how will you know if it's true love? |
 Mar 9 2008, 11:53 PM
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 fo`shizzLe  Group: Member Posts: 43 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 422,719  |
a friend of mine asked this question and i just suddenly think and told her... "well, you can tell if you and your significant other love each other. i mean in a sense that you know that you love him and you also know that he loves you too." that's what i told her. but she asked me again, how can you tell if that person really loves you? and i told her, "it's a matter of trust to each other" and then she's like, okay i will accept that answer.
then couple of minutes passed, she replied and said, "there's this one guy i love. he knows that i love him and he tells me that he loves me too. but the problem is, i don't really feel that he loves me. do you think that's true love? i mean, how could you tell? if you asked about our relationship, well, it's a serious relationship but i feel there's something that doesnt make sense at all. i feel it's only one sided, though he said he loves me.. i still don't feel it. what should i do? how would i know?" that's what my friend asked me but i really have no clue of what to say. so for those people who read this, at least give my friend some advice. thanks a lot! |
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Mar 10 2008, 02:16 AM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
How old is your friend? I'm going to save me some time by assuming she is in high school. Save your friend some time by assuming she doesn't love him. Tell her he probably doesn't love her either. It's a one way street down Relationship Lane in high school, and the only inhabitant in that relationship is her.
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Mar 10 2008, 08:10 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
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Mar 10 2008, 08:15 AM
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 Hablamos Español. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
QUOTE(th5418 @ Mar 10 2008, 03:16 AM)  Save your friend some time by assuming she doesn't love him. Tell her he probably doesn't love her either. It's a one way street down Relationship Lane in high school, and the only inhabitant in that relationship is her. Umm, excuse me but are you implying that relationships in highschool don't work? because if so, then im sad to tell you your very wrong. I am so very surprised now that i am out of highschool, at how man people actually stay together throughout highschool and even after Graduation. You really shouldn't say something like that to her, because after all its her friend were talking about.  If she loves him great, if he says he loves her then maybe she should really stop questioning whether she loves him or he loves her and she should just enjoy each others company, and really not get ahead of herself. If it works, great if not then thats great too. They should take it day by day and not think so much about "ugh, he doesn't love meee, i don't feel it." because that's how a drama fueled relationship begins. 
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Mar 10 2008, 04:16 PM
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fo`shizzLe Group: Member Posts: 43 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 422,719 |
QUOTE(th5418 @ Mar 10 2008, 02:16 AM) How old is your friend? I'm going to save me some time by assuming she is in high school. Save your friend some time by assuming she doesn't love him. Tell her he probably doesn't love her either. It's a one way street down Relationship Lane in high school, and the only inhabitant in that relationship is her. well, my friend is in college right now. but the guy that she likes was her childhood friend... i hope that helps... |
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Mar 10 2008, 05:11 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
QUOTE(starmoonshore @ Mar 10 2008, 04:16 PM) well, my friend is in college right now. but the guy that she likes was her childhood friend... i hope that helps... Oof, easy then. Don't touch childhood friends into relationship area. |
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Mar 10 2008, 05:13 PM
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Hablamos Español. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
QUOTE(MeanBastard @ Mar 10 2008, 06:11 PM) Oof, easy then. Don't touch childhood friends into relationship area. why? ive seen a bunch of them get married, have babies and live happly ever after. 
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Mar 10 2008, 05:17 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
QUOTE(danceeNAKED @ Mar 10 2008, 05:13 PM) why? ive seen a bunch of them get married, have babies and live happly ever after. Oh, I've seen a lot of them crash and burn, losing a childhood friend. Just not worth the risk. |
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Mar 10 2008, 05:21 PM
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 wanderlust personified. Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797 |
My friend told me once that if he/she is willing to wipe your ass for you, then its true love.
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Mar 10 2008, 05:24 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
QUOTE(xquizit @ Mar 10 2008, 05:21 PM) My friend told me once that if he/she is willing to wipe your ass for you, then its true love.  My aunt did that for my uncle on their wedding day. He got too wasted to wipe his own ass. Too bad my aunt proceeded to use all my uncle's money in a casino and then proceeded to break up with him.
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Mar 10 2008, 06:22 PM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
Eh, true love is just so overrated these days. Who really knows what it means?
 If they've seen you when you were down (and up!) and was still there no matter how much you hurt them. They must be there for a reason.
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Mar 10 2008, 07:03 PM
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Aye, the downs and the ups - and waking up in the morning and still kissing you even though your morning breath smells and tastes like old eggs. Yay!
Time will tell, I suppose. |
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Mar 10 2008, 07:25 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 66 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 521,815 |
I don't think people should discriminate due to age. Age ain't nothing but a number. Well, that's a hard question. Because it's ambiguous. Love applies to people in different ways. Love is intangible, and cannot be proven. You cannot "do something" that proves you are in love. You simply have to feel it. It's abstract. I'm sorry but my definition probably does not help, but it's between two people. The world can't know.
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Mar 10 2008, 07:35 PM
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QUOTE(MeanBastard @ Mar 10 2008, 05:17 PM) Oh, I've seen a lot of them crash and burn, losing a childhood friend. Just not worth the risk. Not worth the risk? oh my god. So love isn't worth the risk? The first person you date may not be the one for you, you have to experiment though and see what you want and need in a relationship. Yes, most people will have failed relationships, but they're all learning processes. They're all necessary. Yeah and these days there are even some older couples that crash and burn, quite a lot actually. oh my god who would've thought that it's not just high schoolers!? To the person who started this...just tell your friend to trust him. thats all she can really do. |
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Mar 10 2008, 07:53 PM
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Like most of the people who replied to this thread...love has no true definition, it is not a defined line. In my opinion, it is when you can feel a certain vibe when you look into your gf/bfs eyes or face and when your significant other looks at you with such sincere eyes...I don't think anyone in this forum can help you realize that your in love, you will known your in love when the time comes.
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Mar 10 2008, 08:02 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
QUOTE(Becks539 @ Mar 10 2008, 07:35 PM) Not worth the risk? oh my god. So love isn't worth the risk? The first person you date may not be the one for you, you have to experiment though and see what you want and need in a relationship. Yes, most people will have failed relationships, but they're all learning processes. They're all necessary. Yeah and these days there are even some older couples that crash and burn, quite a lot actually. oh my god who would've thought that it's not just high schoolers!? What the f**k are you talking about? QUOTE Umm, excuse me but are you implying that relationships in highschool don't work? because if so, then im sad to tell you your very wrong. I am so very surprised now that i am out of highschool, at how man people actually stay together throughout highschool and even after Graduation. You really shouldn't say something like that to her, because after all its her friend were talking about. mellow.gif What the f**k are you talking about? I'm implying that most high school relationships end. The fact of the matter is, people in high school are still in a bubble. You only know so many people. When you go out and actually are in college and start working, the probability is extremely high that your curiosity for other will overtake you. |
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Mar 10 2008, 08:18 PM
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wanderlust personified. Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797 |
QUOTE(Edwinbarkhordarian @ Mar 10 2008, 08:53 PM) Like most of the people who replied to this thread...love has no true definition, it is not a defined line. In my opinion, it is when you can feel a certain vibe when you look into your gf/bfs eyes or face and when your significant other looks at you with such sincere eyes...I don't think anyone in this forum can help you realize that your in love, you will known your in love when the time comes. wow, thats so cheesy. i stick by my post. |
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Mar 10 2008, 08:31 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
QUOTE(xquizit @ Mar 10 2008, 08:18 PM) wow, thats so cheesy. i stick by my post. Will you let me wipe your butt |
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Mar 10 2008, 08:43 PM
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wanderlust personified. Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797 |
QUOTE(MeanBastard @ Mar 10 2008, 09:31 PM) Will you let me wipe your butt it isnt true love, my friend. |
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Mar 10 2008, 09:38 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
^^ how does taking a shit and wiping someones ass correlate with love?
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Mar 23 2008, 10:12 PM
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wanderlust personified. Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797 |
QUOTE(Edwinbarkhordarian @ Mar 10 2008, 10:38 PM) ^^ how does taking a shit and wiping someones ass correlate with love? i guess you haven't been in love edwin. |
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Mar 23 2008, 10:23 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
QUOTE(xquizit @ Mar 23 2008, 10:12 PM) i guess you haven't been in love edwin. I have, that's why I wanted to wipe your butt. But no more. No more. |
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Mar 27 2008, 12:20 PM
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 Melieized Group: Official Designer Posts: 1,372 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 478,715 |
true love isn't defined by something they do or that you do. it's one of those things that your heart will definitely know before your mind does. but true love is never having to ask if they love you or if they are in love with you because you already know and they know it too.
don't rush true love or force it or else you'll get hurt. |
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Mar 27 2008, 12:25 PM
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 <(^_^<) DANCE!(>^_^)> Group: Official Member Posts: 1,304 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 586,621 |
QUOTE(Melie @ Mar 27 2008, 01:20 PM) ... but true love is never having to ask if they love you or if they are in love with you because you already know and they know it too. i agree with melie. true love isn't something you can simply define with words. its actions, feelings, & thoughts all mixed together that have no definition. you don't question it, and there's no need to wonder because if it's true, you know it and you feel it. |
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