Ever feel guilty?, i do Options

[pandamonium]

Ever feel so guilty about something?

I am the only child and I usually get what I want. but..

Today I went and bought myself a mac. It was kind of a present from my mom and dad since they didnt give me a present for christmas this year. I was going to save up for it, but every time i got another paycheck it went towards my savinsg or paying off bills. But last year my parents gave me like the biggest present of all which was a car.

When i left my house today, my aunt was like.. "Did you give him money to buy that?" and my mom said no, so that it seemed like i bought it myself with my money. When she really did buy it for me.

Now that everybody knows that I bought a mac today, i feel like everybody has had something bad to say about it. I feel so guilty because I have gotten so much from my parents... I really am grateful about all they have given me and I do thank them so much. But it just seems like I have gotten everything through my parents and for that I feel guilty...

[Joss-eh-lime]

feels like this could go in relationships?
hm...

yeah sometimes i feel guilty about asking for stuff, but i'll usually do something to earn it, so that feeling goes away.
& sometimes i feel like i don't deserve all my parents do for me, so that just motivates me to show them my gratitude more often.

[monster]

i feel bad when i masturbate.



oh, btw. shouldn't have bought a 1k+ piece of electronic. im sure you didnt need to buy it, you selfish jackass.

[dustbunny]

gotcha. that feeling can overwhelm me sometimes as well; i'm also an only child. money is actually tight for our family, but the thing is, most people can't tell. I'm enrolled in a private school, my parents drive spiffy cars, and we appear to have a good life. that's not the case, and at times I feel horrible that my dad is exchanging his life for literally, my future. He says his success and happiness is based off of mine, but sometimes that seems like bullshit. I feel as if I would never be able to repay my dad for what he's done, and it's difficult for me to accept that. The key thing though, is that you are completely aware of what is going on. You're not using your parents to get what you want, and you are in fact appreciative of what you are given, and that makes all the difference. I don't have a job yet, so although my "saved up" money is technically still from my parents, I know whether I buy them a gift, or show my appreciation in any other way, they will be extremely happy.

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

yeah, i feel guilty sometimes too when i ask for things, but i seriously NEVER ask for things.


sooo, i get over it.

[freeflow]

Being the only girl in the family, I tend to get what I want. So I know how you feel. Except for me, it's more of my friends noticing this rather than my family. When I buy stuff on my own people seem to be amazed I guess. But I think really you'll get over it. Especially since you're making your own money. It's hard to save money in my opinion. There is always something to buy or payoff (Especially around paycheck time). I would honestly suggest to stop thinking about it so much. As long as you are funding things on your own, and not being so dependent on them, I don't think there's a problem. I understand how you feel though.

[jaeman]

It's ironic how I used to nag my parents about giving me some money and when they did, I'd go, "Are you sure?"

[MissFits]

I don't feel bad when my mom does things for me. She is getting remarried sometime soon to some yuppie so she has a lot of money now. She gives my sisters everything they want all the time and I never get anything. When I do I feel like I deserve it because I have done a lot for my mom that I shouldn't have had to do.


But, before all that when we lived as a family we struggled a lot and I really did feel bad when I got things. I told my mom once, and she said that I won't feel bad anymore when I have a family of my own. So, maybe you need to have kids to understand why parents are so good to you?