Crossing the Line. Options

[DeadlyKitten]

I've been in a relationship now for almost 2 years. Well, I'm for the most part, a down to earth girl, but there ARE things that guys have a need to do which seems very VERY stupid in my opinion. I don't have to worry about it with my relationship (because I’m hot, duh.) but most guys, when their in relationships, find a need to look at or watch porn. In my opinion, that’s a form of cheating. When you’re looking at naked women and having sexual thoughts towards them or pretty much about them, then you’re obviously not satisfied with your relationship and should end it. Porn, I think, is for single men and women. Much like strip clubs, the only people that should be in there are single men, single women, or the people that work there. If you’re a girlfriend and you have no problem with this, more power to you, but I think it’s discussing. Just thinking that my boyfriend could be jacking off to another woman sickens me. I’ll admit, when I watch movies with passionate love scenes, it’s a bit of a turn on, but unlike guys, I don’t think of the guy I’m watching, I think of the guy I’m with. Now I’m not saying all men do that because there are men that can see a sex scene and think of their girlfriends, which I find nothing wrong with, but when they start in visioning them self’s being with the naked woman on the TV, then that to me, is crossing the line.

I know most people think it’s dumb of me to think of men doing “things” to porno as cheating, but hear me out. Say you were dating a guy that you truly cared about. One day you go to his place to surprise him and you walk in on him and his lap top with his junk hanging out and nude women on the screen, wouldn’t that hurt you? I know men will be men because after all, they are more visual then spiritual, but when you’re in a relationship, the only person you should be thinking about, in any sexual or loving way, is the person your with. There’s always going to be temptation every where, I know that, but it takes a strong man to stay committed to one women. I just could never look at a guy and envision me doing things with him…At least while I’m in a relationship, I can't. Theres nothing wrong with finding other women attractive, Cause I know A LOT of women are, But its when men take it to the next step that bugs me.

Does anyone unserstand what I mean? and why I feel the way I do?

[brooklyneast05]

no, i think that's going a little far to call it "cheating". they're just watching something, it's fantasy, not real, and guys know it.

but most guys, when their in relationships, find a need to look at or watch porn.

wtf? where do you get that from. i don't think that's the case, i think it's the opposite.

[ArtofBreaking]

Porn is just a quick fix, it's not like he's wishing he's the guy in the video, dying to be with that woman. Porn is just a little extra stimulation when a guy/girl is in the mood, and just want to have their little fix. This does not apply to porn addicts.

You should just chillax. He's only watching a video, which is not cheating imo. However actually acting upon your urges is.

[queen]

well, some people believe in "emotional cheating", and your example is a form of that.

true, i would be offended (not in him watching porn persay but if he'll be thinking about another woman).

[Eww]

Agreed.

[icecreamisyummy]

i dont really consider it cheating, but i found out my ex bf was part of thsi adult dating site(AFF) and it was pretty much like porn. that bothered me. well what bother me was teh fact that he cold actually meet these ppl in person sicne they were locals.

[miyashu]

wow. i.. agree with you completely. i've been wondering about this too but didn't know how to say it coherently.

i think that a guy in a commited relationship should make his girl feel like she's the only special one in his life. and whackin off to other women is not the best way to do that! i would certainly feel hurt if i walked in on my boyfriend during a *fap fap fap* session to a nasty magazine.

I know men will be men because after all, they are more visual then spiritual, but when you’re in a relationship, the only person you should be thinking about, in any sexual or loving way, is the person your with.

THANK YOU. you stole my thoughts :D