best friends ex, should I? |
 Mar 9 2008, 02:09 PM
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My best friend is in a new relationship and I asked her if it would be okay if I pursued anything with her exboyfriend.
She said it was fine. They only dated for a month a year ago and now they're really great friends, so I feel like it's okay. But there's the rule of "never date a friends ex" so I'm scared. Especially 'cause when she gets in a bad mood she'll laugh and joke about getting back with him (even though she hated dating him, she was too mellow for his craziness). Should I pursue anything? I don't want to make her feel bad, but I really do like him. |
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Mar 9 2008, 02:16 PM
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 YUNJAESU<3 Group: Official Member Posts: 1,291 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 585,275 |
No! You never go out with your best friend's ex boyfriend. That's just a rule that everyone needs to follow in life. Especially your best friend's. I suggest that you don't try to pursue anything because deep down inside your best friend will feel a bit uncomfortable. Never get too close to your best friend's boyfriends in which you'll start having intimate feelings for them. So, no, don't pursue anything. It'll definitely hurt your friend's feelings even if she says it's fine.
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Mar 9 2008, 03:00 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
Don't. It's not worth it, especially since she's your BEST friend. The way she behaves when she's in a bad mood should be indicative enough of the fact that secretly, she really would mind if you dated her ex. You'll move on from him and find someone else.
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Mar 9 2008, 03:03 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
yes you should. he has a dick right? if you want sex, then be with him. her trash, is your treasure.
you get sloppy seconds |
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Mar 9 2008, 03:56 PM
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!~@*&+;$ Group: Member Posts: 1,033 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 579,371 |
the recycle program huh, yuck.
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Mar 9 2008, 04:49 PM
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GD. <3 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 1,222 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 198,566 |
depends how much you like him.
if its interest, its not worth it. |
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Mar 9 2008, 04:55 PM
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 Hablamos Español. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
QUOTE(superficial @ Mar 9 2008, 03:16 PM)  No! You never go out with your best friend's ex boyfriend. That's just a rule that everyone needs to follow in life. Especially your best friend's. STEP AWAY FROM THE EX. I REPEAT STEP AWAY FROM THE EX. no matter how many times she agrees and approves, and no matter how many other guys shes dated. Dont go there. TRUST me, thats just like common law. Specially if she's your bestie.  Deeeeeep down inside she might still have feelings for this guy and not know it, seeing you two together or finding out you two were fooling around might trigger emotions she didnt even know she had. trust me.in the end you'll do what you please but for your sake and the sake of your friendship... just dont.  QUOTE(tungmyBANANA @ Mar 9 2008, 04:03 PM) yes you should. he has a dick right? if you want sex, then be with him. her trash, is your treasure. He's crazy. Dont listen to him. 
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Mar 9 2008, 05:23 PM
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friends w/ benefits. suck his cock.
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Mar 9 2008, 07:15 PM
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 ^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
Depends.
How serious was their relationship? |
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Mar 9 2008, 07:16 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 631 Joined: Feb 2008 Member No: 619,081 |
QUOTE(Steven @ Mar 9 2008, 05:23 PM) friends w/ benefits. suck his cock. You never date your best friends ex. Ever. No matter what she says about her being "over" him, drama always happens. I wouldn't do it. |
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Mar 9 2008, 07:18 PM
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^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
QUOTE(carolannexbh @ Mar 9 2008, 06:16 PM) You never date your best friends ex. Ever. No matter what she says about her being "over" him, drama always happens. I wouldn't do it. That may be the case for high school kids. 
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Mar 9 2008, 07:57 PM
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 <3<3<3<3 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,177 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,779 |
I think it really depends on what type of person your bffl is and how serious the relationship was.
There was ths group of friends back in highschool who would.. like date eachother and pass each other around like soda drinks. They were completely cool with it too! So even if its the ultimate rule of never to date your bestfriend's ex, theres always ways to break it through loopholes. |
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Mar 9 2008, 08:05 PM
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 loved. knocked at my door. Group: Member Posts: 126 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 212,399 |
it's a rule for gurls. never. it always seems to break friendships or hearts.
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Mar 9 2008, 08:18 PM
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 ;) Group: Duplicate Posts: 2,374 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,760 |
If she only dated him for a month a year ago, then it doesn't seem like it was ever serious. What I think is bitchy is that she would joke about getting with him when she's feeling crabby.
I would go for it. There's no such thing as best friends, anyways. |
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Mar 9 2008, 08:25 PM
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loved. knocked at my door. Group: Member Posts: 126 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 212,399 |
i dated a guy for a month & then one of my friends went out with him & i told her she shouldn't...she didn't listen they dated...blah blah blah...& now they are apart..it was point less
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Mar 9 2008, 09:18 PM
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^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
QUOTE(heartquasm @ Mar 9 2008, 07:18 PM) I would go for it. There's no such thing as best friends, anyways. That says a lot about you. |
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Mar 10 2008, 02:32 AM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
Go for it. While you're at it, go out with your best friend's current boyfriend too. That'll set things aflame. While your at it, you should also go out with the following best friend's relations :
1. Father 2. Brother 3. Grandfather 4. Best guy friend 5. Step Brother 6. Step Father |
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Mar 13 2008, 07:00 PM
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;) Group: Duplicate Posts: 2,374 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,760 |
QUOTE(BrandonSaunders @ Mar 9 2008, 10:18 PM) That says a lot about you. Not really, except for the fact that I've had a so-called best friend stab me in the back and therefore don't care much for the entire idea of "best friend" anymore. If that's what you got from what I said, then yeah, I guess you're right and it says a lot about me. Besides that, why shouldn't she go for it? Liking and being with a guy isn't this whole idealistic thing with exact rules and clear-cut boundaries. Sure, you generally don't go after your friend's ex, but this guy was with her best friend for ONE MONTH. That's pretty minuscule. It's not like she can completely control what she feels towards this guy and it isn't like she didn't ASK her friend if it was okay. I think it's a pretty bitchy thing for her friend to keep holding on to whatever scrap of relationship she had with this guy to swing in front of her whenever she gets a bit pissy. It's like... okay, you guys tried, you guys didn't work out, it's been a year, it's about time to move on. |
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Mar 13 2008, 07:02 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,349 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 455,274 |
i see a thread being made by the thread author in the near future about how they got their ass kicked
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Mar 14 2008, 06:32 AM
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Yikes, I really would leave this one alone.
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Mar 14 2008, 10:37 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
everyone always says it's "fine". is it? no.
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Mar 19 2008, 07:41 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 5,166 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 585,858 |
QUOTE(ALittleUnknown @ Mar 9 2008, 03:09 PM) My best friend is in a new relationship and I asked her if it would be okay if I pursued anything with her exboyfriend. She said it was fine. They only dated for a month a year ago and now they're really great friends, so I feel like it's okay. But there's the rule of "never date a friends ex" so I'm scared. Especially 'cause when she gets in a bad mood she'll laugh and joke about getting back with him (even though she hated dating him, she was too mellow for his craziness). Should I pursue anything? I don't want to make her feel bad, but I really do like him. fuk ye u prursue.. but PIX plz.. |
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Mar 20 2008, 06:29 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 132 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 605,790 |
ahh, don't pursue anything.
it may have been a long time ago & she may have said it's fine, but i doubt it. her joking about getting back with him when she's in a bad mood is kinda weird. if you pursue something, she might joke around about you pursuing her ex. who knows?
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Mar 20 2008, 10:51 AM
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don't date the ex (even though you're probably going to anyway)
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Mar 20 2008, 03:14 PM
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 <-[RaWR]-> Group: Member Posts: 180 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,133 |
disaster waiting to happen
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Mar 21 2008, 09:22 PM
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 Marissaaaaa! Group: Member Posts: 188 Joined: Jan 2008 Member No: 612,652 |
She says she wont care.
go for it, I did. ha If it was only a month, it was really nothing. go for itttt |
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Mar 21 2008, 09:25 PM
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QUOTE(RissyMel @ Mar 21 2008, 07:22 PM) She says she wont care. go for it, I did. ha If it was only a month, it was really nothing. go for itttt someone got sloppy seconds. 
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Mar 21 2008, 09:52 PM
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Marissaaaaa! Group: Member Posts: 188 Joined: Jan 2008 Member No: 612,652 |
QUOTE(tungmyBANANA @ Mar 21 2008, 10:25 PM) someone got sloppy seconds. How would you determine if it really was sloppy seconds? |
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Mar 23 2008, 05:22 PM
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I wouldn`t. I would just find it too awkward.
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Mar 23 2008, 05:25 PM
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 creepy heather Group: Official Member Posts: 4,208 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,580 |
i went out with my friend's ex and now we are ex-friends. but it was worth it because we are still together and she was a bitch o.o. i imagine if you want to keep your friendship you might want to steer clear of him
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Mar 23 2008, 06:45 PM
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 Napple Hunter Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Mar 2008 Member No: 631,472 |
QUOTE(heartquasm @ Mar 13 2008, 06:00 PM) Besides that, why shouldn't she go for it? Liking and being with a guy isn't this whole idealistic thing with exact rules and clear-cut boundaries. Sure, you generally don't go after your friend's ex, but this guy was with her best friend for ONE MONTH. That's pretty minuscule. It's not like she can completely control what she feels towards this guy and it isn't like she didn't ASK her friend if it was okay. I think it's a pretty bitchy thing for her friend to keep holding on to whatever scrap of relationship she had with this guy to swing in front of her whenever she gets a bit pissy. It's like... okay, you guys tried, you guys didn't work out, it's been a year, it's about time to move on. I second that. Honestly, if your best friend has a boyfriend already, then she shouldn't care, espcially if she said she wouldn't care. I think everyone else is freaking out too much. But you really should only pursue him if you like him a lottish. Otherwise it's just a waste of time. |
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