I need help once again... Options

[Edwinbarkhordari...]

Ok, as you guys remember I posted a topic a couple weeks back about me smoking one cig and how I told my gf that I don't smoke anymore n stuff. Well, after that incident she said that she doesn't trust me the same way she used to. She claims that she needs to create a barrier in which she can shelter herself from pain because she doesn't want me to hurt her again..however I have been trying so hard to prove to her that I do not smoke and that im telling the truth about things.

I really want her to trust me again..I have been trying so hard and I know she has noticed the changes that I have made, but it's still not enough for her..


Should I just give it some time and sooner or later she will trust me the same way? What do I do?

[synatribe]

Should I just give it some time and sooner or later she will trust me the same way?

I think its the best way out of the situation

[tokyo-rose]

You just have to wait for more time -- a lot more time -- to pass until she can trust you at almost the same level that she used to. I don't think it will ever be the same.

[illriginal]

Ok, as you guys remember I posted a topic a couple weeks back about me smoking one cig and how I told my gf that I don't smoke anymore n stuff. Well, after that incident she said that she doesn't trust me the same way she used to. She claims that she needs to create a barrier in which she can shelter herself from pain because she doesn't want me to hurt her again..however I have been trying so hard to prove to her that I do not smoke and that im telling the truth about things.

I really want her to trust me again..I have been trying so hard and I know she has noticed the changes that I have made, but it's still not enough for her..
Should I just give it some time and sooner or later she will trust me the same way? What do I do?

Move along... dump her. That'll destroy her "shield". lol
If someone doesn't trust you, then f**k em' step away from them and find someone who actually cares to trust you. f**k her immature selfish shield.

Now don't get me wrong, if you're a liar and you keep gettin caught in lies... then you're the moron and she should dump your ass.

[Melie]

ummm...if she's flipping about you just smoking a cigarette then i wonder how she would react if you did something far worse? hmmm...

to me, it sounds like there is something going on other than the smoke. it could be an excuse for her so that she can either be mad at you or distance herself from you. you might wanna talk to her about it but i doubt she will open up since she's a girl and all. we're good at bottling up emotions and then letting it build up until you "lie to me about smoking".

[shoryuken]

ummm...if she's flipping about you just smoking a cigarette then i wonder how she would react if you did something far worse? hmmm...

to me, it sounds like there is something going on other than the smoke. it could be an excuse for her so that she can either be mad at you or distance herself from you. you might wanna talk to her about it but i doubt she will open up since she's a girl and all. we're good at bottling up emotions and then letting it build up until you "lie to me about smoking".

not really... he liee 2 hur.. he say no mo smokee denn go smoke..

[Melie]

not really... he liee 2 hur.. he say no mo smokee denn go smoke..

ehh...still isn't a reason to flip out like she's doing. everyone knows it an addiction so if he smokes, it's not like he can do it so quick.

i'll admit, i've smoked for 11 years and now i'm picking it back up. so it's not easy to just drop something like that just because she said so. it's not like she's your mom and she needs to get over herself and realize that she needs to help you and be supportive. not be some stuck up wench that has to be all high and mighty about it.

[Edwinbarkhordari...]

There have been other issues of trust and stuff but most of the issues were very very minor things. I just want to know what I should do to regain the trust once again.

[Melie]

i think the best suggestion is to start being completely open with her about everything. your feelings, your thoughts, your views of things. if she's in the dark about all of those things then she'll come up with her own conclusions which will make things worse for you.

advice: women tend to over react about stuff if they dont get all of the info.

[illriginal]

i think the best suggestion is to start being completely open with her about everything. your feelings, your thoughts, your views of things. if she's in the dark about all of those things then she'll come up with her own conclusions which will make things worse for you.

advice: women tend to over react about stuff if they dont get all of the info.

Best advice for sure. Cuz it's damn true >.>