what is a *break*? i was wondering..., guys...what are they really thinking? |
 Jun 23 2004, 06:03 AM
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I was wondering...When one person in a relationship asks for a *break* what does that mean to them? I mean for some it means that it's a little break and they'll get back together and for some it basically means a break-off. And I also noticed that mostly guys are the ones who think a *break* is a break-off...Because this has happened twice to me, when one of us wanted a break...they end up with another girl...???
     
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Jun 23 2004, 10:01 AM
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 unify and defeat... divide and crumble Group: Member Posts: 2,759 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,379 |
i'm sorry it had to happen to you twice, but i think it's stupid, a break is a break up....it's just a person trying to break it 2 u softly.... there's no such thing as a break from love, a break from emotions, or a break from a relationship
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Jun 23 2004, 12:27 PM
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 WUT THA DUCK? Group: Member Posts: 3,950 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,138 |
yehh... i had a break with one of my ex's.. my break was from him... i wanted to be alone for awhile... and i didnt go with another guy or anything.. neither did he.. we both stayed faithful.. but then again a break could mean meeting new ppl... like saying is there sum1 better than you? yehh exploring options
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Jun 23 2004, 12:36 PM
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 and then he died... Group: Member Posts: 338 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,047 |
i think for girls, we really think that itz just a break from each other so we can have some time to ourselves or we can fix whatever thatz going wrong.. but for guys, they automatically think a break is a break up...
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Jun 23 2004, 01:39 PM
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 Iams KILLS cats & dogs! Group: Member Posts: 31 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,157 |
to say it plain and simple- i think it means you guys don't do much communication during this "break", just so it'll allow the person who wanted this break... to "think" about whats been going on.
however, this doesn't mean a break up follows a break. after a break, it could either become a break up or just a temporary time out. you decide, goodluck! |
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Jun 23 2004, 04:33 PM
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 I HEART NICHOLAS TSE Group: Official Member Posts: 2,726 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,116 |
I'm on a break with my bf right now.. i just needed some time to myself. Explore other stuff.. and see if he's really the one for me.. usually when ppl call for a break.. i guess they're just tired of that person or maybe they want to see how well they do without them. Iono...
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Jun 23 2004, 05:29 PM
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 Dark Lord of McCandless Group: Member Posts: 2,226 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,761 |
It means they want to break your neck.
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Jun 23 2004, 06:04 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 143 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,918 |
for some guys it means that you are too close and he wants to go with another girl and then realize what he is missing and get back with you.
for other guys it just means they need time to think or they are getting too busy to deal with you and school. other guys just use that term to break up with you. |
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Jun 23 2004, 06:17 PM
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 wanderlust personified. Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797 |
For me it just means I need some time for myself away from the relationship... meaning that this "break" isn't permanent.
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Jun 23 2004, 06:56 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 24 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 631 |
QUOTE(BurstinStarzz @ Jun 23 2004, 6:04 PM) for some guys it means that you are too close and he wants to go with another girl and then realize what he is missing and get back with you. for other guys it just means they need time to think or they are getting too busy to deal with you and school. other guys just use that term to break up with you. Hmm, well the recent one said he wanted the break for school and all that..But he did end up with someone else. Thanks for the all the wonderful advice, sorry for posting that pic...Wow I have never been BASHED that badly...Well about this topic, I just really wanted to know what the guys thought. Because I heard from *friends* the show when ross and rachael took that *break* ross ended up with another girl...Yeah, I thought it was a lesson learned you know? But then with this recent ex I don't know, I guess I trusted him too much. I'll never do that again...Well hopefully not three times... I have another problem too...So I'll post another topic =X |
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Jun 23 2004, 07:23 PM
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 Kermit the frog = <3 Group: Member Posts: 2,315 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,215 |
my bf/current ex wanted a "break". but guess what?!.. he dumped me.
to every guy, it has a different meaning. |
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Jun 23 2004, 07:51 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 24 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 631 |
yeah, I guess you're right...some guys take it seriously...some don't...
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Jun 24 2004, 05:08 PM
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 i brake for hobbits Group: Member Posts: 105 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,766 |
im sorry, but when you tell a guy (or girl) that you want a break... they are immideatly going to think "AHHH S/HE DUMPED ME!!" and they are probably rite....its just an easier, yet more painful (for the opposite person) way to break up with someone
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Jun 24 2004, 05:12 PM
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im' edible Group: Member Posts: 1,529 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 23,022 |
a break usually means they need to recollect themselves and reflect on what has happened. its different for everyone.
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Jun 24 2004, 05:29 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 7,048 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,696 |
some guys dont like to say it out loud but they mean they're done for now and sometimes it means if its right for us then we'll be together again
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Jun 24 2004, 09:39 PM
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 ...Hm? Group: Member Posts: 250 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 910 |
QUOTE(mai_z @ Jun 23 2004, 10:01 AM) i'm sorry it had to happen to you twice, but i think it's stupid, a break is a break up....it's just a person trying to break it 2 u softly.... there's no such thing as a break from love, a break from emotions, or a break from a relationship i totally second that. |
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Jun 25 2004, 10:32 AM
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 dripping destruction Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,282 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,929 |
it means thier confused.
or they're pretending in order to try to not hurt your feelings. but, make the most o it. act like he broke up with you. if he finds he's sad without you, he'll come back if you haven't moved on. just be prepared for a fall, or for him comming back. yes, it's cruel. |
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Jun 25 2004, 10:46 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 192 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,692 |
well everyone has their own definition of a break, like to me... it means just spending a little time, or however long you need, away from each other... not dating other people,.. just some time apart. And then get back together
 Oh and sorry 
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Jul 3 2004, 02:57 PM
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 Cinamoneyes Group: Member Posts: 29 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,345 |
well.. i asked for a break with my current b/f and i didnt even know what it was until he asked if there was any chance of us getting back together. then i thought what the crap does it mean.. so basically breaing up.
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Jul 3 2004, 03:10 PM
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 tag! you're it! ;D Group: Member Posts: 555 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,572 |
QUOTE(DoOdOox3 @ Jun 23 2004, 12:36 PM) i think for girls, we really think that itz just a break from each other so we can have some time to ourselves or we can fix whatever thatz going wrong.. but for guys, they automatically think a break is a break up... i totaLLy second that . |
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Jul 3 2004, 04:30 PM
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 What the fack. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,164 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,519 |
From what I've seen, and experienced, I come up with the conclusion that yes, a break is what it implies and nothing more. But then again, it's another way of saying, "I just need some time alone to think some things through. I'm thinking of ending this relationship, but I'm not sure yet." Something like that. So..yeah.
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Jul 3 2004, 08:10 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
i always thought that a break is like a temporary break from each other and see how things work out, i had it once and we were faithful to each other and we couldnt hold it so we got "back together" in 2days
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Jul 3 2004, 08:26 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,531 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,624 |
a break isnt exactly a break up..even though i never had one, my close friend had one w/ her bf and all she wanted was some space to herself. the break only lasted a couple of days
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Jul 3 2004, 08:36 PM
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 Peter aka Peetah =) Group: Member Posts: 198 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,046 |
i figured it the hard way [with my first]... i was freaking out when my ex said "Let's not see each other for awhile... I need some time to think alone" ... I was so screwed... I had sleepless nights and shit... and once she was outta her break, I wasn't ok... so the relationship was practically the end after that "break"...
so break is temporary. it was just me freaking out and worrying.. and she didn't like that... lesson learned - pick urself up and try again
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Jul 6 2004, 02:03 PM
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iF i AiNT G0T Y0U.. Group: Member Posts: 32 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 26,014 |
QUOTE(DoOdOox3 @ Jun 23 2004, 12:36 PM) i think for girls, we really think that itz just a break from each other so we can have some time to ourselves or we can fix whatever thatz going wrong.. but for guys, they automatically think a break is a break up... that's what i'd mean if i said it. sometimes people just need time alone to work things out and think things thru.. not to break up. but to a lot of guys it does mean break up.
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Jul 6 2004, 02:24 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 286 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,508 |
a "break" does not necessarily mean that the relationship is over. person A just wants some time for him/herself to think things over, take care of their own responsibilities (pull up grades, take care of sick family member, etc.). It could also be a time for person A to reflect on his/her relationship with person B, and wonder if he/she still wants to continue the relationship.
A "break" can last anywhere from one day to a few months. oftentimes, "a break" does lead to a "break UP," but in a few cases, people do get back together, because person A realizes that things are just not the same (not as good) without person B there. |
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Jul 6 2004, 05:48 PM
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it means... have some time to urselves...
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Jul 6 2004, 08:40 PM
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 i`m in love & always will be Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 12,769 |
just a little alone time to figure some stuff out <--- thats what a break is for me.
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Jul 7 2004, 01:49 PM
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 Unlock the Darkness Group: Member Posts: 305 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,967 |
QUOTE(mai_z @ Jun 23 2004, 10:01 AM) i'm sorry it had to happen to you twice, but i think it's stupid, a break is a break up....it's just a person trying to break it 2 u softly.... there's no such thing as a break from love, a break from emotions, or a break from a relationship That's the way most of us guys take it. I mean. the first word in break-up is break, so our reaction is logical IMO |
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Jul 7 2004, 08:02 PM
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 s a r a h r o s e <3 Group: Member Posts: 575 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 12,944 |
to me a 'break' is a way a guy is trying to say- lets break up <for like good> but nicely- ya like that makes a difference
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Jul 7 2004, 09:42 PM
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 Behbi_Simplicity Group: Member Posts: 94 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,411 |
i think when the person say "let`s take a break" is.. they may need some time to think and when you`re around it may make things worse. or it could just be a way of saying "let`s break up" in a nice way
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Jul 7 2004, 10:58 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 851 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,718 |
usually break means time off alone for each other. but if the break lasts more than a week, i guess its a break-off. yea a nicer way of breaking up
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