
you irresponsible person. you should definitely go tel your girlfriend what you did.

but isnt that normal when u first start out in a relationship you start out kinda together then grow stronger as time goes on ??

BIG problem there, how do you expect anything to be growing stronger if you've slept with another girl THREE weeks into dating? that is some serious issue.

[jerk112]

Well what id like to know is there anyone who has done the same thing i mean it was wrong but it was still only 3 weeks not 3 months 3 weeks and it wasn't like i expected it to happen I was just out with a buddy one night and we invited some girls over and well we all got trashed and stoned out of are minds and i woke up beside this girl no clothes....... First time this has ever happened to me i new the girl and everything and she was kol and said no big that she does birth control so i guess i kinda set myself up for this to happen but idk

[LoveToMySilas]

Hm...looks like you're in a pickle there, buddy. Well, we're still young, dude, and to me it kinda looks like you're not really ready to be in a relationship with someone. Its the raging hormones, you have to figure out what you really want. I say you put the birthday gift to the side until you figure out this puppy first. I mean, you say you like her but you don't love her but when you banged the brains out of some other girl, you didn't feel anything?

[Rachel]

you're an ass.

ps- and you did more than "kinda" messed up.

pps- wtf does her height and weight have to do with this?

ppss- you're still an ass.

[jerk112]

Yea your right i am an ass id agree with you there i mean what i did was wrong but who hasnt done something behind there girlfriend or boyfriends back and just kinda never said anything im sure alot of people have it just kinda happend i dont see it happening again and that I think in some ways i kinda appreciate haveing her more now and kinda do feel bad about what i did cause everytime we hang at one point that does pop in my mind

[queen]

uh your gf deserves someone better than you. therefore you should tell her so she could break up with your sorry ass.

[jerk112]

yea u could be right or who knows maybe not But i think this relationship could turn out very good for some reason

[Tramatize]

Yea your right i am an ass id agree with you there i mean what i did was wrong but who hasnt done something behind there girlfriend or boyfriends back and just kinda never said anything im sure alot of people have it just kinda happend i dont see it happening again and that I think in some ways i kinda appreciate haveing her more now and kinda do feel bad about what i did cause everytime we hang at one point that does pop in my mind

You slept with another female, thats just unexeptible, yes i have dont things behind a girls back, but nothing more than flirt or say "i love you" [to ex's], but that doesn't make up for sleeping with another girl, damn if you have to rub one out, but don't sleep with another girl.

[misoshiru]

wow. you make a shit boyfriend. if you wanted to have fun, you wouldn't be dating anyone in the first place. uh...who hasn't cheated you mean? a lot of people haven't cheated. i really hope that she finds out and dumps your sorry ass.

[Just_Dream]

First time this has ever happened to me i new the girl and everything and she was kol and said no big that she does birth control

Dude, even though this is the first time that this kind of incident happened, you need to consider your original post. You need to have sex at least once a month?

i think i might be a sex addict if i don't like every 1-2 months at least i kinda like have to call a friend

WTF so before this incident, you had sex with another girl behind her back too? Eh?!

Anyways, if having sex with some other chick makes you appreciate her more, then you are one fucked up guy.

Also, the only thing I've ever done that might even be considered cheating is probably dancing with another guy. Of course I told my bf that but he said he doesn't like me doing that too much, but my boyfriend doesn't really like to dance. Eh. But I tell him all the time and I've only danced with guys that my bf knows (except one other guy, but he was chill and I told Tony about it anyway). Usually he's okay with it. Of course my situation is difference because I'd never do something so horrible like you would (even if it's just an accident -- you admitted that you set yourself up for it).

I feel so sorry for her. I concur with synkro - tell her so she can break up with you.

[datass]

how the FUCK do you think it'll get better if you've cheated on her already? you expect her to trust you? god damn, she doesn't even know you. three weeks, you probably know her name and what color hair she has. you are so irresponsible, "its okay because the girl i cheated with is on birth control, ya know, no babies!" wow. just how messed up can you get? you have some serious issue. i hope you figure your big fat problem soon, or live a life of shittiness.

[jerk112]

hmmm well ill let you all know how we are doing in the next few weeks

[datass]

if she break up with you, she must be really stupid.

[Rachel]

hmmm well ill let you all know how we are doing in the next few weeks

Did you even tell her that you cheated on her? Honestly, you suck. GTFO

[hypnotique]

So I have a girlfriend we have been going out for about 3 weeks now well this weekend i had sex with another girl it just kinda happened i think i might be a sex addict if i don't like every 1-2 months at least i kinda like have to call a friend well anyway we did this and i didn't feel bad at all no remorse or guilt afterwards nothing still like it was just sex to me nothing else i don't like the girl i mean shes pretty but thats it and i was wondering if this is weird i didn't tell my girlfriend and probably not going to i just was wondering why i don't care ?? any suggestions also her birthday is coming up and i want to get her a hoodie but i don't know what size she is like 5'6 normal weight for a girl not fat but not anorexic skinny any ideas??

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Well I am 16 and I really shouldent be having sex.I dont even deserve to have a pair of balls and a peewee.Im such an a-hole I let my 4 inch think more then I think with my pea sized 16 year old brain and whatever left of a heart i have.So since im so cheap ill just buy the bitch a hoodie and it will be just fine.In fact ill buy her whatever is small and on clearance to let her know how much respect i have for her,So what if she has some class and wont f**k me.Ill just find another pea brained stupid c**t to do me.Id like to die of AIDS.

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Boys (Since you are not yet a man nor do you act like one) like you make me sick.

[jerk112]

wow some of you are so harsh i mean damn shit happends get over it do i feel bad i did it now yea but can i go and change it no and im not goin to tell her im not that dumb i f**ked up big time yea but its not goin to happend again so im not worried about it

[hypnotique]

Well see honey thats the problem.

You said yourself that you have a history of this,chronic cheating can turn into an addiction as you keep telling yourself that you need another woman for the 1 hour fix.

You need that punch in the balls to see that you got yourself more of a problem then you want to admit.

[jerk112]

yea but ive never cheated on a girlfriend in doing that this is the first time and last

[hypnotique]

So what would have happened if you knocked the other broad up or you got an STD?

Would you like not tell her then?

[illriginal]

So I have a girlfriend we have been going out for about 3 weeks now well this weekend i had sex with another girl it just kinda happened i think i might be a sex addict if i don't like every 1-2 months at least i kinda like have to call a friend well anyway we did this and i didn't feel bad at all no remorse or guilt afterwards nothing still like it was just sex to me nothing else i don't like the girl i mean shes pretty but thats it and i was wondering if this is weird i didn't tell my girlfriend and probably not going to i just was wondering why i don't care ?? any suggestions also her birthday is coming up and i want to get her a hoodie but i don't know what size she is like 5'6 normal weight for a girl not fat but not anorexic skinny any ideas??

LOL This belongs on a comedy.

So what would have happened if you knocked the other broad up or you got an STD?

Would you like not tell her then?

Nothin, he'd just keep havin sex, and infesting more females with STDs. Till like a year later he starts to realize he has STDs and he just spread the STD across his home town lol

[hypnotique]

Nothin, he'd just keep havin sex, and infesting more females with STDs. Till like a year later he starts to realize he has STDs and he just spread the STD across his home town lol

Yep.And by doing that would make him a felon as its a felony to knowing spread diseases like STD's or AIDS to others.

Ill be watching you on the maury show then

[illriginal]

Yep.And by doing that would make him a felon as its a felony to knowing spread diseases like STD's or AIDS to others.

Ill be watching you on the maury show then

Oh yeah.. if they have HIV and tested, and then again slept with someone without protection nor with their acknowledgment that he has HIV... that's attempted murder o.O

[jerk112]

dude i dont have an std and she was on birthcontrol and i new the girl and she just got out of a relationship with her bf for a year no stds and if i did get one from this id telll her but i dont think i am its been almost a week no signs yet atleast

[miyashu]

ok consider this: you tell your gf the truth, you look like an ass BUT at least you were honest.

OR you could just keep it to yourself forever.

my boyfriend once had some run-ins with the bad crowd and started doing the drug thing early in our relationship. he was too scared to tell me, and i eventually found out on my own. it made him look MORE like a jackass for hiding his dirty little secret. is that how you want your secret to unfold? it's better to get it over with and tell your girlfriend what happened. yeah, she'll be upset but i think it will hurt her even more if she ends up finding out later. you never know, it could happen. so if you truly do care about her, be a man and tell her the truth. she deserves to know.

[aaayotiffany]

no offense, but reading all of that kind of made me laugh.
don't get me wrong, it was a pretty bxtch-ass thing you did to her. and for you not to tell her makes you even worse. i'm a girl and i think most girls would agree when i say that i'd want my boyfriend to tell me if he cheated on me. lying is a horrible thing to do. and if you act like nothing happened and just go on with the relationship like that, it makes it even worse.

wow, you've really crossed the line.

ok consider this: you tell your gf the truth, you look like an ass BUT at least you were honest.

^yeah. in between all the hurting and anger, maybe she'll consider that you did go and tell her.

[heyo-captain-jac...]

wow some of you are so harsh i mean damn shit happends get over it do i feel bad i did it now yea but can i go and change it no and im not goin to tell her im not that dumb i f**ked up big time yea but its not goin to happend again so im not worried about it

Harsh? You fucking cheated on somebody you supposedly "love," and were harsh? You need to get the hell out of here now. And how the fuck could you not be worried about it? You seriously need to get help, and if you don't soon somebody is going to beat the shit out of you.

[tokyo-rose]

wow some of you are so harsh i mean damn shit happends get over it do i feel bad i did it now yea but can i go and change it no and im not goin to tell her im not that dumb i f**ked up big time yea but its not goin to happend again so im not worried about it

You're messing up even more by not telling her. She's going to be really angry when she finds out -- and she will find out eventually. Information like this gets around, even if you and the girl you slept with agreed you wouldn't tell anyone what you two did.

But hey, it's your choice.

[shatteredboness]

how can you NOT tell your girlfriend and feel no guilt about not telling her? you should definately fess up to her. tell her exactly how you feel. that girl you had sex with will most likely tell her friends. word gets around. even if she said she wouldn't say anything, she will. so you should probably tell your girlfriend before she does.

[shatteredboness]

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Boys (Since you are not yet a man nor do you act like one) like you make me sick.

hehehe

Reason for edit: Remove those img tags, please. ;] - Jane

[Just_Dream]

dude i dont have an std and she was on birthcontrol and i new the girl and she just got out of a relationship with her bf for a year no stds and if i did get one from this id telll her but i dont think i am its been almost a week no signs yet atleast

Some STDs might not show unless your body reacts due to physical/emotional trauma. Take Herpes (HPV) for instance. Some people might break out often, and others might have breakouts like once a year, maybe even once in their lifetime. Who knows? It depends. So you can't even be for sure what happened. It's been almost a week, you say? Different people show difference signs and it might take longer to show up.

Also you're an idiot - birth control does NOT protect you from STDs. You're still coming in contact with the skin. You're getting pregnancy confused with STDs. lol n00b. And she might not even know she has an std. You never know.



OMFG I LOVE SAILORMOON.

[Glamourouz]

Point blank, you're not ready for a realtionship...End it now, you've already messed up & then you don't even care nor want to come clean...You're young, if you think you're a sex addict or whatever excuse you wanna try to make, just be single & mess around with people that let you or whatever..don't do it at the expense of someone's feelings/heart/whatever...You can't even pull that whole we just got into a relationship thing like it's normal...once you decide to be in a relationship, it's monogamous unless stated otherwise, then you'd classify it as open if that's even really classifable b/c that's BS to me...but anyway, situations like this is how people end up with STDs (not knowing what or who their partner if they become partners is doing) & if you just kiss, it can cause the same problems b/c too many people engage in oral & go around kissing people & spreading herpes & stuff...People are so darn nasty...be responsible...a relationship is built on trust & you're already breaking that...Sex also isn't the sole purpose for a relationship or necessary & if it is then you need to get someone that fulfills that for you...you should just end it now so it won't be much harm done if any...

[datass]

THIS GUY IS WAY TOO MESSED UP TO TAKE IN ANY ADVICES. JUST LEAVE THAT HIM ALONE SO HE CAN ROT.

[hypnotique]

Some STDs might not show unless your body reacts due to physical/emotional trauma. Take Herpes (HPV) for instance. Some people might break out often, and others might have breakouts like once a year, maybe even once in their lifetime. Who knows? It depends. So you can't even be for sure what happened. It's been almost a week, you say? Different people show difference signs and it might take longer to show up.

Also you're an idiot - birth control does NOT protect you from STDs. You're still coming in contact with the skin. You're getting pregnancy confused with STDs. lol n00b. And she might not even know she has an std. You never know.
OMFG I LOVE SAILORMOON.

See stupid little boys like him are the reason why sex without a college degree should be illegal.

[mizzkewl06]

See stupid little boys like him are the reason why sex without a college degree should be illegal.

[jerk112]

So hmmmmm i read everything through and well I told my girlfriend thinking for sure it would be over.. Told her the hole story and then she came out and that in the first week we wore goin out that her old boyfriend came over and that he ate her out?? she said that she would of felt really awkward if she asked me to do that and that it was to soon so i guess we both f**ked up in the end and we both promised not to do it again and well proms in 3 weeks and the after party should be fun thanks for all the help everyone it really did help out and i feel alot better and like wow i don't even know how to explain how i feel :) :)

[Rachel]

Wow you guys suck.

[hypnotique]

So hmmmmm i read everything through and well I told my girlfriend thinking for sure it would be over.. Told her the hole story and then she came out and that in the first week we wore goin out that her old boyfriend came over and that he ate her out?? she said that she would of felt really awkward if she asked me to do that and that it was to soon so i guess we both f**ked up in the end and we both promised not to do it again and well proms in 3 weeks and the after party should be fun thanks for all the help everyone it really did help out and i feel alot better and like wow i don't even know how to explain how i feel :) :)

You both deserve nothing but death by ebola and choking on dicks.

Go knock her up and please make more retarded offspring.

[jerk112]

that means alot coming from someone who at the bottom of every post has a picture of a blonde girl hoping there enough action for all her fans

[queen]

rmfao. so i guess i was wrong, and you did deserve each other. i can't believe you guys jumped into a relationship when obviously neither of you were ready for it -_-" oh gah.

but anwyay, glad that it's all settled out. i hope you learned something from this though, and don't get into another relationship for a while, for the better of everyone who would be involved.

[aaayotiffany]

So hmmmmm i read everything through and well I told my girlfriend thinking for sure it would be over.. Told her the hole story and then she came out and that in the first week we wore goin out that her old boyfriend came over and that he ate her out?? she said that she would of felt really awkward if she asked me to do that and that it was to soon so i guess we both f**ked up in the end and we both promised not to do it again and well proms in 3 weeks and the after party should be fun thanks for all the help everyone it really did help out and i feel alot better and like wow i don't even know how to explain how i feel :)

wow. lmaoooo.
you guys really do belong together. i think her situation was worse since she never even told you and it was her ex-boyfriend. wow. just wow.

edit:
have fun at prom?

[tokyo-rose]

Uh, okay.

Let me know if you want this closed since all that will happen is more criticism and bashing if it stays open.

[jerk112]

Its no big deal synesthesia i mean thats kinda what i wanted is people to tell me how they felt and what not and they did ill probably post another topic in a few weeks tho just to let everyone know how we are doing and what not. pretty cool site u got going on here keep it upp everyone

[datass]

its true
you two deserve each other a lot

[Luna5]

You need to keep it in your pants.

[Glamourouz]

well good for you two ...a match made in idk...at least your issue's settled

[miyashu]

woah... well, at least everything's okay now. good thing that you told her the truth.

good luck at prom.

[demolished]

You're at risk for certain mind disorder or condition.

if you constantly keep the same routine over and over again, it'll gradually becomes your habit, eventually becomes an addiction, and slowly affect your overall character and personality.

it is NORMAL for anyone who keep doing certain things without realizing the consequences and how wrongful it is. but, it is not normal if you keep on doing it for a longer period of time than expected or else, that's consider a major issue.

however, you need to control the amount of wrongful act in your behavior. it's better to have NONE with another person. you NEED to curve your habit, man. the better access and control over the abilities you have, the stronger willpower you can obtain. you just need to think out of the circle and look at the bigger picture.

[tokyo-rose]

Its no big deal synesthesia i mean thats kinda what i wanted is people to tell me how they felt and what not and they did ill probably post another topic in a few weeks tho just to let everyone know how we are doing and what not. pretty cool site u got going on here keep it upp everyone

Okay, well, as long as you feel comfortable.

Good luck...

[jerk112]

O good thing this is just a first time

[hypnotique]

that means alot coming from someone who at the bottom of every post has a picture of a blonde girl hoping there enough action for all her fans

Dont question the f**king kinkyness n00b.

I unlike you went to college and Dont settle for men or women who cheat on eachother and expect to have a lasting relationship out of shitty trust and Disease.

[jerk112]

SO are you IN one now then??

[tokyo-rose]

SO are you IN one now then??

Actually, she is.

[heyo-captain-jac...]

You need to keep it in your pants.

He needs to keep it up his ass.

[tokyo-rose]

Okay, guys. No more insults.

jerk112, I'm going to close this since your problem has been somewhat resolved. PM me if you'd like this reopened when you want to update us on things.