Enough is enough Options

[Elba]

How do you make yourself not get back with your bf/gf after you two break up? I always fail, miserably.

[Just_Dream]

D: You have to prove to yourself that you don't need him. Don't be on the rebound because you might seem like you're using someone to push him out of your mind. Spend less time and make yourself realize that you are better off without him. And hang out with me. Haha :P

[transcendentalis...]

Stop talking to him altogether, find a new crowd. Surround myself with friends who are determined to keep me away.

Make a list of the bad things about him and the good things about him. Force the bad list to be longer.

I'm kind of in the just-got-out phase, still. I don't want to be back with him, but I can't keep away from him (or anyone, really) when he's feeling down.

[Tung]

You need a better man. Someone who only thinks about clothes, and clothes only.

[Just_Dream]

You need a better man. Someone who only thinks about clothes, and clothes only.

OH shush, you. He works at Nordy's, so that won't do.

[Elba]

He's really mean to me. I wrote a blog the other day. I guess if I read it every time I feel like talking to him, it'll put some sense into me.

[aaayotiffany]

hmmm.

- stop talking to him/her or limit your talking.
- try to remember that there are better people out there that deserve you.
- find a hobby/another guy/another girl. lmao. jkay.
- go out and partyyyyyy.

[brooklyneast05]

He's really mean to me.

[illriginal]

Keep your mind active... without the thought of him. Don't leave your mind idle cuz you'll end up thinkin about him again. Don't even listen to love songs and shit... listen to some heavy metal lol something to bring out your good emotions and not memories.

[Melie]

keep reminding yourself of what the reason for you not being with him.

he's mean is one sure sign to NOT go back to that creep. no woman should ever be treated like she ain't sh*t. because without us, they wouldn't be here.

[superstitious]

He's really mean to me. I wrote a blog the other day. I guess if I read it every time I feel like talking to him, it'll put some sense into me.

:[

Elba, you are too beautiful, intelligent and funny to put up with this. It would be nice if you two could remain friends and stay in touch, but it appears that the best thing for you is to cut ties all together.

[Tung]

OH shush, you. He works at Nordy's, so that won't do.

What the hell, hook a brother up with some Dunks and Diors man!

[Elba]

Lol. 20% off.

To be honest, I am not 100% sure that we broke up. But from what he was texting me yesterday, it looks like we did? Last text said "I'm done bye" so I assumed he was DONE. Well, either way, I think I'm done, too, and at this point the only way I would want to get back together is after a long break and some sort of counseling. We both have issues.

[Tung]

Wow 20% off. That's worser than Abercrombie. At least when you get hired at Abercrombie you get a free denim jean haha! I expected 30% or something.

[Elba]

30% is for managers. Once a year, they get 33% off. Also, they just had 40% off any pair of sunglasses.

[Tung]

When I was working at Gap, I got %40 off Gap clothing, and since Gap also owns Banana Republic, and Old Navy, I got %30 off those stores as well. Greatest perk to working there. I never bought anything though with my discount. I only bought like two jackets from Banana.

[Elba]

That's good, Tung, but this topic isn't about DISCOUNTS. Help me out, yo!

[rnicron]

I thought the percent sign came after the number, yeah?

And Elba, just move to a different state, away from the asshat.

[Tung]

I thought the percent sign came after the number, yeah?

Whoops you're absolutely right. I'll just have a mod to fix that for me, because I'm creating jobs for mods to do.

[rnicron]

I don't think any mod would really give a shit in all honesty.

[Elba]

Advice, or GTFOO myy faccceee

[rnicron]

immmma nnooooot in uu faaacceeeee... zz ZZZzz ZZzz Zz zzZZ ZTfu!

[Elba]

OMGG modzz wornn dis DUMassss!!!

[rnicron]

maaangg stfu b-nnoxxxx... ii issssntt uuu maaaama

[Elba]

LOL.

I am so stupid when it comes to relationships http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=47427

[rnicron]

Why are you reading all your old topics?

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=47427
http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=52194

[Elba]

DAMN STALKER.

[rnicron]

Nah, I was seeing why you weren't posting.

[Elba]

I was too busy reading.

[rnicron]

I would never put that much information in a post.

[Elba]

I used to be really open

[rnicron]

I'm really open, but IRL.

[Elba]

I'm not open at all, irl.

[Melissa]

lol@elba.

seon ho's door's always open.

[rnicron]

I'm not open at all, irl.

I'm not open to a lot of stuff, but I'm extremely open when it comes to sex. It's weird because I don't talk about it on here.

[libertie]

:[

Elba, you are too beautiful, intelligent and funny to put up with this.

I concur.

You should join our support group. We can branch it out to include other guys.

[Elba]

What support group?

[xoxoxx]

superwoman that fool?

[Rachel]

Elba, this man has been nothin but heartbreak for you. You are far too amazing, spectacular, fantastical, not mention SEXY AS HELL to put up with his shit. You deserve about a million and four times better.

Take him out of your phone, your AIM everything. Yeah you know his number, but it will be less tempting if you have to punch it in every time. Whenever you feel the urge to text/call/IM/whatever him, think of all the BS he's put you through and focus your energy on making yourself better. Hang out with people who treat you right (like Christinaaaa), surround yourself with ice cream and love and girlie movies. Learn a new hobby, like knitting or something IDK.


(HAHA I AM TRYING TO IMAGINE YOU KNITTING PS).


If all else fails, GET CRUNNNNNK. Also, I will come out and kick his lame ass all the way to China if necessary.

[stephinika]

^^
Haha oh Rachel, but yes I have to agree. You're definitely too amazing to be going through this all the time Elba.

[Elba]

Elba, this man has been nothin but heartbreak for you. You are far too amazing, spectacular, fantastical, not mention SEXY AS HELL to put up with his shit. You deserve about a million and four times better.

Take him out of your phone, your AIM everything. Yeah you know his number, but it will be less tempting if you have to punch it in every time. Whenever you feel the urge to text/call/IM/whatever him, think of all the BS he's put you through and focus your energy on making yourself better. Hang out with people who treat you right (like Christinaaaa), surround yourself with ice cream and love and girlie movies. Learn a new hobby, like knitting or something IDK.
(HAHA I AM TRYING TO IMAGINE YOU KNITTING PS).
If all else fails, GET CRUNNNNNK. Also, I will come out and kick his lame ass all the way to China if necessary.

^^
Haha oh Rachel, but yes I have to agree. You're definitely too amazing to be going through this all the time Elba.

Thanks, girls. I really appreciate it

[xTINAA]

I agree with Rachel. Just try everything you can do to get him out of your mind, like hide or throw away pictures that you have of him and you, etc. Also, go out with some friends to get your mind off of him. I would like to go clubbing and stuff because you get to dress up and feel pretty (lol) and go out and have fun. AND if I come out in the summer I'll beat him up =)

[Just_Dream]

Damn Rachel, your words are just as hot as you.


Yea Elba, let's go have mad hawt secks at the Japanese Friendship Garden -- I'll make you forget about him!

[Elba]

Lol, thanks Christinas!

I just deleted him from my phone D: Makes me sad.

[Melissa]

Aw, Elba.

Have you talked to him since he sent that douchey text?

[Elba]

Yeah. I asked him to drop off my memory card at my work. He parked and then texted me telling me to just unlock my car and he could just leave it in there. So, I did, and then he just left. :(

[misoshiru]

awww elba.
keep your head up. like rachel said, you're waaayyy better than him. and at least now, you won't have someone controlling your life anymore.

Yea Elba, let's go have mad hawt secks at the Japanese Friendship Garden -- I'll make you forget about him!

Are you cheating on me?!

[Tung]

lol@elba.

seon ho's door's always open.

lol at seon ho. guy might have a good body, but his face is like a pepperoni pizza. so i guess his good body over compensates that?

[Just_Dream]

Are you cheating on me?!

You already cheated on me with JC If you're going to move on to a fudge blackie brownie behind my back, I'm going to move on to a vanilla-bean brownie behind your back.


Oh but you know I still love you best, my YanYan. ;X


See, Elba? The fact that he didn't even care proves how meaningless it really is to be with him. You will definitely find a better guy later (nottung).

[vintage-toile]

well, see it as if it hasn't worked the first time, as much as you want it to work again its going to end (possibly the same way or worse) again...and you'll be back to square one.
so wouldnt you rather have fun in that time and spend it getting to know someone else a lot better?

[shoryuken]

How do you make yourself not get back with your bf/gf after you two break up? I always fail, miserably.

uhh sum bietcchh teelll mee y elbinoo breaakk upp..?


u gittaaa gitt gooddd reazinn daa breakk upp.. orr u ginnaaa mizz hee/shee

[misoshiru]

You already cheated on me with JC If you're going to move on to a fudge blackie brownie behind my back, I'm going to move on to a vanilla-bean brownie behind your back.
Oh but you know I still love you best, my YanYan. ;X

WUT?! JC's just my partner in crime.



but anyways, y'know Elba, you guys were together for almost 3 years. And if the most he is willing to do is break up with you via text message, it shows you how much of a douche he is. Not worth it.

[shoryuken]

WUT?! JC's just my partner in crime.
but anyways, y'know Elba, you guys were together for almost 3 years. And if the most he is willing to do is break up with you via text message, it shows you how much of a douche he is. Not worth it.

butt y.. hee breakk upp via text..?

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

I know it may be hard not to think about him but just think that you could do so much better with out his stupid ass. I mean now you have all this time on your hands and you can spend it on making your self happy and not just him. Now is your time to reflect on the past and move on with your future. Start something new and get into it. Enjoy yourself.

[Luna5]

I don't go back to them anymore because I don't like them anymore and they aren't good for anything. LOL!

[Melissa]

lol at seon ho. guy might have a good body, but his face is like a pepperoni pizza. so i guess his good body over compensates that?

problem solved.

[shoryuken]

uhh stopp spamm...

[Tung]

elba - no dick is ever worth that.

[Elba]

I can't believe this is it. I haven't come to that realization, yet. When it hits me, it's going to hit me hard. I'm doing quite well, though. I guess I knew it was coming.

[Tung]

So how many days have it been so far? 3-4 days now? Is that the longest you two "broken up"?

[Elba]

It's been only um... two days? Oh no, three. Since Wednesday. It isn't the longest, yet; but it is the longest I have gone with no contact whatsoever. Although we texted a little yesterday, it was just for me to get my memory card back. Usually, I am texting him after break ups, or we decide to have a talk... but this time, I told myself I wouldn't beg for him back. So, I haven't tried to contact him, and he hasn't tried to contact me. I know he wont try to talk to me unless I try first. But I'm done trying.

[Tung]

So I guess, the reason why you two always seem to get back together, is because you are the usually the agressor after a "breakup" is that right?

And this time, you haven't tried, so I guess he's probably not doing anything, and maybe just waiting for you to come back to him like you always do.

[Elba]

Yeah. I never want to break up. He always wants to break up. I am always the one wanting to get back together and he is always the one giving me second chances. He is always the one saying he isn't happy. I was quite happy, regardless of the occasional fighting, until he just recently really started treating me like shit and making me miserable.

I have no idea if he's waiting for me to crawl back to him, or if he's happy that I finally left him alone. I'm leaning towards the latter.

[Tung]

Well, I think you probably still love him. But even so, I think it's really best if you finally end it this time, and try your hardest not to get back together no matter how hard it is.

I mean if this has been going on for a while now, the on and off thing, it won't be healthy in the long run imo. There's obviously alot of problems in the relationship (which seem to never got resolved for so long now) and it won't do any of you guys any good getting back together again.

However, I do think if this might be the last time you think, then I think the two of you may need one final talk to agree that this is finally over. If not, then you are just leaving the possibility of a reunion if nothing is said. You guys have to set the matter straight. You don't have to do it soon, but just in the near future say 1-2 weeks.

[marielamuneka]

I just ignore his calls and let him realize what hes missing. I try to move on but when you love someone its hard, so if you love that someone you broke up with chances are you'd go back if its worth it..

[Elba]

Grr, I feel like texting him.

[DoubleJ]

Gah I go through this every night, it is definitely no fun.

[Flaunted]

However, I do think if this might be the last time you think, then I think the two of you may need one final talk to agree that this is finally over. If not, then you are just leaving the possibility of a reunion if nothing is said. You guys have to set the matter straight. You don't have to do it soon, but just in the near future say 1-2 weeks.

I agree totally, I think you should discuss with him that this will be a clean breakup instead of thinking if he's just waiting for you to come crawling back. Other then that I suggest just following everyone elses advice as to leaving him behind and move on.

You can do it :)
Good luck with this!

[misoshiru]

Grr, I feel like texting him.

DON'T DO IT.

[Elba]

I miss him A LOT A LOT A LOT.

[misoshiru]

have sex with me instead.






jaykay. can't cheat on christina...anymore

[Elba]

rofl.

[Rachel]

I miss him A LOT A LOT A LOT.

Just think of all the bullshit this "man" (if you can call him that) has put you through. He doesn't deserve your tears, your love, your missing him...

[Luna5]

I'm sorry to be rude. But don't be so pathetic for this a-hole. It's not worth the effort. I haven't been like this for any ex. Not even my ex husband.

[misoshiru]

^ yeah, cuz saying that to someone who's just broken up with their boyfriend of almost 3 years totally helps.

[Melissa]

^ yeah, cuz saying that to someone who's just broken up with their boyfriend of almost 3 years totally helps.

[Luna5]

Ok whatever.. That's just how I feel about men. I mean you'll get over it eventually. You just have to go out there again and find someone else.

[misoshiru]

well, if you don't have anything helpful to say, might as well not say anything at all.

[Elba]

I have been keeping myself really busy the last few days. Saturday, I was at my cousin's bridal shower all day; Sunday, I was with Christina most of the day; Monday, I was in Los Angeles all day. Today, I didn't go to school, so all I could do was think of him (I texted him by like 8:30 in the morning).

Don't worry, I wasn't begging for him back. I just wanted to see what was up. I can understand why I am being told to forget about him already and not give him the time or day (I'm telling myself the same thing). However, it's pretty hard because, like Yanlin mentioned, I've been with him for three years. I can't stop loving him over night, or be happy with cutting him out of my life completely.

Anyway, at this point, we're going to remain friends. This is good for me because there will be no more fighting like there was when we were together, and I wont be sad because I haven't talked to him.

I think I can slowly move on from there.

[EddieV]

Kill em. Simple enough.

[EddieV]

Kill em. Simple enough.

[Elba]

No D:

[EddieV]

or have someone else do it for you.

[Tung]

Yeah, see. Just keep yourself occupy with other things. Be active, so you don't think about him too much.

[Smilessss]

you should be strong *n.n* and not to be weak even though its hard for you to not get back with him... has had happen to me... i gone through alot of drama shiit.... lol yeah not good but haha im past all that and living on a fun happy life (":

[Elba]

Am I stupid for still wanting to get back with him?

I need to re-read this topic again... and again... and again.

[stephinika]

Elbaaaa, don't do it! You can hold back, I know you can! Remember, you deserve so much better! Just look at everything he's already put you through. You KNOW you can do better.

[Luna5]

well, if you don't have anything helpful to say, might as well not say anything at all.

Like you are...

[misoshiru]

oh yeah. because I'm calling someone who's just broken up with her boyfriend "pathetic" for missing him. So I might not be giving her advice in every single thing I post in this thread for getting over him, because many people have done so already, but at least I'm supporting her.

[Teesa]

elba, you're being so strong!
i'm really happy that you haven't asked him for another try at the relationship. if you have that urge again-like most people have already said, just think about all the bad things he's done to you in the last few years and think if it's truly worth it for you to go through that again.
and it's really great that you're occupying yourself with fun things, and not making yourself miserable over this :)

[hypnotique]

Tis might sound really f**king retarded but after I broke it off with my ex I signed up for some yoga classes and It kept my mind off things and helped me relaxand sure enough I found someone that i had 10 times more fun with and much more in common.