"start slow", what does this mean to you? Options

[na-nancy]

okay,
so me and my my guyfriend decided to
"start slow"
for our relationship...
he means alot to me, he's the sweetest guy i've met out there.
it's indescribable..but..yeah..
and to us...
this means..."we start out as friends and move our way up"
is this term correct???
what do you think?

[Heathasm]

im guessing that yeah it does mean he wants to start out as friends and then build the relationship up from there

[DoubleJ]

Yes, it is the correct term.

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

to me "start slow" doesnt mean you begin as friends.
it just means not taking it too fast.
although i do think it is never a bad thing to be friends first (kind of).

[MissHygienic]

I've never heard that definition before. Starting slow, to me, means that you're not getting ready to have sex and start a completely sexually driven relationship.

[illriginal]

okay,
so me and my my guyfriend decided to
"start slow"
for our relationship...
he means alot to me, he's the sweetest guy i've met out there.
it's indescribable..but..yeah..
and to us...
this means..."we start out as friends and move our way up"
is this term correct???
what do you think?

In other words, don't rush into things because friendship is more important than a serious relationship, at least to him.

[SimplicityGirl]

sounds right. me and my bf took things slow too--we were unofficially dating for about half a year before I asked him out.
To me, that's just mean you don't get too sexual too fast too early.

[stephinika]

To me, starting slow is just taking things a day at a time and not getting too serious, too fast. Thats all. Emotionally and sexually.

[na-nancy]

okies.^ ^
so we are right then.
and yeah, i don't want to rush into things.
i don't want to regret much out of our relationship.
we've been friends for like a year already, and he asked me out, but we both decided to just take it slow.
^ ^

[Joss-eh-lime]

^thats cute. and its probably the best for your relationship

[TheWinterBones]

I think it's a little awkward that he actually told you this, rather than you just doing this to begin with.
Sounds like you two are nothing but friends, and he's not in the same place as you are.

But of course, if you're more than just "friendly" with this guy, than keep it as it is.
You don't need to go official.

[LoveToMySilas]

Well, I've heard of the phrase, "taking it slow". But I guess they mean the same thing. I always took it as not rushing into things.

[fameONE]

How can you move too fast if both parties in the relationship are moving at the same pace? You can't put a time table on love, you just have to roll with it. People can be in the same stagnant relationship for months, years even, and it won't improve. Its like a stalemate. Or you can meet someone who immediately causes that 4th of July fireworks display to light up your life and you'd give anything to make them happy. If you can do it, whatever it is, not referring to "it" as something sexual, the do it.

[na-nancy]

^thats cute. and its probably the best for your relationship

i know.
we say that too.
=)
wish us both luckk.

[31miracles]

well I started too slow
I liked a girl, and decided "hey, let's get to know her first"
I got to know this girl so well, better than she knew herself
hung out with her all the time
we became best friends and I don't see how it would be the same if we were in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship

hope you don't run into that problem =/

[illriginal]

How can you move too fast if both parties in the relationship are moving at the same pace? You can't put a time table on love, you just have to roll with it. People can be in the same stagnant relationship for months, years even, and it won't improve. Its like a stalemate. Or you can meet someone who immediately causes that 4th of July fireworks display to light up your life and you'd give anything to make them happy. If you can do it, whatever it is, not referring to "it" as something sexual, the do it.

Terms of physical action... also maybe he's not sure that he's in love... or likes her soo much to keep up with her pace.

I believe if you have a friendship... a strong one at that, all it takes is for you to sleep with each other and that friendship goes on a whole different level. May go sour.. or may be sweet as honey dew.


You gotta listen to Last Emperor... this thread makes me think about some of his tracks.

[na-nancy]

we still got a looooong way to go.